How do you extend a conversation with a girl who works at the gym (without flirting)?

[spirili]

I'm trying to talk to a girl who works at the front desk at my gym, but I don't want to make it obvious I'm just trying to chat her up. What questions can I ask her to get her to talk to me for a solid couple of minutes? I can literally only think of basic stuff like "How do I quit my membership? When will those machines get fixed?"

Usually the conversation ends in like 20 seconds, as soon as she answers my basic questions, and that's it. But then one time I see a fucking balding, middle aged oofy doofy go up to her and talk to her for like 10 fucking minutes. It was work related (not small talk) because she had to call over a female personal trainer to help answer this guy's questions. So now this doofus had 2 cute girls in front of him and helping him with whatever question he had. How do I do that? What could he possibly have asked her that caused him to talk to her and her coworker for 10 minutes while I only get 20 seconds with her?

Again, I don't like flirting initially, cuz if it goes wrong, it's awkward whenever I go to the gym. I'd rather see if she starts flirting with me first before I try that.

 

[GabachoCopium]

DONALD TRUMP IF YOU CAN HEAR ME

PLEASE SAVE ME

 

[klip11]

A gymmaxxed Tyronelite will cold approach and blacked.com her while you're still trying to work up the nerve to say hi

 

[Tr0ubLe]

If she doesn't give u signals don't do it

 

[Outlier]

Conversations aren't really that useful. The reason she can have a 10 minute conversation with the balding, middle aged oofy doofy is because she doesn't see any attraction to him. No nerves because nothing is at stake.

She might notice that you are interested in her and that's why she keeps the conversation so short. She doesn't want to give you the wrong idea. A girl will usually want to hold a conversation, even if she is nervous (as she most likely will be around the guy she likes.). I'd say that she's probably not interested and it's best to put your efforts elsewhere.

 

[Deleted member 45942]

I'm trying to talk to a girl who works at the front desk at my gym, but I don't want to make it obvious I'm just trying to chat her up. What questions can I ask her to get her to talk to me for a solid couple of minutes? I can literally only think of basic stuff like "How do I quit my membership? When will those machines get fixed?"

Usually the conversation ends in like 20 seconds, as soon as she answers my basic questions, and that's it. But then one time I see a fucking balding, middle aged oofy doofy go up to her and talk to her for like 10 fucking minutes. It was work related (not small talk) because she had to call over a female personal trainer to help answer this guy's questions. So now this doofus had 2 cute girls in front of him and helping him with whatever question he had. How do I do that? What could he possibly have asked her that caused him to talk to her and her coworker for 10 minutes while I only get 20 seconds with her?

Again, I don't like flirting initially, cuz if it goes wrong, it's awkward whenever I go to the gym. I'd rather see if she starts flirting with me first before I try that.

If you don't wanna flirt, pretend it's a guy friend. If you can't keep convos with male friends its over don't even bother

 

[Bojack]

You need to be high iq and very creative to do several minute conversations. You simply lack the mental IQ that these oofy-doofies possess naturally. If you really weren't a talkative child growing up, it's pretty much over LOL.

 

[autistic_tendencies]

Conversations aren't really that useful. The reason she can have a 10 minute conversation with the balding, middle aged oofy doofy is because she doesn't see any attraction to him. No nerves because nothing is at stake.

She might notice that you are interested in her and that's why she keeps the conversation so short. She doesn't want to give you the wrong idea. A girl will usually want to hold a conversation, even if she is nervous (as she most likely will be around the guy she likes.). I'd say that she's probably not interested and it's best to put your efforts elsewhere.

 

[robtical]

Ask number or snapchat.

 

[alpha_provider]

If she doesn't give u signals don't do it

this. op, from what you described, she's just doing the bare minimum to not appear rude.

idiotic comments like "chad/tyrone does X and slays" (peak insight of most users here, lmao) aside, women will really let you know if they have at least some sympathy for you, whether it's change in voice tone, body positioning, change in mood or playful comments

 

[Deleted member 46941]

be NT

 

[klip11]

be NT

Can he grab her ass

 

[Nick.Harte]

If you have to ask this question, it's over. Just be attractive and they will makethe convos themselves.

 

[fuxkdakikez]

if you have to think about what to say it’s over for you don’t approach her incel

 

[DarkLoner94]

Good luck pal it ain't easy