How do I get better lol im a loser

[adjurned]

Im a loser peice of shit that can barely form a sentence, I’m better in a group scenario than 1on 1. Even with my closest of friends I still turn act Nd when I’m nt as fuck in a group, we’ll at least that’s how it was until a few months ago when I was in a friend group, they kicked me out of it and now I’ve been alone. My confidence has plummeted and I’m too self aware at all my flaws. I have to imagine what I’m going to say 3-4 sentences in advance before I say it and even if I do say what my mind deems to be right I still end up feeling like a disappointment for giving the other person i was talking to the discomfort of ever speaking to someone as akward and ugly as I am. Now I just chill now by myself and play some games when I can please help me

 

[AfricaLtn]

Im a loser peice of shit that can barely form a sentence, I’m better in a group scenario than 1on 1. Even with my closest of friends I still turn act Nd when I’m nt as fuck in a group, we’ll at least that’s how it was until a few months ago when I was in a friend group, they kicked me out of it and now I’ve been alone. My confidence has plummeted and I’m too self aware at all my flaws. I have to imagine what I’m going to say 3-4 sentences in advance before I say it and even if I do say what my mind deems to be right I still end up feeling like a disappointment for giving the other person i was talking to the discomfort of ever speaking to someone as akward and ugly as I am. Now I just chill now by myself and play some games when I can please help me

try to get rid of the anxiety by like talk to people you dont even know like say hi to a cashier something like that i think will help you boost confidence also maybe start with really small stuff like making eye contact or smiling at someone and believe me no one is judging you brah it gets easier the more you do it

 

[GHaddictedgymcel]

Try to start a convo with one random stranger per day. Build up until you feel better and better.

 

[adjurned]

Try to start a convo with one random stranger per day. Build up until you feel better and better.

Honestly I’d love to say it’s that simple I’m scared to even ask my teacher a question when it’s just me and them in the classroom

 

[AfricaLtn]

Honestly I’d love to say it’s that simple I’m scared to even ask my teacher a question when it’s just me and them in the classroom

u need to stop gooning

 

[adjurned]

u need to stop gooning

I don’t even goon honestly I haven’t gooned since 2024 Oct

 

[AfricaLtn]

I don’t even goon honestly I haven’t gooned since 2024 Oct

Damn then u just need to start with small talk and the progress i guess

 

[adjurned]

Damn then u just need to start with small talk and the progress i guess

Alr I’ll try I guess

 

[Rengusthefirst]

Honestly I’d love to say it’s that simple I’m scared to even ask my teacher a question when it’s just me and them in the classroom

this is so real i used to be like this now i'm a social butterfly. Gain confidence either through getting good at a skill or physical activity (I rem when i was a skinny loser antisocial bum I started gaining confidence through gym) Competing in a combat sport whether you win or lose is good too. If you dk how to interact with others properly learn through copying how they interact with eachother, copying how they talk, common phrases etc. Once youve got a tad bit of confidence just throw yourself into uncomfortable situations (Volunteering in school, public speaking) if someones speaking to you always somehow try to make that convo one sentence longer. Overtime through constant exposure to people and social interaction you'll be chilling.

 

[cargo70]

Im a loser peice of shit that can barely form a sentence, I’m better in a group scenario than 1on 1. Even with my closest of friends I still turn act Nd when I’m nt as fuck in a group, we’ll at least that’s how it was until a few months ago when I was in a friend group, they kicked me out of it and now I’ve been alone. My confidence has plummeted and I’m too self aware at all my flaws. I have to imagine what I’m going to say 3-4 sentences in advance before I say it and even if I do say what my mind deems to be right I still end up feeling like a disappointment for giving the other person i was talking to the discomfort of ever speaking to someone as akward and ugly as I am. Now I just chill now by myself and play some games when I can please help me

One thing you can do is get a PT or FT job, which would help your social skills because you're forced to talk to people you wouldn’t otherwise.

Ex. Cashier, waiter, cook, Etc.

ND behavior and Social Anxiety tend to go away the more that you confront them.

 

[adamwyse]

Hop on Adderall to combat you're nd

 

[hotdogkid]

Just begin talking to the people on the game. What I did that helped me get out of my shell a little is just making a list to do for the day, makes me feel accomplished i guess and in turn a little bit of confidence shines on me and im able to at least talk to peers.