christian_18097
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So last night was honestly a rollercoaster. I was out with my friend Richard. He’s tall, good-looking, very htn. When we got to the bar, I asked him to hand his ID first. The bouncer looks at it, asks if he’s mixed, and when richard says yeah, the bouncer goes: “Well you are a very handsome young man.”
Then I hand over my ID, and… nothing. No comment, no compliment, just silence. And dude, it hit me like a truck. I felt invisible standing right next to my friend, like the universe confirmed he’s the attractive one and I’m not. It actually pissed me off and made me feel small.
But here’s the twist As the night went on, we had a few drinks, made some TikToks, and in the club I ended up getting with this really beautiful girl. We kissed, danced, swapped phone numbers, and she even texted me the next morning wanting to meet up. Meanwhile, Richard didn’t pull anyone at all.
So now I’m stuck in my head. Why did the bouncer compliment him and not me? Why do random strangers seem to gas him up more? And yet, at the end of the night I was the one with the girl. It’s messing with my self-image because part of me still feels “less than,” even though I clearly had proof that I’m not.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you stop letting these random moments (like a bouncer’s comment) screw with your confidence when reality actually plays out differently?
Then I hand over my ID, and… nothing. No comment, no compliment, just silence. And dude, it hit me like a truck. I felt invisible standing right next to my friend, like the universe confirmed he’s the attractive one and I’m not. It actually pissed me off and made me feel small.
But here’s the twist As the night went on, we had a few drinks, made some TikToks, and in the club I ended up getting with this really beautiful girl. We kissed, danced, swapped phone numbers, and she even texted me the next morning wanting to meet up. Meanwhile, Richard didn’t pull anyone at all.
So now I’m stuck in my head. Why did the bouncer compliment him and not me? Why do random strangers seem to gas him up more? And yet, at the end of the night I was the one with the girl. It’s messing with my self-image because part of me still feels “less than,” even though I clearly had proof that I’m not.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you stop letting these random moments (like a bouncer’s comment) screw with your confidence when reality actually plays out differently?
