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Given so many here talk about socialmaxxing or social circlemaxxing or whatever, but one thing always confused me was simply....
How do you really "expand" your circle? How do you really "get in" rather than just be friends with them but not their friends too?
Like you can make friends with Joe but Joe has 9 other friends. If you are friends with him somewhat it doesn't mean you "join" his 9 other friends, so you just get one friendlocked per person while each friend has a circle behind them while revolving you.
So I'm kind of confused here. See I've had "friends" before but I was always only their friend, and never really became part of their "circle" overall. So I guess the truth is I've never really had a true social circle (at least past high school), but have had friends.
So what I'm saying is, how do you join or fit in to another's circle as opposed to just being their so-called "friend?"
Some people have friends, friends of friends, multiple circles they can break in to and have essentially friends of friend circles/networking-connections. Some just go through their friend's friends, or a friend in circle's friends, but you're stuck always.
I've found I only barely scratched the surface of friendship meaning I could be friends with "Joe" but never friends with his 9 other frends. Get it? You aren't brushed off but you are "kept" in some limited arrangement socially where you're still not in 100%.
So what really explains this? Like you can make friends with people but that doesn't mean you are part of their larger "circle" and fit in -- merely you could just hang out with them but never break in to a new circle where you're officially then expanding your social circle/networking horizons. Is this where a looks blackpill might kick in? First impressions? I never felt truly 100% socialworthy though I can be friendly.
Anytime I had friends I was never part of a "big circle" but something always more like this in a way:
I can be a direct "friend" with them but I only just touch the social circle, whereas they can be part of/within different ones including me. Like you see normies sometimes -- usually HTNs -- just expand/flow in and out of different social zones while you can't do that.
So I guess my issue is I could never social circlemaxx because I only had one immediate friend per time, never really becoming part of friend group. In high school I knew girls mostly -- almost no dudes -- but never really had friends besides that really, especially now.
How do you really "expand" your circle? How do you really "get in" rather than just be friends with them but not their friends too?
Like you can make friends with Joe but Joe has 9 other friends. If you are friends with him somewhat it doesn't mean you "join" his 9 other friends, so you just get one friendlocked per person while each friend has a circle behind them while revolving you.
So I'm kind of confused here. See I've had "friends" before but I was always only their friend, and never really became part of their "circle" overall. So I guess the truth is I've never really had a true social circle (at least past high school), but have had friends.
So what I'm saying is, how do you join or fit in to another's circle as opposed to just being their so-called "friend?"
Some people have friends, friends of friends, multiple circles they can break in to and have essentially friends of friend circles/networking-connections. Some just go through their friend's friends, or a friend in circle's friends, but you're stuck always.
I've found I only barely scratched the surface of friendship meaning I could be friends with "Joe" but never friends with his 9 other frends. Get it? You aren't brushed off but you are "kept" in some limited arrangement socially where you're still not in 100%.
So what really explains this? Like you can make friends with people but that doesn't mean you are part of their larger "circle" and fit in -- merely you could just hang out with them but never break in to a new circle where you're officially then expanding your social circle/networking horizons. Is this where a looks blackpill might kick in? First impressions? I never felt truly 100% socialworthy though I can be friendly.
Anytime I had friends I was never part of a "big circle" but something always more like this in a way:
I can be a direct "friend" with them but I only just touch the social circle, whereas they can be part of/within different ones including me. Like you see normies sometimes -- usually HTNs -- just expand/flow in and out of different social zones while you can't do that.
So I guess my issue is I could never social circlemaxx because I only had one immediate friend per time, never really becoming part of friend group. In high school I knew girls mostly -- almost no dudes -- but never really had friends besides that really, especially now.
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