HELP! How did you learn to socialize?

[Melnikomplex]

I was watching a YouTube video about a Korean girl vlogging her first day as an exchange student at school, and what made me turn the tv off is the fact that she made an entire group of friends of both genders within a day! I’ve been at my school for a year now (transferred junior year) and have only made like 2 friends, both of which I only awkwardly talk to and rarely talk to outside of class. In my previous school, I had the same thing. I could barely make friends with anyone, and the last time I ‘hung out’ with someone outside of school was in 8th grade. How can I learn to socialize better? What can I do right now or when the last school year starts to make more friends to hangout with? I’m willing to go to great lengths, even if it comes down to things like phenibut or other stimulants that can help lower my inhib. I also haven’t been formerly diagnosed with any mental illness but my parents suspect me of it ( brutal ).

 

[uglybrownskinman]

DNRD

 

[d1lurkaa]

I was watching a YouTube video about a Korean girl vlogging her first day as an exchange student at school, and what made me turn the tv off is the fact that she made an entire group of friends of both genders within a day! I’ve been at my school for a year now (transferred junior year) and have only made like 2 friends, both of which I only awkwardly talk to and rarely talk to outside of class. In my previous school, I had the same thing. I could barely make friends with anyone, and the last time I ‘hung out’ with someone outside of school was in 8th grade. How can I learn to socialize better? What can I do right now or when the last school year starts to make more friends to hangout with? I’m willing to go to great lengths, even if it comes down to things like phenibut or other stimulants that can help lower my inhib. I also haven’t been formerly diagnosed with any mental illness but my parents suspect me of it ( brutal ).

Uh I usually struggle socially when im doing degenerate stuff behind closed doors and I feel shame in public settings.

I dont really know what advice to tell you man maybe this is a sign for you to just embrace being lonely??

 

[Melnikomplex]

Uh I usually struggle socially when im doing degenerate stuff behind closed doors and I feel shame in public settings.

I dont really know what advice to tell you man maybe this is a sign for you to just embrace being lonely??

This sounds funny but would laying off the gooning help?

 

[d1lurkaa]

This sounds funny but would laying off the gooning help?

YES BRO YESS SERIOUSLY

 

[luuk]

I was watching a YouTube video about a Korean girl vlogging her first day as an exchange student at school, and what made me turn the tv off is the fact that she made an entire group of friends of both genders within a day! I’ve been at my school for a year now (transferred junior year) and have only made like 2 friends, both of which I only awkwardly talk to and rarely talk to outside of class. In my previous school, I had the same thing. I could barely make friends with anyone, and the last time I ‘hung out’ with someone outside of school was in 8th grade. How can I learn to socialize better? What can I do right now or when the last school year starts to make more friends to hangout with? I’m willing to go to great lengths, even if it comes down to things like phenibut or other stimulants that can help lower my inhib. I also haven’t been formerly diagnosed with any mental illness but my parents suspect me of it ( brutal ).

Through socialising
Examining
Practicing
Repeating

 

[avenox]

You sound homosexual. But you’re chill, dude.

 

[sillybilly]

I was watching a YouTube video about a Korean girl vlogging her first day as an exchange student at school, and what made me turn the tv off is the fact that she made an entire group of friends of both genders within a day! I’ve been at my school for a year now (transferred junior year) and have only made like 2 friends, both of which I only awkwardly talk to and rarely talk to outside of class. In my previous school, I had the same thing. I could barely make friends with anyone, and the last time I ‘hung out’ with someone outside of school was in 8th grade. How can I learn to socialize better? What can I do right now or when the last school year starts to make more friends to hangout with? I’m willing to go to great lengths, even if it comes down to things like phenibut or other stimulants that can help lower my inhib. I also haven’t been formerly diagnosed with any mental illness but my parents suspect me of it ( brutal ).

maybe ur so weird because u do shit like this

just an idea though

 

[jrown]

Through socialising
Examining
Practicing
Repeating

exactly this, find someone nice enough to be ur friend and cool enough that they jnteract w other ppl and js copy their personality till u make more friends

 

[thekidd8]

Yea bro like the other guy said stop gooning entirely

Second off my sisters like you. You guys are just too in your own heads to socialize. You think to yourself “what can I say to this person that will make them like me and want to be my friend” when that’s just complicating your thinking leading to the awkward interactions.

Get out of your head. Don’t talk to people to try and obtain friends. Talk to people because you want to talk to them. Even if you have to convince yourself you want to. Stop being a high inhib retard and don’t give a fuck.

When you talk to a girl and all you have on your mind is fucking her, it shows. When you talk to someone and all you have on your mind is convincing them to be your friend, it shows.

Talk to them because you are interested in them as a person. Make them feel like a person. Don’t interrogate them with hella questions, and when the conversation is falling, let it, you don’t have to keep the convo going forever.

 

[IronMike]

I went to pre-school

 

[Brava]

I relate to this hella. Like people suggest just to “socialize” like niggggaaa how we’re mid way through the year and like I relate to nobody in class. I think the best way to socialize is probably starting something new. For example school, new year = new classes = new people in the classes. The first couple of weeks in school are very important since that’s the best time to establish relationships. Unfortunately every year I’d fail at this. This applies to anything, clubs, sports, jobs, etc. new environment makes you less awkward introducing yourself. After that it’s over (unless you are hella NT and are super social )

 

[Brava]

Yea bro like the other guy said stop gooning entirely

Second off my sisters like you. You guys are just too in your own heads to socialize. You think to yourself “what can I say to this person that will make them like me and want to be my friend” when that’s just complicating your thinking leading to the awkward interactions.

Get out of your head. Don’t talk to people to try and obtain friends. Talk to people because you want to talk to them. Even if you have to convince yourself you want to. Stop being a high inhib retard and don’t give a fuck.

When you talk to a girl and all you have on your mind is fucking her, it shows. When you talk to someone and all you have on your mind is convincing them to be your friend, it shows.

Talk to them because you are interested in them as a person. Make them feel like a person. Don’t interrogate them with hella questions, and when the conversation is falling, let it, you don’t have to keep the convo going forever.

This and what I said I think will lock in your social life.

 

[Melnikomplex]

You sound homosexual. But you’re chill, dude.

Son I don’t care who I just need to crack before 20

 

[Melnikomplex]

This and what I said I think will lock in your social life.

Thanks for the reply I’ll try this out

 

[Melnikomplex]

maybe ur so weird because u do shit like this
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just an idea though

Tru I need to stop doing this shit

 

[Melnikomplex]

YES BRO YESS SERIOUSLY

Bro the longest I went w/o gooning is like 2 weeks but the urge just comes back I’ve installed and uninstalled twitter like 1000+ times idk how to go about this I literally do it anytime I get a slight urge even when my family is like right next door it’s weird asf

 

[UrFavSub5]

Just be confident bro

 

[d1lurkaa]

Bro the longest I went w/o gooning is like 2 weeks but the urge just comes back I’ve installed and uninstalled twitter like 1000+ times idk how to go about this I literally do it anytime I get a slight urge even when my family is like right next door it’s weird asf

You gotta figure it out idk bro. But my social anxiety left me after I fully stopped gooning for good.

 

[stonecold trucel]

just say fuck it