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I'm in possibly the worst situation ever here, so I've decided to come to the people who know the most about women. 
So the situation is. I'm speaking to a girl, and I have been for 2 months or so. It's got very deep, very quick, and we are most definitely looking at a relationship soon. However, I got told today that last Sunday she kissed a boy. The story I'm about to tell is what my friend told me (he got the information from another girl at the party). So she went to this party, and there was an absolute fucking subhuman eyesore going around trying to kiss every girl there. He went up to the girl I'm talking to, and she kissed him for around 30-45 seconds completely reciprocating. I then got told she was then happy but then started crying because he went round to every other girl at the party and tried to kiss them too, and her friend is agreeing with her.
So after I got told this gut-wrenching story, I messaged her and asked. I said his name, and she replied with 'huh', and I asked what happened. She then went on to tell me nothing happened and he was just being a creep. I kept on asking, and little things kept getting added. At first she said he pushed his face into hers until finally I got it out of her: they kissed.
Her complete story goes like this. He was going round trying to kiss every girl; he was talking to her, and then he kissed her with no consent. She said the kiss was about 5-6 seconds. She didn't go into much detail (I tried to get detail, but I didn't want to look like a cuck), but she then said after it happened she started crying and didn't know what to do. She then got him barred from the place the party was at, and she regretted kissing him so much. She also has an alibi in her friend who was with her.
So why would she not tell me straight away? Well, I made it clear to her early on in our talking stage that if anything were to ever happen, I'd unadd her and never speak to her again… and she said that I said this and she was afraid I wasn't going to hear her out.
My opinion on the story is he genuinely was going round trying to kiss every girl, and he got to the girl I'm talking to, and she struggles to say no (this is factual; I knew it was an issue before talking to her), and she would've kissed him for a little while but then pulled away and instantly regretted it. She also said to me how much she regrets it, and she blurted out that she 'loves me' on a voice note.
I'm now in 2 minds whether to keep talking to her because I do really like her, but is a kiss over the line? Don't get me wrong, I've not been flawless within the talking stage. I took my ex home from a club; she did pay me, and I tried to keep it purely transactional, but she ended up talking me into staying out for a couple of hours (NOTHING HAPPENED), and I've messaged, like, 1 other girl early on. But I don't know whether I should carry this on. My initial plan was to hold onto her for 8 months or so before I go to uni. Let me know what you guys think.
So the situation is. I'm speaking to a girl, and I have been for 2 months or so. It's got very deep, very quick, and we are most definitely looking at a relationship soon. However, I got told today that last Sunday she kissed a boy. The story I'm about to tell is what my friend told me (he got the information from another girl at the party). So she went to this party, and there was an absolute fucking subhuman eyesore going around trying to kiss every girl there. He went up to the girl I'm talking to, and she kissed him for around 30-45 seconds completely reciprocating. I then got told she was then happy but then started crying because he went round to every other girl at the party and tried to kiss them too, and her friend is agreeing with her.
So after I got told this gut-wrenching story, I messaged her and asked. I said his name, and she replied with 'huh', and I asked what happened. She then went on to tell me nothing happened and he was just being a creep. I kept on asking, and little things kept getting added. At first she said he pushed his face into hers until finally I got it out of her: they kissed.
Her complete story goes like this. He was going round trying to kiss every girl; he was talking to her, and then he kissed her with no consent. She said the kiss was about 5-6 seconds. She didn't go into much detail (I tried to get detail, but I didn't want to look like a cuck
), but she then said after it happened she started crying and didn't know what to do. She then got him barred from the place the party was at, and she regretted kissing him so much. She also has an alibi in her friend who was with her.So why would she not tell me straight away? Well, I made it clear to her early on in our talking stage that if anything were to ever happen, I'd unadd her and never speak to her again… and she said that I said this and she was afraid I wasn't going to hear her out.
My opinion on the story is he genuinely was going round trying to kiss every girl, and he got to the girl I'm talking to, and she struggles to say no (this is factual; I knew it was an issue before talking to her), and she would've kissed him for a little while but then pulled away and instantly regretted it. She also said to me how much she regrets it, and she blurted out that she 'loves me' on a voice note.
I'm now in 2 minds whether to keep talking to her because I do really like her, but is a kiss over the line? Don't get me wrong, I've not been flawless within the talking stage. I took my ex home from a club; she did pay me, and I tried to keep it purely transactional, but she ended up talking me into staying out for a couple of hours (NOTHING HAPPENED), and I've messaged, like, 1 other girl early on. But I don't know whether I should carry this on. My initial plan was to hold onto her for 8 months or so before I go to uni. Let me know what you guys think.
