how do i get rid of abused dog syndrome, need some advice

[Deleted member 53928]

virgin, have never asked anyone out, never tried tinder. Everything feels too cringe when I imagine myself doing it.

Have a hard time taking pics of myself because it feels weird. After I started looksmaxxing, started receiving lot more IOIs, but still I would 100% never do anything. Had an attractive girl straight up tell me i had a glow up and that she wanted to date me, but said no cause it was cringe. too self-aware to even imagine myself dating anyone. also this site made me have body dysmorphia, so idk if i'm actually somewhat attractive & that the IOIs i receive are genuine or if just a delusional retard

My confidence is still non existent. had a rough childhood that fucked my confidence cause i was always being put down on anything I ever did + undiagnosed adhd made me lose confidence in my own ability to achieve goals I set cause i kept fucking up

 

[Tabula Rasa]

how is it cringe

 

[Deleted member 53928]

how is it cringe

it's a bit hard to explain, but cringe in the sense that it feels extremely weird and that's it's just something that's not supposed to happen or whatever. for some reason up until a couple years ago I hardly ever imagined having "things" for myself. always grew up being an extreme people pleaser, always put others ahead of myself.

tried changing my behaviours but i'm just like an abused dog and I always come back to the same state of mind

 

[incelmogger]

Similar to me bro I have heaps of trauma from my school years that ruined me, but luckily I don’t have social anxiety anymore and am confident enough but still kind of a bitch. Show face and I will tell you if you’re trippin or not

 

[Zizou]

What are your friends like?

 

[Deleted member 53928]

My friends are pretty much normal. I have mainly two different friend groups (friends from back in highschool and friends I made in college), though I mostly only talk to them online.

spent the last year and a half mostly in social isolation because was extremely depressed, so I never go out much at all if not for classes/studying, cardio, gym.

 

[Zizou]

My friends are pretty much normal. I have mainly two different friend groups (friends from back in highschool and friends I made in college), though I mostly only talk to them online.

spent the last year and a half mostly in social isolation because was extremely depressed, so I never go out much at all if not for classes/studying, cardio, gym.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Similar to me bro I have heaps of trauma from my school years that ruined me, but luckily I don’t have social anxiety anymore and am confident enough but still kind of a bitch. Show face and I will tell you if you’re trippin or not

the moment i upload my face i'm opening pandora's box there's no going back if i realize im ugly and was just delusional that will be rope fuel

 

[incelmogger]

the moment i upload my face i'm opening pandora's box there's no going back if i realize im ugly and was just delusional that will be rope fuel

You have to face it one day

 

[autistic_tendencies]

American dating is not normal and it’s perverted
arrange marriage max

 

[Deleted member 53928]

American dating is not normal and it’s perverted
arrange marriage max

im not indian i cant arrange marriage max

 

[Zizou]

.

 

[autistic_tendencies]

im not indian i cant arrange marriage max

Get your parents to set you up

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Get your parents to set you up

arranged marriages aren't really a doable thing for my parents to set up, and not sure I would want an arranged marriage

 

[Danish_Retard]

Psychology has spent centuries trying to figure out how revert trauma adaptations. Why not do that for a start?

Secondly, psychedelics are the best long term anti anxiety and depression medications, do those.

And you will be cured. It has helped me massively, both of these.

 

[Samsepioler]

tough shit

 

[Sushifart]

Tinder is for hookups, don't use tinder (or any dating app) for dating, especially if you're not good looking. Never used it personally, but some of my friends have and told me the same shit. Dating is kinda fucked, but there's nothing you can do about it. There's paths you can take after looksmaxxing (and shit like that), you can go on and slay or use your acquired looks to gain status. There's a lot you can do.

Personally, I doubt anyone has an answer to this sort of problem, so just wing it and come up with your own solution, but just so you know, you're on a time crunch and if you wait too long to make a move you will just watch your life pass on by and will be left with nothing anyways since you never tried to get anything.

Also, brutal for having ADHD and sorry for the yap.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Psychology has spent centuries trying to figure out how revert trauma adaptations. Why not do that for a start?

Secondly, psychedelics are the best long term anti anxiety and depression medications, do those.

And you will be cured. It has helped me massively, both of these.

I've started looking into things like psychology (cognitive behavioral therapy) but have yet to try it. I plan on reading a book about it.

I generally never do any drugs when things are going like shit in my life, so not sure if I would want to hop on psychedelics any time soon (especially considering I have no idea what to expect). The last thing I feel like I need is to become dependent on a drug. The only thing that has helped with my anxiety is exposure to social settings/situations, but I always revert back to my old self if I go a week without going out that much.

 

[Sushifart]

I've started looking into things like psychology (cognitive behavioral therapy) but have yet to try it. I plan on reading a book about it.

I generally never do any drugs when things are going like shit in my life, so not sure if I would want to hop on psychedelics any time soon (especially considering I have no idea what to expect). The last thing I feel like I need is to become dependent on a drug. The only thing that has helped with my anxiety is exposure to social settings/situations, but I always revert back to my old self if I go a week without going out that much.

If you're going to do psychedelics make sure you aren't predisposed to schizophrenia and I can kind of vouch for taking them as well when it comes to depression and stuff. I think it's because it rewires your brain or something (not sure on this though). Make sure you get a trip sitter too I guess since you might do something really stupid.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Tinder is for hookups, don't use tinder (or any dating app) for dating, especially if you're not good looking. Never used it personally, but some of my friends have and told me the same shit. Dating is kinda fucked, but there's nothing you can do about it. There's paths you can take after looksmaxxing (and shit like that), you can go on and slay or use your acquired looks to gain status. There's a lot you can do.

Personally, I doubt anyone has an answer to this sort of problem, so just wing it and come up with your own solution, but just so you know, you're on a time crunch and if you wait too long to make a move you will just watch your life pass on by and will be left with nothing anyways since you never tried to get anything.

Also, brutal for having ADHD and sorry for the yap.

yeah it's started to hit me that I'm just missing out on a lot of life experiences. i've started to make changes and I've started to feel better and gain more confidence but it just really sucks because it feels like certain things can flip a switch in me and when that happens i return back to the way I was and my confidence becomes 0.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

If you're going to do psychedelics make sure you aren't predisposed to schizophrenia and I can kind of vouch for taking them as well when it comes to depression and stuff. I think it's because it rewires your brain or something (not sure on this though). Make sure you get a trip sitter too I guess since you might do something really stupid.

How can you tell if you're possibly predisposed to schizophrenia? also one fear I have w/ drugs in general is just loss of control (in terms of saying shit on accident // saying secrets etc). do psychedelics make you say shit without thinking?

 

[Sushifart]

yeah it's started to hit me that I'm just missing out on a lot of life experiences. i've started to make changes and I've started to feel better and gain more confidence but it just really sucks because it feels like certain things can flip a switch in me and when that happens i return back to the way I was and my confidence becomes 0.

Just keep trying until you get it. Not sure if this might help, but don't care too much about certain things that are out of your control. This is slight bluepill advice (shouldn't matter since you want the best part of every pill anyways), but be more comfortable being yourself and caring less about what people think about you (this doesn't always apply, but you exist not only to improve yourself physically, but to improve in all aspects as well to BTFO everyone else who just wants to put you down, so follow blackpill advice, but don't adopt most of the negative mindsets that naturally come with this stuff).

Too much to explain in a post without boring you, but that's all I got on this.

How can you tell if you're possibly predisposed to schizophrenia? also one fear I have w/ drugs in general is just loss of control (in terms of saying shit on accident // saying secrets etc). do psychedelics make you say shit without thinking?

You can try asking family if you have any relatives that have it and if they ask you why you're asking you should probably not tell them that it's because of psychedelics and come up with an excuse that makes sense ig. Also, if you're Ashkenazi, you have higher chances of having it, if that helps.

Also, you might say retarded shit on psychedelics, that's why I recommended getting a trip sitter you trust that won't fuck with you. When you're on psychedelics your state of mind is altered and you don't know that the shit you're seeing is fake because it fucks with your brain. If you're wondering, no, you likely won't realize it's fake despite any sort of prep beforehand.

 

[nevermind2]

Normie fakecel

 

[Deleted member 43685]

i feel the exact same way. i sometimes escape it and act and socialize like a somewhat normal person, but when the socialization its done and im alone i feel like i shouldnt be doing that and i cringe at the thought of me talking to women. i dont know how to fix this behavior and at this point its fucking up my whole life. im 21 for context and i feel like my life is already gone and the only thing for me is ending it all. sad stuff innit, and everything because i was bullied and isolated during my teenage years and my brain is wired like that.

 

[Bojack]

how old r u op? You may have a chance of ascension yet

 

[SoundnVision]

Height weight bf % ?

 

[Deleted member 53928]

how old r u op? You may have a chance of ascension yet

21

 

[Bojack]

21

Sheeeit get those surgeries man

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Height weight bf % ?

5'10 72kg, I think 15% bf but not sure

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

Tinder is for hookups, don't use tinder (or any dating app) for dating, especially if you're not good looking. Never used it personally, but some of my friends have and told me the same shit. Dating is kinda fucked, but there's nothing you can do about it. There's paths you can take after looksmaxxing (and shit like that), you can go on and slay or use your acquired looks to gain status. There's a lot you can do.

Personally, I doubt anyone has an answer to this sort of problem, so just wing it and come up with your own solution, but just so you know, you're on a time crunch and if you wait too long to make a move you will just watch your life pass on by and will be left with nothing anyways since you never tried to get anything.

Also, brutal for having ADHD and sorry for the yap.

got 3 LTR off of tinder, you just have to be criterious

helped that all of them went to the same nationally prestigious uni as me

 

[SoundnVision]

5'10 72kg, I think 15% bf but not sure

Have you got visible abs?

How have you looksmaxed?

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Sheeeit get those surgeries man

tbh dont think any sort of surgery would be able to change my abused dog mentality

 

[antisocialschizoGOD]

LMAO ur life is already over atp buddy boyo. Who cares if you "look cringe". You can only go up from where you are.

 

[Sushifart]

got 3 LTR off of tinder, you just have to be criterious

helped that all of them went to the same nationally prestigious uni as me

The uni part probably helped a lot to be honest, but yeah you're probably right about having a good criteria. Still doesn't change much regarding tinder's overall use though.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

Have you got visible abs?

How have you looksmaxed?

no visible abs yet but i'm close, plan on keep cutting down to 12% bf

Mainly softmaxxing. I leaned down from 90kg to 72kg, added muscle to my frame, fixed my shitty posture, got rid of acne, improved eye area by fixing eyebrows & eyelashes (also used castor oil for both, eyelashes were already naturally long to begin with so i think it just boosted them, and I already had full/thick eyebrows, just helped me shape them better)

I still have a long list of improvements I plan on doing but feel like everything so far has been for naught, ultimately nothing will change if I can't fix the abused dog within me

 

[SoundnVision]

no visible abs yet but i'm close, plan on keep cutting down to 12% bf

Mainly softmaxxing. I leaned down from 90kg to 72kg, added muscle to my frame, fixed my shitty posture, got rid of acne, improved eye area by fixing eyebrows & eyelashes (also used castor oil for both, eyelashes were already naturally long to begin with so i think it just boosted them, and I already had full/thick eyebrows, just helped me shape them better)

I still have a long list of improvements I plan on doing but feel like everything so far has been for naught, ultimately nothing will change if I can't fix the abused dog within me

If you cant even see abs a tiny bit I doubt you're as low as 15%
And yeah abused dog syndrome is the worst I'm more paranoid that before I looksmaxed because I know now if I get rejected I can't cope with the thought I'm going to improve my looks because I've already done it all.

 

[Deleted member 53928]

If you cant even see abs a tiny bit I doubt you're as low as 15%
And yeah abused dog syndrome is the worst I'm more paranoid that before I looksmaxed because I know now if I get rejected I can't cope with the thought I'm going to improve my looks because I've already done it all.

I think I have the same mentality. I don't want to even waste any time possibly getting rejected (would instantly ruin any self-confidence I have). I'd rather reach my maximum potential as fast as possible. I'm just going to do whatever I can, CBT, looksmaxxing, whatever, to try and fix my mind.

Right now, if I'm not even 15% body fat, then I have no choice but to hop on RAD-140 while I continue my cut down to 12% bf because I can't continue wasting my time rotting and slowly trying to "ascend". It's starting to really hit me that I can't continue to waste my time, it's a do or die situation.

 

[IAMNOTANINCEL]

eat raw meat

 

[Deleted member 53928]

If you cant even see abs a tiny bit I doubt you're as low as 15%
And yeah abused dog syndrome is the worst I'm more paranoid that before I looksmaxed because I know now if I get rejected I can't cope with the thought I'm going to improve my looks because I've already done it all.

At the end of the day, if push ever comes to shove (absolute last resort) I'll just do crack or meth, max out all my credit cards and gamble big (ultimate human dopamine experience). I've been giving change to my local homeless drug addict for about a year now and we know each other on a first name basis, so I know that if I ask for his plug he'll gladly hook me up.

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

The uni part probably helped a lot to be honest, but yeah you're probably right about having a good criteria. Still doesn't change much regarding tinder's overall use though.

Yeah most slays I got with HTBs were mainly cuz of my uni and being in its law school

 

[snitch]

virgin, have never asked anyone out, never tried tinder. Everything feels too cringe when I imagine myself doing it.

Have a hard time taking pics of myself because it feels weird. After I started looksmaxxing, started receiving lot more IOIs, but still I would 100% never do anything. Had an attractive girl straight up tell me i had a glow up and that she wanted to date me, but said no cause it was cringe. too self-aware to even imagine myself dating anyone. also this site made me have body dysmorphia, so idk if i'm actually somewhat attractive & that the IOIs i receive are genuine or if just a delusional retard

My confidence is still non existent. had a rough childhood that fucked my confidence cause i was always being put down on anything I ever did + undiagnosed adhd made me lose confidence in my own ability to achieve goals I set cause i kept fucking up

Ok