having a hard time getting over my gf’s past

[Gentleman Unknown]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

 

[59H390]

i would move on

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

i would move on

And why? Even if youve been together a year?

 

[59H390]

And why? Even if youve been together a year?

you said it yourself

you cant get over it

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

you said it yourself

you cant get over it

Do you personally think its something to care about? Cos shes a virgin but thats the one thing that bothers me

 

[InanimatePragmatist]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

And why? Even if youve been together a year?

Women have a strong will to lie about anything. What makes you sure she is only letting you on a small truth of a much larger one that gave just enough air; for her to spare some guilt. Time is ticking, most importantly. Yours.

 

[hazewtf]

she'll do it again

 

[InanimatePragmatist]

Do you personally think its something to care about? Cos shes a virgin but thats the one thing that bothers me

How do you know? You telling me you did not have sex within a whole year? I lost mine and my first to me within the second week.

 

[alphamale82]

you are deeply insecure
she is literally still a virgin (according to you)
you'd do the same thing if you werent so ugly

get over yourself

 

[MyExHatesMe]

imo, take it super slowly if you’re gonna look past it. the girl that led to me attempting on multiple occasions had a bad past and i chose to look past it, she was 14 and had sent arch pics to a couple of the popular guys in our grade and fucked some 15 year old indian kid lol. wasnt too worried about it since he had a micropenis but still caused me a lot of pain i could have avoided.

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

she'll do it again

What makes you sure?

Women have a strong will to lie about anything. What makes you sure she is only letting you on a small truth of a much larger one that gave just enough air; for her to spare some guilt. Time is ticking, most importantly. Yours.

so your saying shes done more than just that? She said she did it from 11-14 and she deeply regrets it

How do you know? You telling me you did not have sex within a whole year? I lost mine and my first to me within the second week.

i meant im her only body but were long distance anyways so i dont fuck often at all.

you are deeply insecure
she is literally still a virgin (according to you)
you'd do the same thing if you werent so ugly

get over yourself

I would send nudes to older dudes?

imo, take it super slowly if you’re gonna look past it. the girl that led to me attempting on multiple occasions had a bad past and i chose to look past it, she was 14 and had sent arch pics to a couple of the popular guys in our grade and fucked some 15 year old indian kid lol. wasnt too worried about it since he had a micropenis but still caused me a lot of pain i could have avoided.

Could you tell me more about your experience and what u learnt? I feel like i care about a girls past more than any man, idk why.

 

[alphamale82]

I would send nudes to older dudes?

are you fucking slow?

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

are you fucking slow?

Getting emotional over nothing, not real alpha male behaviour

 

[Molecular69]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

dude if you're the first guy she's done anything with, then why tf are u worried about some fucking nudes. Just be happy that you're her first relationship if that's even true.

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

dude if you're the first guy she's done anything with, then why tf are u worried about some fucking nudes. Just be happy that you're her first relationship if that's even true.

I do understand that its a pretty privileged position, but at the same time i feel like thats why i care so much about little things like sending nudes because it ruins my perception of her. Like imagine knowing your girls nudes are in another 10 mans phones

 

[swt]

i know how it feels nigga but trust me

unless she's gotten physical with another man it doesnt matter, nudes is nothing, youre not ever gonna find a girl who hasnt sent nudes before in this generation, they all have at some point

so it's best to let it go because in the end of the day its not that deep. but if she has gotten physical with other men before thats a different story, which doesnt seem to be the case for you so you're good. just relax

 

[swt]

also jfl you making an account on the forum just to ask about something like this, something i would do

i made an account on neets.net just to vent about my relationship LOL

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

i know how it feels nigga but trust me

unless she's gotten physical with another man it doesnt matter, nudes is nothing, youre not ever gonna find a girl who hasnt sent nudes before in this generation, they all have at some point

so it's best to let it go because in the end of the day its not that deep. but if she has gotten physical with other men before thats a different story, which doesnt seem to be the case for you so you're good. just relax

Thank you, i understand yeah it’s much better that i dont have to think about anyone who has gotten physical with her, cos im not only her first body but her first kiss. But i think the part that bothered me about nudes is just overall hoe behaviour, and i think it made me kinda insecure about how loyal she would be. But i see your point. Letting go is just hard, and i was wondering if im valid for feeling that way

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

also jfl you making an account on the forum just to ask about something like this, something i would do

i made an account on neets.net just to vent about my relationship LOL

Nah im here for much more this is just whats on my mind rn

 

[Molecular69]

I do understand that its a pretty privileged position, but at the same time i feel like thats why i care so much about little things like sending nudes because it ruins my perception of her. Like imagine knowing your girls nudes are in another 10 mans phones

its better than if she had been brutally railed by 10 black guys. Always see the positive, also you're never gonna know any of these people hopefully.

 

[swt]

Thank you, i understand yeah it’s much better that i dont have to think about anyone who has gotten physical with her, cos im not only her first body but her first kiss. But i think the part that bothered me about nudes is just overall hoe behaviour, and i think it made me kinda insecure about how loyal she would be. But i see your point. Letting go is just hard, and i was wondering if im valid for feeling that way

it'll take you a while to get over it but as long as you dont display your insecurity to her then you're good, girls get icked out over it

 

[swt]

Nah im here for much more this is just whats on my mind rn

i was just kidding brother

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

its better than if she had been brutally railed by 10 black guys. Always see the positive, also you're never gonna know any of these people hopefully.

thats one way to put it but yeah that actually helps

it'll take you a while to get over it but as long as you dont display your insecurity to her then you're good, girls get icked out over it

Yeah ive been on alert about seeming insecure so i try not to seem bothered about it, if i do ask about it ill usually just make jokes about it. Sometimes i wonder if im just better off not knowing some things.

 

[Molecular69]

thats one way to put it but yeah that actually helps

Yeah, sending nudes pretty much doesn't fucking matter, ik you want her to be exclusive to you, but when/if you break up with her, all the next women your gonna be in a relationship with, are probably not virgins, and their only gonna have more and more experience as you get older.

 

[Vantablack]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

look bro no one cares more about sexual history than me but in this case you need to chill. every girl has sent nudes before, at least she’s honest about it. if she’s a virgin don’t ruin it.

if it’s really fucking with you look into retroactive jealousy. i have it and i’ve fucked up with multiple good over it.

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

Yeah, sending nudes pretty much doesn't fucking matter, ik you want her to be exclusive to you, but when/if you break up with her, all the next women your gonna be in a relationship with, are probably not virgins, and their only gonna have more and more experience as you get older.

Yeah its the sad reality, dont get me wrong im grateful for this relationship cos shes very attractive and loving aswell, i dont know where i developed these high standards but honestly body count is the biggest turn off to me.

look bro no one cares more about sexual history than me but in this case you need to chill. every girl has sent nudes before, at least she’s honest about it. if she’s a virgin don’t ruin it.

if it’s really fucking with you look into retroactive jealousy. i have it and i’ve fucked up with multiple good over it.

I get most girls have sent nudes but have most sexted with multiple older men when they were young and also masturbated to these guys sending themselves back? id say thats the only part that really fucks with me. But yes i see the benefits a lot more clearly now. Sure she was young but i just dont know how these interactions went, like sexting and masturbating to random strangers online.

I’ll genuinely look into retroactive jealousy on youtube, im always willing to learn

 

[The Fool]

Why aren’t you detached to everything yet?

 

[Molecular69]

Yeah its the sad reality, dont get me wrong im grateful for this relationship cos shes very attractive and loving aswell, i dont know where i developed these high standards but honestly body count is the biggest turn off to me.


I get most girls have sent nudes but have most sexted with multiple older men when they were young and also masturbated to these guys sending themselves back? id say thats the only part that really fucks with me. But yes i see the benefits a lot more clearly now. Sure she was young but i just dont know how these interactions went, like sexting and masturbating to random strangers online.

I’ll genuinely look into retroactive jealousy on youtube, im always willing to learn

yo did she tell you that she masturbated to these mfs. That's a little more brutal tbh, but fuck it their jesters online who gives af.

 

[LDARGymmaxx]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

tales you dont have a gf

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

Are you ethnic

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

Why aren’t you detached to everything yet?

Wdym?

yo did she tell you that she masturbated to these mfs. That's a little more brutal tbh, but fuck it their jesters online who gives af.

yeah because im quite good at seeming detached and like i dont care and that way i get more information cos im curious. Basically she already sexts me and masturbates to me basically every time she does it( because were long distance), which is why she was probably more open to finally admitting it when i asked.

Are you ethnic

No how does that play any role

 

[The Fool]

Wdym?

yeah because im quite good at seeming detached and like i dont care and that way i get more information cos im curious. Basically she already sexts me and masturbates to me basically every time she does it( because were long distance), which is why she was probably more open to finally admitting it when i asked.

No how does that play any role

Just learn how to make a girl cum with, words, fibgers, tomgue, peepee, and use all of them to hit it right

 

[Molecular69]

Wdym?

yeah because im quite good at seeming detached and like i dont care and that way i get more information cos im curious. Basically she already sexts me and masturbates to me basically every time she does it( because were long distance), which is why she was probably more open to finally admitting it when i asked.

No how does that play any role

First of all these fuckers are jesters bro. Yeah ngl just stay in the relationship for a lil bit, see how it evolves, but like I get why you were worried about that now, like that's kinda fucking brutal in a way, but also fuck it we ball

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

Just learn how to make a girl cum with, words, fibgers, tomgue, peepee, and use all of them to hit it right

Dont worry brotha ive got that shit down, theres a reason she chose me specifically. Words are probably the biggest distinction.

First of all these fuckers are jesters bro. Yeah ngl just stay in the relationship for a lil bit, see how it evolves, but like I get why you were worried about that now, like that's kinda fucking brutal in a way, but also fuck it we ball

Yeah I probably shouldve explained the whole situation better. But what makes u think its brutal now? I am planning on staying in the relationship its just more about my mindset, thinking if i should detach my feelings because i know i can do that in an instant, im just tryna make the logical choice if i have enough reason to be guarded

 

[Molecular69]

The fact that she jerked off to these random strangers, is most definitely not a good thing. Now it's not really something to worry about because you're slaying, and she's still mostly innocent, and loyal, so don't worry too much, so yeah stay in that bitch

 

[CookiekingFAN]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

Those guys have her bodey but you have her heart


Okay LL JOKES ASIDE HOWD DID YOU FIND THAT OUT?

 

[Lefty Rankin]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

Let me help you.

The nudes aren't so bad, and if she's truly never been physical with anybody else you shouldn't throw her away because of the nudes. Just don't be naive though. That's all I'll say about that.

Don't worry about making her feel bad. You need to ask her questions to feel right about her and if she truly loves you she'll understand that and sit through your questioning to your satisfaction. If not then she's not worth being with whether she's sent nudes or not.

Get to the bottom of why she sent them. What was her thought process. It will be uncomfortable for both of you to get through that.

 

[Vazelrr]

Just slay and leave.

 

[Gentleman Unknown]

The fact that she jerked off to these random strangers, is most definitely not a good thing. Now it's not really something to worry about because you're slaying, and she's still mostly innocent, and loyal, so don't worry too much, so yeah stay in that bitch

Thats exactly what i thought, jerking off to random strangers online is hoe behaviour and it increases the chances of cheating in the future but yeah pros outweigh cons. I think imma just mentally detach myself.

Those guys have her bodey but you have her heart


Okay LL JOKES ASIDE HOWD DID YOU FIND THAT OUT?

Its a long story but it kinda came as a result of when we were sexting and she was sending nudes and made a joke about how she’s experienced thats why shes good at taking pics or some shit.

Tbh im shocked i havent gotten more cuck jokes cos this actually making things sound pretty bad. btw guys im not mentioning the amount of good things in our relationship, its honestly almost perfect except for this.

Let me help you.

The nudes aren't so bad, and if she's truly never been physical with anybody else you shouldn't throw her away because of the nudes. Just don't be naive though. That's all I'll say about that.

Don't worry about making her feel bad. You need to ask her questions to feel right about her and if she truly loves you she'll understand that and sit through your questioning to your satisfaction. If not then she's not worth being with whether she's sent nudes or not.

Get to the bottom of why she sent them. What was her thought process. It will be uncomfortable for both of you to get through that.

The not being naive bit is exactly whats eating away at me tho, its my own mind assuming the absolute worst possible things. Even if she loves me and is attached and attracted very clearly, its the thought that shes being dishonest and lying, id rather just have the harsh honest truth, its more about trust than the actual act itself. And ive already questioned her and she did sit through them all, she does make it clear she wants me, like shes been through a lot with her family who disagrees just so she can be with me. But what kind of questions do you mean that i should ask her? Because i asked about her thought process and she didnt answer very clearly it was simply just “validation” she claims basically she did it all for seeking validation. Which only hurts my heart even more

 

[Lefty Rankin]

Thats exactly what i thought, jerking off to random strangers online is hoe behaviour and it increases the chances of cheating in the future but yeah pros outweigh cons. I think imma just mentally detach myself.

Its a long story but it kinda came as a result of when we were sexting and she was sending nudes and made a joke about how she’s experienced thats why shes good at taking pics or some shit.

Tbh im shocked i havent gotten more cuck jokes cos this actually making things sound pretty bad. btw guys im not mentioning the amount of good things in our relationship, its honestly almost perfect except for this.

The not being naive bit is exactly whats eating away at me tho, its my own mind assuming the absolute worst possible things. Even if she loves me and is attached and attracted very clearly, its the thought that shes being dishonest and lying, id rather just have the harsh honest truth, its more about trust than the actual act itself. And ive already questioned her and she did sit through them all, she does make it clear she wants me, like shes been through a lot with her family who disagrees just so she can be with me. But what kind of questions do you mean that i should ask her? Because i asked about her thought process and she didnt answer very clearly it was simply just “validation” she claims basically she did it all for seeking validation. Which only hurts my heart even more

When was the first time she ever thought of sending nudes? Walk you through that.

That's what I mean about not to be naive. She tells you things when you question her but you say get answers weren't clear. That right there tells me something isn't right. That's my gut. And you know your gut is telling you something isn't right too.

I mean, are you really sure she's never had another dude's dick in her mouth before?

Whatever the case you can only ever really know a woman by her actions. She might say she wants something or feels a certain way, and believe it, but not really want it at all.

Something isn't right though. There's more she's not telling you.

 

[kana]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

It's 2025 ... it's damn near fucking impossible to find a woman that hasn't been run through ... join the club

 

[kana]

Let me help you.

The nudes aren't so bad, and if she's truly never been physical with anybody else you shouldn't throw her away because of the nudes. Just don't be naive though. That's all I'll say about that.

Don't worry about making her feel bad. You need to ask her questions to feel right about her and if she truly loves you she'll understand that and sit through your questioning to your satisfaction. If not then she's not worth being with whether she's sent nudes or not.

Get to the bottom of why she sent them. What was her thought process. It will be uncomfortable for both of you to get through that.

Nudes are whatever, every teen, both male and female, has sexted before for the most part ... If she truly has little to no past irl sexual experiences then ... you're fine man

 

[Lefty Rankin]

Nudes are whatever, every teen, both male and female, has sexted before for the most part ... If she truly has little to no past irl sexual experiences then ... you're fine man

I would personally never consider being with anyone who's sexted. I've never done it myself either.

 

[emogymmaxx]

hahahahah dnr cuck

 

[kana]

I would personally never consider being with anyone who's sexted. I've never done it myself either.

to be fair man you’re what in your late 30s? amongst teens nowadays it’s normalized

 

[Lefty Rankin]

to be fair man you’re what in your late 30s? amongst teens nowadays it’s normalized

It was popular among the types of girls I used to fuck with when I was single. I have had girls back then ask me to send mine then lied to them, saying I would if they'd send theirs first. I've never send a dick pick though and never would. Sometimes I'd laugh at them and say my dick's too small so I will never send it, always adding that they can feel free to continue to send though.

Little fucking whores. Why would I send you a picture of my dick? I'd smack a bitch till her eye socket ruptured for ever thinking I'd pull my dick out just to show her. Fucking whores.

 

[5'7" 3/4s]

It was popular among the types of girls I used to fuck with when I was single. I have had girls back then ask me to send mine then lied to them, saying I would if they'd send theirs first. I've never send a dick pick though and never would. Sometimes I'd laugh at them and say my dick's too small so I will never send it, always adding that they can feel free to continue to send though.

Little fucking whores. Why would I send you a picture of my dick? I'd smack a bitch till her eye socket ruptured for ever thinking I'd pull my dick out just to show her. Fucking whores.

Yup, when women send nudes it’s the biggest form of objectification. Why would I do that to myself, stupid foid?

 

[Nodesbitch]

so me and my girlfriend have been long distance for about a year now. i’m her first real relationship and the first guy she’s done anything physical with in person. we’re really close and i do love her but i found out she used to send nudes and sext with a bunch of guys before me. like not recently, just before we got together.

i know it was before me and she says she regrets it and that i’m different, but honestly it still messes with my head. i can’t help thinking about it sometimes and comparing myself even though i know it’s pointless. i don’t want to keep bringing it up or make her feel bad, but i also don’t know how to just “get over it.”

has anyone been through this before? how did you stop overthinking it or move on without ruining the relationship?

fakecel
@Jason Voorhees I hate these greys

 

[Lefty Rankin]

Yup, when women send nudes it’s the biggest form of objectification. Why would I do that to myself, stupid foid?

If I pull my dick out for a girl's viewing and she doesn't find somewhere to put it before I put it back then I have absolutely no interest in ever seeing her again. Now if she happens upon me when I'm skinny dipping and sees my ding-a-ling that's a different story. She's not obligated in that circumstance.

 

[Clav's Baseball Cup]

If she admits to that she's probably had about 50 cocks and a dog knot in her gtfo