●○[Help]○●~Just Leveled Up My Looks, but My Social Skills Are in the gutter~

[TARAN]

Alright, boys, I need some help. I think i finally made it—fixed my looks, got the glow-up, and now I’m hovering around Chadlite territory. I catch girls looking, I get smiles, and for the first time in my life, I feel like I actually exist in the dating market.

But there’s a problem… I have the social skills of a Discord mod.

Like, I spent my entire adolescence glued to screens—video games, forums, anime, you name it. Now I’m out here in the real world, and I’m realizing that being good-looking is only half the battle. I open my mouth, and it’s either cringe, awkward silence, or me overthinking everything and saying nothing.

A girl will stare at me, and I’ll just stare back like a deer in headlights. I have zero idea how to flirt, start convos, or keep them interesting. And don’t even get me started on approaching—it feels like trying to defuse a bomb with sweaty hands.

Anyone else been through this? How do I level up my social skills to match my looks? I need that full Chad transformation.

 

[TARAN]

Bump

 

[TARAN]

@ryuken

 

[TARAN]

@ChadL1te

 

[TARAN]

@Chadeep

 

[HostSamurai]

It's over, sorry.

 

[nathan]

social skills are something that's supposed to be developed in your youth. you will always be behind. that being said there are some things you can do like social exposure for example

 

[TARAN]

social skills are something that's supposed to be developed in your youth. you will always be behind. that being said there are some things you can do like social exposure for example

I just turned 18
And in any social setting im awkward standing bro it's tough for me to maintain eye contact

 

[TARAN]

@Clavicular

 

[nathan]

I just turned 18
And in any social setting im awkward standing bro it's tough for me to maintain eye contact

social exposure. your going to be awkward. your going to fail but it's the only way to get better

 

[Wexilarious]

Over, I couldn't find any video in English at all like some pickup artist or streamer picking up girls in Omegle on stream (so that there is no "best moments" cut because they just cut out 99% of everything that is said JFL), if you saw this you would understand that everything you could say is better than them, but even they had sex!

 

[TARAN]

B

Over, I couldn't find any video in English at all like some pickup artist or streamer picking up girls in Omegle on stream (so that there is no "best moments" cut because they just cut out 99% of everything that is said JFL), if you saw this you would understand that everything you could say is better than them, but even they had sex!

Brutal

 

[fashioncel]

Stab yourself in the brain 79 times???

 

[AverageTevvezFan]

Slowly build yourself up. Ask a random old person for the time, or directions. Then a guy your age. Then a woman who’s a bit older than you. Then a woman your age. Baby steps. Make gradual progress, discuss the weather with them, ask them about their outfit, compliment something unique about them. Always start with old people, they are usually very receptive and happier for social interactions, they came from a more NT generation where talking to people on the street was normal instead of just having headphones in and scrolling. Do this until you are good at small talk. Small talk is a great crutch.

This doesn’t mean you should cold approach women though. Imo, never cold approach unless you’re in a drinking environment and the girl has given you ioi’s, and at that point its a warm approach anyway. If you want a LTR your best shot is joining clubs, going to local events like farmers markets, sports tournaments, etc. Its way easier if you have something in common and she has friends that know you, which will happen naturally if you’re in the same martial art class or book club or running group etc etc.

If you have a friend who is NT and comfortable talking to women, go on a night out with him and observe. See what he says, the tempo of the conversation, the body language, the tone, the escalation or lack thereof.

Alcohol is a good tool for you. Or other inhibition-lowering drugs you can get your hands on (pregab+baclofen, phenibut). I have countless foggy memories of acting more boldy and assertively with both men and women when I’d had too much to drink. I mean things I would never in a million years have the balls to do sober.

Good luck!

 

[TARAN]

Slowly build yourself up. Ask a random old person for the time, or directions. Then a guy your age. Then a woman who’s a bit older than you. Then a woman your age. Baby steps. Make gradual progress, discuss the weather with them, ask them about their outfit, compliment something unique about them. Always start with old people, they are usually very receptive and happier for social interactions, they came from a more NT generation where talking to people on the street was normal instead of just having headphones in and scrolling. Do this until you are good at small talk. Small talk is a great crutch.

This doesn’t mean you should cold approach women though. Imo, never cold approach unless you’re in a drinking environment and the girl has given you ioi’s, and at that point its a warm approach anyway. If you want a LTR your best shot is joining clubs, going to local events like farmers markets, sports tournaments, etc. Its way easier if you have something in common and she has friends that know you, which will happen naturally if you’re in the same martial art class or book club or running group etc etc.

If you have a friend who is NT and comfortable talking to women, go on a night out with him and observe. See what he says, the tempo of the conversation, the body language, the tone, the escalation or lack thereof.

Alcohol is a good tool for you. Or other inhibition-lowering drugs you can get your hands on (pregab+baclofen, phenibut). I have countless foggy memories of acting more boldy and assertively with both men and women when I’d had too much to drink. I mean things I would never in a million years have the balls to do sober.

Good luck!

Helpful
thanks

 

[ChadL1te]

Honestly I think exposure therapy is legit, as in exposing yourself to social situations will slowly make you naturally accustomed to them.

Unless you're legitimately autistic which I doubt, theres no reason why you wont be able to pick up on social cues. Also, try and remember being social isnt always even about being super talkative. I have friends in my group who are somewhat quiet but we still invite places.

Honestly a club could be a good place to start, its an unknown place for all the new members not just you.

 

[JeanneDArcAlter]

Alright, boys, I need some help. I think i finally made it—fixed my looks, got the glow-up, and now I’m hovering around Chadlite territory. I catch girls looking, I get smiles, and for the first time in my life, I feel like I actually exist in the dating market.

But there’s a problem… I have the social skills of a Discord mod.

Like, I spent my entire adolescence glued to screens—video games, forums, anime, you name it. Now I’m out here in the real world, and I’m realizing that being good-looking is only half the battle. I open my mouth, and it’s either cringe, awkward silence, or me overthinking everything and saying nothing.

A girl will stare at me, and I’ll just stare back like a deer in headlights. I have zero idea how to flirt, start convos, or keep them interesting. And don’t even get me started on approaching—it feels like trying to defuse a bomb with sweaty hands.

Anyone else been through this? How do I level up my social skills to match my looks? I need that full Chad transformation.

Nigga types like chatgpt