How do you cope with too high expectations due too 9.5/10 oneitis?

[GrewWrong]

Tl,dr: Read the last 2 paragraphs.

I spent a lot of time with my (former) oneitis and I still believe she is the most precious 9-10/10 girl I have ever met. But of course, not being a chad etc., we’re only friends.

But we hugged so often and this alone gave me a lot of highs and dopamine rushes. Not to say that hugging itself is a big deal, but in this case, it felt magical embracing her. It made my world stop for a moment. She really is like a 9.5/10 PSL (not even biased) and has amazing vibes. You feel „something“ when hugging her.

She also texts me hearts and kiss emojis and sometimes even told me that she likes me a lot (but not love). She is also one of the nicest girls I have ever met (hyper-NT and positive reinforcements). Sadly, I can only dream about how it would feel if I were more intimate with her.

She raised my standards so much that she spoiled my expectations. I really don‘t want to settle with a lame 4/10 girl. I want a girl that gives me the same kind of feelings she does.

How do I cope with the fact that I‘ll probably never be with atleast a 7+ girl?

 

[androidcel]

didn't read but you need large skull to get ioi

 

[Ritzy2KReborn]

She would've been riding your cock if you were a Chad. She likes your personality, the only thing stopping you from being with her is your physical appearance.

Don't cope and settle for someone below 7/10. Ascend, ascend hard! Push softmaxxing to it's limits and if that doesn't work, get surgeries.

 

[SirHiss]

friendzoned

 

[Autist]

didn't read but you need large skull to get ioi

And large shoe size

 

[GrewWrong]

Jfl at how over it is for me

 

[AestheticPrince]

Badboymax and start ignoring the shit out of her when you guys meet, this way she'll do anything to get your attention and might just suck your cock.
^Doesn't work if you're less than 6.5psl

 

[IceCutter]

She's getting railed by some badboy Chad

 

[Zeta ascended]

She raised my standards so much that she spoiled my expectations. I really don‘t want to settle with a lame 4/10 girl. I want a girl that gives me the same kind of feelings she does.

Fuck Stacey prostitutes and LTR (or do hookups) with your looksmatch. Kind of like what @Lifewasted does. A psl 4/10 girl is more attrative than you think. It's just that girls rate themselves too dam high.

 

[GrewWrong]

Badboymax and start ignoring the shit out of her when you guys meet, this way she'll do anything to get your attention and might just suck your cock.
^Doesn't work if you're less than 6.5psl

I am less than 6.5 psl

 

[Sizzurp]

 

[Bluepill]

I am less than 6.5 psl

Ignoring her is your best bet. Never seen this work irl, but you never know if you're going to win the next lottery. Never been a beta orbiter, so I can only imagine what you're going through. Brutal.

 

[Extra Chromosome]

And large shoe size

And your neighbors grand-step daughter to be a scorpio

 

[Sizzurp]

And your neighbors grand-step daughter to be a scorpio

Spoiler: Pass

 

[GrewWrong]

Ignoring her is your best bet. Never seen this work irl, but you never know if you're going to win the next lottery. Never been a beta orbiter, so I can only imagine what you're going through. Brutal.

Thanks for the idea, but I have already come to terms with this. My concern is that I might not have a gf in the future who could give me the same kind of feelings she did.

 

[Bluepill]

Thanks for the idea, but I have already come to terms with this. My concern is that I might not have a gf in the future who could give me the same kind of feelings she did.

With how many women have you been in contact through out your whole life?

 

[GrewWrong]

With how many women have you been in contact through out your whole life?

Enough, I guess. Although I‘m still young

 

[ChoSeungHui]

lmao your oneitis let you hug her but didn't date you? damn

She also texts me hearts and kiss emojis and sometimes even told me that she likes me a lot (but not love).

it's so fucking over boyo holy shit

 

[GrewWrong]

lmao your oneitis let you hug her but didn't date you? damn

it's so fucking over boyo holy shit

lol

 

[Bluepill]

Enough, I guess. Although I‘m still young

dw you can still develop multiple oneitises. Although I would recommend you to accept the brutal reality that female love is a fallacy and stop caring about individual women.

 

[Extra Chromosome]

Honestly. Inject tren.

 

[GrewWrong]

dw you can still develop multiple oneitises. Although I would recommend you to accept the brutal reality that female love is a fallacy and stop caring about individual women.

Yeah, she‘s not my first oneitis, so maybe I just have to wait until I get to know someone else who would be more suitable for me (and hope to be looksmaxxed enough by then)

Honestly. Inject tren.

For which reason?

 

[712127]

did u ever go further than hugging?

and did she ever (indirectly) say: "i like you but just as a friend"

 

[GrewWrong]

did u ever go further than hugging?

and did she ever (indirectly) say: "i like you but just as a friend"

Well, not really.

And yes, she did

 

[Extra Chromosome]

For which reason?

To stop being an emotional person.

Being 100%, if you are blackpilled then you shouldn't have oneitises.

 

[712127]

Well, not really.

And yes, she did

I was in a similar situation as u (furthest ive gone is makeout with this specific girl) and I had major oneitis, only thing that worked was removing any trace of hers,delete all convos, off all social media, number etc. was very hard for me to do, months passed and i still thought of her (JFL at me tbh, long time ago tho), but as more time passed eventually i met other girls, i dont really care for her anymore tbh

but yeah if u never went further than hugging and she basically said ur a friend, u gotta move on man. imo

 

[Cali Yuga]

Just go up and talk to her

Honestly. Inject tren.

 

[GrewWrong]

Just go up and talk to her

About? We‘re good friends already

 

[Cali Yuga]

About? We‘re good friends already

Just be yourself dude.

 

[ChoSeungHui]

Just be yourself dude.

> /s

 

[Cali Yuga]

> /s
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lol
But for real the only advice in this thread is

Honestly. Inject tren.

 

[Extra Chromosome]

Drama and rants are low T high E

 

[GrewWrong]

Drama and rants are low T high E

what to do about it? (Except for injecting)

 

[SayNoToRotting]

I have no onetis, I looksmax for myself

 

[Extra Chromosome]

what to do about it? (Except for injecting)

Realize truly how wrong it is. Only then you can move on.

 

[rockndogs]

Escortcel then aim for lower roasties

 

[Deleted member 773]

My oneitis is fucking ugly

 

[GrewWrong]

My oneitis is fucking ugly

good tbh

 

[Mr_Norwood]

Take her to the bar and get drunk

 

[Autist]

About? We‘re good friends already

Take her to the bar and get drunk

Just get accused of rape theory/just pay for her drinks while chad takes her home theory

 

[ZyzzReincarnate]

didn't read but you need large skull to get ioi

 

[Rimcel]

OP stop being such a cuck

 

[Mr_Norwood]

You're a real nice guy!

 

[heroinfather]

dont be autist

 

[ZyzzReincarnate]

Tl,dr: Read the last 2 paragraphs.

I spent a lot of time with my (former) oneitis and I still believe she is the most precious 9-10/10 girl I have ever met. But of course, not being a chad etc., we’re only friends.

But we hugged so often and this alone gave me a lot of highs and dopamine rushes. Not to say that hugging itself is a big deal, but in this case, it felt magical embracing her. It made my world stop for a moment. She really is like a 9.5/10 PSL (not even biased) and has amazing vibes. You feel „something“ when hugging her.

She also texts me hearts and kiss emojis and sometimes even told me that she likes me a lot (but not love). She is also one of the nicest girls I have ever met (hyper-NT and positive reinforcements). Sadly, I can only dream about how it would feel if I were more intimate with her.

She raised my standards so much that she spoiled my expectations. I really don‘t want to settle with a lame 4/10 girl. I want a girl that gives me the same kind of feelings she does.

How do I cope with the fact that I‘ll probably never be with atleast a 7+ girl?

okay but srs i actually had this problem not too long ago. my oneitis at the time was a legit gigastacy. 5'8 blonde, blue eyes, long legs, small torso, wide hips, thin waist, perfect cute face.

LEGIT MASTERPIECE OF A WOMAN

the only thing you can do is cut her out from your life as much as possible and see her as little as possible until your brain re-adjusts and starts to settle for less. thats what i did and it worked.

 

[GrewWrong]

okay but srs i actually had this problem not too long ago. my oneitis at the time was a legit gigastacy. 5'8 blonde, blue eyes, long legs, small torso, wide hips, thin waist, perfect cute face.

LEGIT MASTERPIECE OF A WOMAN

the only thing you can do is cut her out from your life as much as possible and see her as little as possible until your brain re-adjusts and starts to settle for less. thats what i did and it worked.

Thanks. dude. Yeah, I need to re-adjust myself.