how do i fix my mind knowing that my ex cheated on me while i didnt know

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i’ve genuinely been getting crazy panic attacks every night for a week now, can’t even fucking sleep, i thought she was different and actually loved me she showed obsession but she was telling another man how she would be his 4th wife, how the fk do i get over this i might just fk kms or something i cant handle this pain, i hate her so much
 
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Over.
 
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Nothing gonna ease the pain besides revenge
 
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I think this is just something you will have to endure, and slowly it'll get better.
 
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i’ve genuinely been getting crazy panic attacks every night for a week now, can’t even fucking sleep, i thought she was different and actually loved me she showed obsession but she was telling another man how she would be his 4th wife, how the fk do i get over this i might just fk kms or something i cant handle this pain, i hate her so much

1. Would your life really end if she wasn't by your side?

2. If she cheats on you or has cheated on you, you're just getting rid of someone who doesn't really love you, so why prolong something that isn't real?

3. Nothing in this life lasts forever, not even yourself.

4. Love the person who will be with you for the rest of your life, that is, yourself. The more you take care of yourself, the more likely it is that people who are more worthwhile will come into your life, people who love you as you love yourself.

5. Respect yourself.
 
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Nothing gonna ease the pain besides revenge
What is revenge in this context??

I think this is just something you will have to endure, and slowly it'll get better.
Yeah i think so too but it feels like i wasted so much of my time; 3 years on a girl that cheated on me and now i have to endure another year or so for getting over it ://// i swear to god i hope none of you guys experience this, my mind is going crazy and my body aswell. she did this without any guilt or regret.
 
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1. Would your life really end if she wasn't by your side?

2. If she cheats on you or has cheated on you, you're just getting rid of someone who doesn't really love you, so why prolong something that isn't real?

3. Nothing in this life lasts forever, not even yourself.

4. Love the person who will be with you for the rest of your life, that is, yourself. The more you take care of yourself, the more likely it is that people who are more worthwhile will come into your life, people who love you as you love yourself.

5. Respect yourself.
thank you so much for your kind words my friend,

i fully agree with you on everything :/ i hate having feelings i wish i was a psychopath or something
 
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What is revenge in this context??


Yeah i think so too but it feels like i wasted so much of my time; 3 years on a girl that cheated on me and now i have to endure another year or so for getting over it ://// i swear to god i hope none of you guys experience this, my mind is going crazy and my body aswell. she did this without any guilt or regret.
Revenge is making her feel emotional pain like u did
 
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thank you so much for your kind words my friend,

i fully agree with you on everything :/ i hate having feelings i wish i was a psychopath or something
Cry as much as you can, cry until you forget her. But then look toward tomorrow, as if she had never existed, look toward the future, look toward your happiness.
 
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Yeah i think so too but it feels like i wasted so much of my time; 3 years on a girl that cheated on me and now i have to endure another year or so for getting over it ://// i swear to god i hope none of you guys experience this, my mind is going crazy and my body aswell.
Wishing you all the best

she did this without any guilt or regret.
Women are evil.

What is revenge in this context??

It depends. Don't do anything stupid now, but maybe you have an easy way to fuck him/her over. Something of that sort.
 
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How do i do that?
U could beat the shit out of her new man, u could leak her nudes if u have any u could send her death threads of harass her online with bot accounts or anonymous accounts. U could scare the shit out of her by leaving mysterious letters or packages making it seem like a serial killer is out to get her.
 
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Revenge is making her feel emotional pain like u did
Nothing gonna ease the pain besides revenge
Revenge doesn't calm anything down, it just shows how much you value that person, how much dedication it would take to make someone who never cared about you suffer.

The best path for a person is to let the wounds heal over time, working on yourself. The best form of revenge is to become better, for yourself. And maybe even that person will see that you were worth it, but the feeling that you don't even care what they think is the real revenge, it's the unrestricted overcoming of failure.
 
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Revenge doesn't calm anything down, it just shows how much you value that person, how much dedication it would take to make someone who never cared about you suffer.

The best path for a person is to let the wounds heal over time, working on yourself. The best form of revenge is to become better, for yourself. And maybe even that person will see that you were worth it, but the feeling that you don't even care what they think is the real revenge, it's the unrestricted overcoming of failure.
I promise she’s not gonna care when she’s with the guy she cheated on him with, nobody with a lick of self confidence or value in themselves can be happy knowing they let that shit slide, revenge won’t make him feel good but it’ll ease the pain a bit.
 
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Revenge doesn't calm anything down, it just shows how much you value that person, how much dedication it would take to make someone who never cared about you suffer.

The best path for a person is to let the wounds heal over time, working on yourself. The best form of revenge is to become better, for yourself. And maybe even that person will see that you were worth it, but the feeling that you don't even care what they think is the real revenge, it's the unrestricted overcoming of failure.
Revenge is always, and I mean always, the better option, in my opinion. As long as you face no repercussions and it's fully legal, of course.
 
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Nothing gonna ease the pain besides revenge
facts i hate when religouscoper fags talk about some “live and let live” nigga u feel like shit because revenge is the only solution. that’s why every culture practiced an eye for an eye JFL
 
Revenge is always, and I mean always, the better option, in my opinion. As long as you face no repercussions and it's fully legal, of course.
No. It only brings regret. When you're older, and you carry the guilt of having done something stupid, it will eat away at you for the rest of your life.

Revenge is short-sighted. And it's the worst poison for the soul.
 
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Either ropemax or start praying. She's earned where she's heading.

Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted in the kingdom of heaven.
 
I promise she’s not gonna care when she’s with the guy she cheated on him with, nobody with a lick of self confidence or value in themselves can be happy knowing they let that shit slide, revenge won’t make him feel good but it’ll ease the pain a bit.
facts i hate when religouscoper fags talk about some “live and let live” nigga u feel like shit because revenge is the only solution. that’s why every culture practiced an eye for an eye JFL
I get the feeling that you are all young and haven't experienced much.

I'm 24, and I regret a lot of shit.

I was very mean to my partners. And to this day, I still carry the guilt, even though it's been five years.

I'm just saying, act for your own well-being, and take responsibility for who you are, not who others are.

Be smart.
 
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I get the feeling that you are all young and haven't experienced much.

I'm 24, and I regret a lot of shit.
i mean yeah im 17 so you’re right i guess but what advice would u give us then?
 
No. It only brings regret. When you're older, and you carry the guilt of having done something stupid, it will eat away at you for the rest of your life.
No, the opposite is true. When you're older you're going to think of all the times you let people disrespect you. You watch too many movies.

Revenge is short-sighted. And it's the worst poison for the soul.
What is this appeal to naivety doing here? Are you using ChatGPT for these answers? :KEKLaugh:

It's what led him to this position in the first place.

i wish i was a psychopath or something


Just food for thought.
 
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i mean yeah im 17 so you’re right i guess but what advice would u give us then?
Be responsible for yourself, including what you say and do.

If you make a mistake, apologize. If you are right, don't rub it in other peoples faces. Pay attention to your social connections, avoid people who distract you from your purpose or values.

Pay attention to what is good for you and, therefore, listen to your feelings.

The best way to solve problems is by talking. If the person doesn't care or doesn't take your feelings seriously, don't waste your time and stop talking to them.
 
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U could beat the shit out of her new man, u could leak her nudes if u have any u could send her death threads of harass her online with bot accounts or anonymous accounts. U could scare the shit out of her by leaving mysterious letters or packages making it seem like a serial killer is out to get her.
I get the feeling that you are all young and haven't experienced much.

I'm 24, and I regret a lot of shit.

I was very mean to my partners. And to this day, I still carry the guilt, even though it's been five years.

I'm just saying, act for your own well-being, and take responsibility for who you are, not who others are.

Be smart.
Revenge is always, and I mean always, the better option, in my opinion. As long as you face no repercussions and it's fully legal, of course.


Im gonna be honest, im only 20 so im kind of immature sometimes, i did think about leaking her nudes but i won’t, ill be the bigger person and actually learn from everything and heal to get through this journey while she messes around with rebounds trying to forget me, imagine how she will look when in a couple months im emotionally stable and doing better in all parts of what she didn’t better herself on. she’s just someone that doesn’t like being lonely and it will eat her away, her new bf already knows that she cheated on me 2 times and lied about stuff to him, i doubt they will stay long.
 
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I was very mean to my partners. And to this day, I still carry the guilt, even though it's been five years.
They don't care about you and ride another mans dick, and you feel bad for them? You should never feel bad for such petty things. If a woman cheats on a man it's absolutely justified to take action. You're a massive cuck.

Either ropemax or start praying. She's earned where she's heading.

Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted in the kingdom of heaven.
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No, the opposite is true. When you're older you're going to think of all the times you let people disrespect you. You watch too many movies.


What is this appeal to naivety doing here? Are you using ChatGPT for these answers? :KEKLaugh:

It's what led him to this position in the first place.




Just food for thought.
You're just a grey sybau. Probably addicted to TikTok, you saw some clip by Clav and joined the forum. You know nothing about life.
 
They don't care about you and ride another mans dick, and you feel bad for them? You should never feel bad for such petty things. If a woman cheats on a man it's absolutely justified to take action. You're a massive cuck.


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Why should I be responsible for someone else's actions?

Why the hell do you care so much about what some bitch does?

Your mind is so small that you focus on shit that isn't worth your time.
 
You're just a grey sybau. Probably addicted to TikTok, you saw some clip by Clav and joined the forum. You know nothing about life.
Nice rebuttal. This isn't my first account. I don't have any social media. Not even Instagram. Nothing. I can prove it easily to @kurd in PMs if he wishes.

Don't really see how my post count changes anything. It's 4x higher than yours on my accounts combined.
 
i’ve genuinely been getting crazy panic attacks every night for a week now, can’t even fucking sleep, i thought she was different and actually loved me she showed obsession but she was telling another man how she would be his 4th wife, how the fk do i get over this i might just fk kms or something i cant handle this pain, i hate her so much
You should probably idk pull an Elliot Rimjob and turn her into a statistic.

Only if you want to though. I’m not your dad :unsure:
 
i’ve genuinely been getting crazy panic attacks every night for a week now, can’t even fucking sleep, i thought she was different and actually loved me she showed obsession but she was telling another man how she would be his 4th wife, how the fk do i get over this i might just fk kms or something i cant handle this pain, i hate her so much
How is this possible, What's ur dick size (length and girth)
 
Im gonna be honest, im only 20 so im kind of immature sometimes, i did think about leaking her nudes but i won’t, ill be the bigger person and actually learn from everything and heal to get through this journey while she messes around with rebounds trying to forget me, imagine how she will look when in a couple months im emotionally stable and doing better in all parts of what she didn’t better herself on. she’s just someone that doesn’t like being lonely and it will eat her away, her new bf already knows that she cheated on me 2 times and lied about stuff to him, i doubt they will stay long.
I think that's right, but do it for yourself, not so she can see what you're like. I know it's difficult. But really, try to block her out completely. Over time, ignoring her will help you forget her or remember her less.
 
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Why should I be responsible for someone else's actions?
What are you even saying? If someone you trusted betrays you, you usually take action or at least consider it. And you don't "muhh I feel badz". If you interpret that as not being responsible for her cheating and therefore not having to do anything you're seriously fucked in the head. No offense.


Why the hell do you care so much about what some bitch does?
It's not just some bitch, it seems like she betrayed his trust and humiliated him. Don't you see the tone of his original post? How inconsiderate of you.
 
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Nice rebuttal. This isn't my first account. I don't have any social media. Not even Instagram. Nothing. I can prove it easily to @kurd in PMs if he wishes.

Don't really see how my post count changes anything. It's 4x higher than yours on my accounts combined.
Probably farming and posting crap.

My reputation is based on good advice and good contributions.

Listen to me, this is shitty advice. To someone who needs to stop feeling guilty, to someone who needs to move on and stop thinking about a person.

Besides, you're using an example from the Crusades. Are you really advising someone based on thinking from the 11th-13th centuries? There's a lot ahead, and better things.

In those centuries, people threw shit out of windows.

So, let me tell you, you're not setting a good example.
 
Im gonna be honest, im only 20 so im kind of immature sometimes, i did think about leaking her nudes but i won’t, ill be the bigger person and actually learn from everything and heal to get through this journey while she messes around with rebounds trying to forget me, imagine how she will look when in a couple months im emotionally stable and doing better in all parts of what she didn’t better herself on. she’s just someone that doesn’t like being lonely and it will eat her away, her new bf already knows that she cheated on me 2 times and lied about stuff to him, i doubt they will stay long.
Look, I'm just some random guy on a forum. But you asked a question here, so I think it's justified to give my point of view. Do with it as you please.

Her:

- She wasted years of your life, your prime

- She betrayed you, really bad imo

- She humiliated you (4th wife? Really??)


You:

- Leaked nudes in return

IF you want to leak her nudes, you don't need to feel any shame. It's totally justified. Just make sure you don't get problems with law enforcement etc.


Just my perspective, think this trough, don't do anything stupid without thinking.
 
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What are you even saying? If someone you trusted betrays you, you usually take action or at least consider it. And you don't "muhh I feel badz". If you interpret that as not being responsible for her cheating and therefore not having to do anything you're seriously fucked in the head. No offense.



It's not just some bitch, it seems like she betrayed his trust and humiliated him. Don't you see the tone of his original post? How inconsiderate of you.
Let's say someone I trust betrays me.

Why should I waste my time trying to explain something to them? To be with them? To educate them? To make them feel bad? Why and for what reason would I do that? What would I gain from it? Satisfaction, probably, perhaps in the short term. But would your mind really feel good in the long term?

Why give attention to someone or something that is no longer worth it?

Is the life of someone who disrespected or betrayed you so important to you?
 
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damn op im sorry to hear, were there any signs she was a psychopath before she cheated? in a ltr rn tryna take notes
 
Besides, you're using an example from the Crusades. Are you really advising someone based on thinking from the 11th-13th centuries? There's a lot ahead, and better things.

In those centuries, people threw shit out of windows.

So, let me tell you, you're not setting a good example.
I replied this to the Christian guy suggesting praying his problems away.
 
Let's say someone I trust betrays me.

Why should I waste my time trying to explain something to them? To be with them? To educate them? To make them feel bad? Why and for what reason would I do that? What would I gain from it? Satisfaction, probably, perhaps in the short term. But would your mind really feel good in the long term?
I never suggested this. I proposed that he might want to fuck her over a bit if he can do so safely. He doesn't need to see her ever again.

You're twisting my words.


You're using these funny phrases

Why give attention to someone or something that is no longer worth it?
But it doesn't make sense. Yes, the situation needs some attention, maybe.

What next? You're gonna tell me about Karma? Violence is never an answer? JFL
 
Js block her and move on no point is wasting your time over her and if u do try some revenge shit it most likely won't make her feel the way u feel doesn't sound like she even cares you're just gon be trying to get revenge and waste more time on it
Choose what u would regret less taking revenge or wasting your time on something like that
 

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