how can i be a more successful life as a hermitish man?

[Youㅤ]

i am thinking of ideas for board games and such but impossible to have fun with one player

 

[Youㅤ]

the internet is a good cope but its so brainrot , yet then when i stop using internet i find my life becomes quite understimulating

 

[Deleted member 27371]

i am thinking of ideas for board games and such but impossible to have fun with one player

Define successful life. Money ? Sex ? Fun ? Contentment ?

 

[Youㅤ]

Define successful life. Money ? Sex ? Fun ? Contentment ?

fun, gaining IQ, mental health

 

[Deleted member 27371]

the internet is a good cope but its so brainrot , yet then when i stop using internet i find my life becomes quite understimulating

The internet is a very dangerous loophole that you can get stuck in if you are not careful because it gives the feeling of community but without the "real" benefits that truly come from a real life community, if that makes sense.

 

[NORDEN SLAVORUM]

Do crime

 

[Youㅤ]

The internet is a very dangerous loophole that you can get stuck in if you are not careful because it gives the feeling of community but without the "real" benefits that truly come from a real life community, if that makes sense.

yes exactly. at this point i havent talked to anyone irl in years and socially isolated from family

 

[Youㅤ]

Do crime

im not interested in crime. i dont like risks and stress. i just want to have an enjoyable life.

 

[NORDEN SLAVORUM]

im not interested in crime. i dont like risks and stress. i just want to have an enjoyable life.

Do/make drugs legally

 

[Monarchy]

i am thinking of ideas for board games and such but impossible to have fun with one player

I’ll play with you bhai

 

[Deleted member 27371]

fun, gaining IQ, mental health

Tbh biggest mental health tip I can give you is to take whatever positive things you can apply from this forum and the net that you can apply irl and then "run" from those places. The more you spend time online the worse you are gonna feel because you will constantly compare yourself, our brains have not adapted fast enough for this world wide connection to be mainly positive.

Tbh I'd just experiment with studying different subjects like quantum physics, esoteric buddhism and zen buddhism for abstract thinking. Engineering, chemistry and biology can also be good if you want to become a true polymath.

For fun I would suggest joining a sport that would benefit you irl while also giving you a community thus shooting two birds with one stone. I highly recommend finding a good MMA, Judo or Kickboxing gym and joining. Inb4 someone barks about head trauma or some shit, if you do martial arts 3-4x per week and don't spar hard like a retard all the time you'll be completely fine.

 

[Deleted member 27371]

yes exactly. at this point i havent talked to anyone irl in years and socially isolated from family

Tbh no matter how much this forum bashes normies the fact of the matter is that you cannot truly enjoy life to the maximum without a feeling of real community.
Yeah, don't be dependant on external sources of validation but shutting yourself from the world and acting like forums or the net are real life is beyond delusional.

 

[Youㅤ]

Tbh biggest mental health tip I can give you is to take whatever positive things you can apply from this forum and the net that you can apply irl and then "run" from those places. The more you spend time online the worse you are gonna feel because you will constantly compare yourself, our brains have not adapted fast enough for this world wide connection to be mainly positive.

Tbh I'd just experiment with studying different subjects like quantum physics, esoteric buddhism and zen buddhism for abstract thinking. Engineering, chemistry and biology can also be good if you want to become a true polymath.

For fun I would suggest joining a sport that would benefit you irl while also giving you a community thus shooting two birds with one stone. I highly recommend finding a good MMA, Judo or Kickboxing gym and joining. Inb4 someone barks about head trauma or some shit, if you do martial arts 3-4x per week and don't spar hard like a retard all the time you'll be completely fine.

your right about leaving these places. u get some perspective by joining them but after that staying plateaus its utility and u stagnate.

studying such topics definitely interests me. i must be more in depth with my studyinh

sport is good but its too social for me.

 

[Youㅤ]

Tbh no matter how much this forum bashes normies the fact of the matter is that you cannot truly enjoy life to the maximum without a feeling of real community.
Yeah, don't be dependant on external sources of validation but shutting yourself from the world and acting like forums or the net are real life is beyond delusional.

i wish i could relate with my parents more since i know them well. its possible, ive already improved my relationship with me. they dont get mad at me much nowadays.

 

[Deleted member 27371]

your right about leaving these places. u get some perspective by joining them but after that staying plateaus its utility and u stagnate.

studying such topics definitely interests me. i must be more in depth with my studyinh

sport is good but its too social for me.

No such thing as too social bro. Give it a try !

 

[Deleted member 27371]

i wish i could relate with my parents more since i know them well. its possible, ive already improved my relationship with me. they dont get mad at me much nowadays.

The thing a lot of people don't understand about NT relations are that you don't need to like the person to a degree you share your deepest thoughts and opinions with them or stay with them 24/7. A big part of NT relations is just being there for one another in times of hardship and helping each other for the sake of community stability. Yeah, it sounds a bit dissapointing because we are painted this romanticized picture of it but I personally found that it's worth it in the long term and quite satisfying.

 

[Youㅤ]

No such thing as too social bro. Give it a try !

i did wrestling in high school but it didnt go well. i never felt close to them, not that they necessarily disliked me, but that i could see they saw me as an outsider, and also i was inferior competitively which made me feel bad, but then something bad happened and i got kicked off, then they didnt talk to me again

that was the only group ive been part of. but id say i was more social in elementary school, i hanged out with some of the "weird" kids. but we stopped hanging out after that. i wish i could go back to then.

 

[Youㅤ]

The thing a lot of people don't understand about NT relations are that you don't need to like the person to a degree you share your deepest thoughts and opinions with them or stay with them 24/7. A big part of NT relations is just being there for one another in times of hardship and helping each other for the sake of community stability. Yeah, it sounds a bit dissapointing because we are painted this romanticized picture of it but I personally found that it's worth it in the long term and quite satisfying.

makes sense. thing is, if i made friends with someone, they would be my best friend (since they are my only friend). however, i might be their worst friend.

i wish i was not so awkward. people treat me like im an autistic kid. so i give up trying to act NT, cuz i think "who cares?". all goes back to my looks. cant act tough when im a manlet who weighs 120 lbs. ans fmeales say i look gay to make it worse.

 

[Youㅤ]

i see i could make friends but perhaps i dont feel worthy. i had a friend from elementary school but idk if i should try to reconnect. my mom might have his info. but also hes gay i believe, which is awkward.

and also when i tried to make friends in middle school they all seemed to grow to despise me. i got carried away on things, or i neglected them.

 

[Youㅤ]

also im narcissistic in that i mainly care about my own benefit. i cant do small talk without being annoyed

 

[Deleted member 27371]

i did wrestling in high school but it didnt go well. i never felt close to them, not that they necessarily disliked me, but that i could see they saw me as an outsider, and also i was inferior competitively which made me feel bad, but then something bad happened and i got kicked off, then they didnt talk to me again

that was the only group ive been part of. but id say i was more social in elementary school, i hanged out with some of the "weird" kids. but we stopped hanging out after that. i wish i could go back to then.

No reason to look behind, bub. All we can do and control lies in the present moment.

You spoke in a recent thread about just being energetically bluepilled makes other drawn to you and I think you are right but in this case you forget yourself.

If you identify yourself with the loner "weird" guy you will automatically push out vibrations of being said guy. Yes, it's not easy to change your self image but I have found it is worth it, we are always told through the media that we are not good enough and never will be but the truth to happiness is not to try to be what others regard as the best or ideal but to build yourself into something YOU could find ideal.

"An old alchemist told the younger one: If you do your work diligently unknown friends will come to aid you"- paraphrased from Carl Jung

I also found, hilariously as it might seem, that we often as children knew better what was ideal to OUR soul than what society brainwashes us to believe afterwards.

 

[Youㅤ]

No reason to look behind, bub. All we can do and control lies in the present moment.

You spoke in a recent thread about just being energetically bluepilled makes other drawn to you and I think you are right but in this case you forget yourself.

If you identify yourself with the loner "weird" guy you will automatically push out vibrations of being said guy. Yes, it's not easy to change your self image but I have found it is worth it, we are always told through the media that we are not good enough and never will be but the truth to happiness is not to try to be what others regard as the best or ideal but to build yourself into something YOU could find ideal.

"An old alchemist told the younger one: If you do your work diligently unknown friends will come to aid you"- paraphrased from Carl Jung

I also found, hilariously as it might seem, that we often as children knew better what was ideal to OUR soul than what society brainwashes us to believe afterwards.

i feel good about myself image as long as i am alone or online. but in relation to normies, i do not enjoy being seen as a weirdo midget. seems like hermitmaxxing is the best cope for my mental health. i can avoid feeling bad emotions thru isolation, but also good emotions are low.

im not sure how to act. i could try act NT, but that seems dumb, as i dont look up to NTness. i could try to act cool (cool as in my view of cool) but then id probably annoy people.

i agree 100% with the last idea u said

 

[Deleted member 27371]

makes sense. thing is, if i made friends with someone, they would be my best friend (since they are my only friend). however, i might be their worst friend.

i wish i was not so awkward. people treat me like im an autistic kid. so i give up trying to act NT, cuz i think "who cares?". all goes back to my looks. cant act tough when im a manlet who weighs 120 lbs. ans fmeales say i look gay to make it worse.

I know what you mean, for a long time I struggled with loneliness and putting others on the pedestal as well. The trick to beating this is making the loneliness your friend, start enjoying being alone from a genuine perspective and you will find that when others come into your life you will be able to befriend them withoug putting them on a pedestal.

"Don't waste your time chasing butterflies, build a beautiful garden and the butterflies will come on their own"- Brazilian poet.

It's not about acting though or being big when it comes to human relations, yes those things definetely help in some aspects and nobody can say otherwise. The advice that I would give you from my perspective (especially since I noticed you also take an interest in esotericism) is to just make your insecurities into your strenghts. If you are a short scrawny guy just max out your nerd appeal by wearing dark academia tier clothes, getting perfect skin and hair and improving the face (if possible and young enough). If girls call you gay it's probably because you have feminine facial features (which isn't a downside).

 

[Deleted member 27371]

i feel good about myself image as long as i am alone or online. but in relation to normies, i do not enjoy being seen as a weirdo midget. seems like hermitmaxxing is the best cope for my mental health. i can avoid feeling bad emotions thru isolation, but also good emotions are low.

im not sure how to act. i could try act NT, but that seems dumb, as i dont look up to NTness. i could try to act cool (cool as in my view of cool) but then id probably annoy people.

i agree 100% with the last idea u said

Honestly dude at some point you just gotta say fuck it and roll with the punches. Some people will dislike you wether you try to act normie or not so fuck them. Just remember you have to fit your own standards and not their standards, if you are your true authentic self for enough time you will inevitably at some point attract equally "weird" friends with whom you can hang out with.

This happened to me, my two best friends have very similar hobbies and interests as mine and I can basically act around them as I do on .org

 

[Youㅤ]

Honestly dude at some point you just gotta say fuck it and roll with the punches. Some people will dislike you wether you try to act normie or not so fuck them. Just remember you have to fit your own standards and not their standards, if you are your true authentic self for enough time you will inevitably at some point attract equally "weird" friends with whom you can hang out with.

This happened to me, my two best friends have very similar hobbies and interests as mine and I can basically act around them as I do on .org

if i socialmax ill screw NTmaxxing and nerdmax instead

i can get along with nerds. i think in the past i was too immature but now i am quite different so it might work out better.

 

[Tabula Rasa]

What are your biggest problems you're facing rn?

 

[Youㅤ]

What are your biggest problems you're facing rn?

uneventful life. wake up, do college work, read stuff that interests me, go on a walk, sleep, repeat