How do I know if I have autism? And is autism a death sentence with dating?

[Society hates me]

And what is it about autistic men that actually evolutionarily makes women repulsed by us on site?

 

[HeresJohnny]

 

[HeresJohnny]

How come I’m ugly but always get hot girl pussy

 

[autistic_tendencies]

Just be ascend so hard your personality doesn’t matter

 

[freshpeppermint]

And what is it about autistic men that actually evolutionarily makes women repulsed by us on site?

If you cannot communicate effectively with others, you won't be able to build a network/connections with others to help fight off other tribes.

Hunting and defending also required good communication.

Autism you have difficulty with understanding social dynamics. This can make you seem like you're not interested, lack empathy or are just plain rude. I remember there was a guy used to not have any friends because he would swear at the other guy for the littlest mistake even though he barely knew the other guy. (He was not evil, just autistic) It's the same as those who are liars/threat, they might not make strong eye contact. Or let's say you get into an argument, someone who's really social can quickly resolve it without causing fight, and increase their overall trust with the whole tribe.

Also, many people who "ascended" on here, most if not all their lays are from night game (where the girls are drunk/tipsy) and online dating apps which is mostly looks. So, yeah. But read a lot of their threads of day time approaches, they get rejected left and right because of lack of any game. Most of the guys are fighting below their belt (Not looksmatch) and they need to "ascend" really hard to get an okay quality girl.

And you go to a psychiatrist to get evaluated for autism.

 

[Society hates me]

How come I’m ugly but always get hot girl pussy

Your lying. Or your from Latin America

 

[HeresJohnny]

Your lying. Or your from Katin America

Nah I’m a Gypsy from a desert far far away bub

 

[got.daim]

 

[LTNUser]

You face problem in communicating with people,you avoid interaction,you would rather sit in a corner alone that talk to a person,you are always nervous when talking and etc.
I'm telling you this from my personal experience

 

[freshpeppermint]

I just wanted to add this, I found it interesting to my point: (This is for Bonobo primates where it's a matriarchy not patriarchy)

"

2. Male Strategies for Access to Fertile Females​

While male bonobos do compete for mating opportunities, dominance alone does not guarantee success. Other factors influence which males mate with fertile females:

a. Maternal Influence​

• Males with strong relationships with their mothers often have better access to fertile females. High-ranking females advocate for their sons, helping them gain mating opportunities. This phenomenon is known as maternal support.
• Studies show that males whose mothers are alive and socially influential have higher reproductive success compared to those without maternal support.

b. Sociability and Friendliness​

• Cooperative and sociable males are more likely to gain access to females. Bonobo females tend to prefer males who are less aggressive and more affiliative.
• Males who groom females, play with infants, and integrate well into the social group are more attractive to females.

c. Physical and Behavioral Traits​

• While physical strength plays a minor role, females are more likely to choose males who demonstrate behavioral traits like gentleness and cooperation. Displays of aggression often reduce a male’s attractiveness.

d. Female Choice​

• Female bonobos have a significant say in mating. They often choose which males to mate with and can resist unwanted advances. Fertile females may mate with multiple males, spreading reproductive opportunities within the group."

All straight from ChatGPT. And here is the chart between similarities between chimpanzees and bonobos and humans.

Trait	Bonobos	Chimpanzees	Humans

Dominance

Female-dominated, egalitarian

Male-dominated, hierarchical

Mixed, varies across societies

Conflict Resolution

Sexual and social bonding

Aggression and dominance displays

Mixed: diplomacy, negotiation, war

Aggression

Low

High

Intermediate

Sexual Behavior

Frequent, non-reproductive, social

Less frequent, mostly reproductive

Similar to bonobos in some contexts

Tool Use

Minimal

Advanced

Highly advanced

It says we are a mix of both species in terms of behavior, cognition, and social structure:

• Socially and emotionally, humans are more similar to bonobos, particularly in our capacity for empathy, cooperation, and sexual diversity.
• Tool use, aggression, and hierarchical structures align humans more closely with chimpanzees.

And I also asked if beauty/health indicators surpass cooperation in Bonobos or not. (Of course not purely the case in humans.)

Does Sociability Surpass Health Indicators and Beauty?​

Yes, in bonobos, behavioral traits like sociability and friendliness often surpass physical health indicators (e.g., strength or "beauty") in determining mating success. Female bonobos prioritize male behavior over physical dominance:

Unlike species where physical traits like size, color, or health are primary factors, bonobo females focus more on compatibility, cooperation, and peacefulness, as these traits align with their social structure.

 

[Thebuffdon]

There’s no one size fits all answer.

I’m autistic and I’m insane at telling social dynamics in any setting, more than most people

My dad is autistic and he’s the complete opposite. Lacks any social awareness whatsoever.

You just have to assess your own actions etc and see how it’s presented IRL situation s

 

[tanblueyes]

 

[LTNUser]

I just wanted to add this, I found it interesting to my point: (This is for Bonobo primates where it's a matriarchy not patriarchy)

"

2. Male Strategies for Access to Fertile Females​

While male bonobos do compete for mating opportunities, dominance alone does not guarantee success. Other factors influence which males mate with fertile females:

a. Maternal Influence​

• Males with strong relationships with their mothers often have better access to fertile females. High-ranking females advocate for their sons, helping them gain mating opportunities. This phenomenon is known as maternal support.
• Studies show that males whose mothers are alive and socially influential have higher reproductive success compared to those without maternal support.

b. Sociability and Friendliness​

• Cooperative and sociable males are more likely to gain access to females. Bonobo females tend to prefer males who are less aggressive and more affiliative.
• Males who groom females, play with infants, and integrate well into the social group are more attractive to females.

c. Physical and Behavioral Traits​

• While physical strength plays a minor role, females are more likely to choose males who demonstrate behavioral traits like gentleness and cooperation. Displays of aggression often reduce a male’s attractiveness.

d. Female Choice​

• Female bonobos have a significant say in mating. They often choose which males to mate with and can resist unwanted advances. Fertile females may mate with multiple males, spreading reproductive opportunities within the group."

All straight from ChatGPT. And here is the chart between similarities between chimpanzees and bonobos and humans.

Trait	Bonobos	Chimpanzees	Humans

Dominance

Female-dominated, egalitarian

Male-dominated, hierarchical

Mixed, varies across societies

Conflict Resolution

Sexual and social bonding

Aggression and dominance displays

Mixed: diplomacy, negotiation, war

Aggression

Low

High

Intermediate

Sexual Behavior

Frequent, non-reproductive, social

Less frequent, mostly reproductive

Similar to bonobos in some contexts

Tool Use

Minimal

Advanced

Highly advanced

It says we are a mix of both species in terms of behavior, cognition, and social structure:

• Socially and emotionally, humans are more similar to bonobos, particularly in our capacity for empathy, cooperation, and sexual diversity.
• Tool use, aggression, and hierarchical structures align humans more closely with chimpanzees.

And I also asked if beauty/health indicators surpass cooperation in Bonobos or not. (Of course not purely the case in humans.)

Does Sociability Surpass Health Indicators and Beauty?​

Yes, in bonobos, behavioral traits like sociability and friendliness often surpass physical health indicators (e.g., strength or "beauty") in determining mating success. Female bonobos prioritize male behavior over physical dominance:

Unlike species where physical traits like size, color, or health are primary factors, bonobo females focus more on compatibility, cooperation, and peacefulness, as these traits align with their social structure.

How

 

[Society hates me]

I just wanted to add this, I found it interesting to my point: (This is for Bonobo primates where it's a matriarchy not patriarchy)

"

2. Male Strategies for Access to Fertile Females​

While male bonobos do compete for mating opportunities, dominance alone does not guarantee success. Other factors influence which males mate with fertile females:

a. Maternal Influence​

• Males with strong relationships with their mothers often have better access to fertile females. High-ranking females advocate for their sons, helping them gain mating opportunities. This phenomenon is known as maternal support.
• Studies show that males whose mothers are alive and socially influential have higher reproductive success compared to those without maternal support.

b. Sociability and Friendliness​

• Cooperative and sociable males are more likely to gain access to females. Bonobo females tend to prefer males who are less aggressive and more affiliative.
• Males who groom females, play with infants, and integrate well into the social group are more attractive to females.

c. Physical and Behavioral Traits​

• While physical strength plays a minor role, females are more likely to choose males who demonstrate behavioral traits like gentleness and cooperation. Displays of aggression often reduce a male’s attractiveness.

d. Female Choice​

• Female bonobos have a significant say in mating. They often choose which males to mate with and can resist unwanted advances. Fertile females may mate with multiple males, spreading reproductive opportunities within the group."

All straight from ChatGPT. And here is the chart between similarities between chimpanzees and bonobos and humans.

Trait	Bonobos	Chimpanzees	Humans

Dominance

Female-dominated, egalitarian

Male-dominated, hierarchical

Mixed, varies across societies

Conflict Resolution

Sexual and social bonding

Aggression and dominance displays

Mixed: diplomacy, negotiation, war

Aggression

Low

High

Intermediate

Sexual Behavior

Frequent, non-reproductive, social

Less frequent, mostly reproductive

Similar to bonobos in some contexts

Tool Use

Minimal

Advanced

Highly advanced

It says we are a mix of both species in terms of behavior, cognition, and social structure:

• Socially and emotionally, humans are more similar to bonobos, particularly in our capacity for empathy, cooperation, and sexual diversity.
• Tool use, aggression, and hierarchical structures align humans more closely with chimpanzees.

And I also asked if beauty/health indicators surpass cooperation in Bonobos or not. (Of course not purely the case in humans.)

Does Sociability Surpass Health Indicators and Beauty?​

Yes, in bonobos, behavioral traits like sociability and friendliness often surpass physical health indicators (e.g., strength or "beauty") in determining mating success. Female bonobos prioritize male behavior over physical dominance:

Unlike species where physical traits like size, color, or health are primary factors, bonobo females focus more on compatibility, cooperation, and peacefulness, as these traits align with their social structure.

Assuming this is all real, then explain why the meek and agreeable men are always Incel virgins lol.

 

[freshpeppermint]

Assuming this is all real, then explain why the meek and agreeable men are always Incel virgins lol.

You can Google Bonobos to see if it's wrong or not.

Bonobo Sex and Society

The behavior of a close relative challenges assumptions about male supremacy in human evolution

www.scientificamerican.com

Where did it say that being meek and agreeable as a man would be attractive? Those who have been bullied a lot, they tend to always be less social and outgoing. Also, it's signaling low status.

Here is what GPT has to say:

1. Evolutionary Psychology Perspective​

a. Perceived Lack of Dominance​

• Throughout human history, dominant and assertive men were often better able to secure resources, protect their mates and offspring, and demonstrate leadership. These traits were seen as signals of strength and the ability to provide stability, making them attractive to women seeking a reliable partner.
• Meekness, on the other hand, may signal submissiveness or a lack of confidence, which might reduce perceived ability to compete, protect, or lead.

b. Status and Power​

• Women, on average, are more likely to be attracted to men with high social status or the ability to achieve it. Meekness and excessive agreeableness might be interpreted as a lack of ambition or assertiveness needed to climb social hierarchies, reducing perceived status.

c. "Bad Boy" Appeal​

• Traits like confidence, assertiveness, and a willingness to challenge others are sometimes associated with the "bad boy" archetype, which can appear exciting or intriguing. Meekness may lack the spark of unpredictability or passion that some women find attractive.

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2. Social and Cultural Factors​

a. Gender Norms​

• Many cultures promote traditional gender roles where men are expected to be assertive, confident, and protective. Men who are meek and overly agreeable might be viewed as not fitting these traditional roles, leading to a perception of unattractiveness.
• Conversely, women are often socialized to expect men to take initiative in romantic or sexual contexts, which might clash with a meek man's tendencies.

b. Lack of Assertiveness​

• Agreeableness can sometimes translate into a reluctance to stand up for oneself or make decisions, which can lead to perceptions of indecisiveness or passivity—traits that may be unattractive in potential partners.

c. Perceived Inauthenticity​

• Extreme agreeableness might be perceived as inauthentic if it comes across as people-pleasing rather than genuine. Women may interpret this as a lack of integrity or self-confidence.

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3. Psychological Dynamics​

a. Polarity and Attraction​

• Attraction often thrives on a dynamic of polarity or complementary energies. Meekness might fail to create the sense of excitement or tension that fuels passion in some relationships.

b. Confidence Is Key​

• Confidence is universally attractive because it signals self-assurance and competence. Meekness and excessive agreeableness can appear as the opposite of confidence, suggesting insecurity or a lack of self-worth.

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4. Why Women May Avoid Overly Agreeable Men​

• Predictability: Being overly agreeable can make a man seem predictable or boring, which may dampen romantic excitement.
• Unmet Needs for Strength: Women may seek partners who can balance emotional sensitivity with the strength to handle challenges or protect the relationship.
• Risk of Being Overlooked: In competitive social or romantic contexts, assertive men may outshine meek ones, leading to the latter being overlooked.

GPT ends here.

Affiliative means "relating to the formation of social and emotional bonds with others or to the desire to create such bonds." And It says being sociable.

In humans, this doesn't mean being weak, it means being outgoing, you're more social when you are playful (those who are playful generally have great lives or atleast very cappable of handling stress.), your seen as trustworthy.

 

[Society hates me]

Assuming this is all real, then explain why the meek and agreeable men are always Incel virgins lol.

I want to kill myself