How do you repair your relations with a social circle you neglected?

[thecel]

They were traveling while I was rotting in the basement. I ignored the group chat for months. I got annoyed by the notifications and wasn’t interested in the stuff they talked about in the chat. How do I get involved with them in a natural way? My social life is on the line!

 

[thecel]

inb4 “just be yourself bro”

If I be’d myself, I’d slide into the chat and say something blackpilled or negative like “it’s over” or “fuck school” and be giga unlikeable.

 

[Deleted member 19499]

This same thing happened with me with two irl friends couple yrs back. I got annoyed by them so I ghosted them, but at the same time miss them so I message them again, but then I ghost when I get bored. Idk why I do this. I start out relationships with new people well and then self-sabotage by being an asshole to them. Maybe it's my way of rejecting people before they reject me so I like being in control of the situation. Now I have no friends and reject anyone that tries to get close like the schizo autist that I am.

 

[aesthetic beauty]

inb4 “just be yourself bro”

If I be’d myself, I’d slide into the chat and say something blackpilled or negative like “it’s over” or “fuck school” and be giga unlikeable.

What do they say about you in the group chat.

 

[Gonthar]

They were traveling while I was rotting in the basement. I ignored the group chat for months. I got annoyed by the notifications and wasn’t interested in the stuff they talked about in the chat. How do I get involved with them in a natural way? My social life is on the line!

Just visit them like nothing happened and act enthusiastic: "I'm back bitches!!!!!! Let's party!!!!!"

 

[comingtothisJFL]

This same thing happened with me with two irl friends couple yrs back. I got annoyed by them so I ghosted them, but at the same time miss them so I message them again, but then I ghost when I get bored. Idk why I do this. I start out relationships with new people well and then self-sabotage by being an asshole to them. Maybe it's my way of rejecting people before they reject me so I like being in control of the situation. Now I have no friends and reject anyone that tries to get close like the schizo autist that I am.

classic anti social behaviour, same as me only way is by limiting social contact but keeping in touch every once in a while and forcing my conscience to just be considerate, or just be alone

 

[blackpilled I lost]

Act like nothing happened

 

[thecel]

What do they say about you in the group chat.

Nothing. Why would they talk about me? I’m the boring one rotting in the basement.

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Nothing. Why would they talk about me? I’m the boring one rotting in the basement.

How did they respond when you did talk and engage?

 

[Cali Yuga]

SAY SOMETHING ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND THEY WILL BUG OUT AND FORGIVE YOU ITS A CHEAT CODE

 

[thecel]

How did they respond when you did talk and engage?

I don’t remember. I barely texted the group chat.

 

[aesthetic beauty]

I don’t remember. I barely texted the group chat.

They might not even remember you left or that you were there in the first place.

 

[thecel]

SAY SOMETHING ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND THEY WILL BUG OUT AND FORGIVE YOU ITS A CHEAT CODE

“Gender dysphoria has crippled me into the depths of autisticality. Please socialize with me. I promise I’ll deliver value to you guys.”

 

[thecel]

They might not even remember you left or that you were there in the first place.

they prob remember

 

[aesthetic beauty]

they prob remember

Are you close to anyone in the group chat?

 

[thecel]

Are you close to anyone in the group chat?

nope

 

[aesthetic beauty]

nope

When people aren’t talking about a particular subject just say hey I missed you guys or I’ve been thinking about you all lately what’s up. That should work.

 

[thecel]

b

 

[Deleted member 19499]

classic anti social behaviour, same as me only way is by limiting social contact but keeping in touch every once in a while and forcing my conscience to just be considerate, or just be alone

Makes sense. I always attributed my difficulty connecting with people to be my autism. Whenever I got mad, it's like a switch flipped and I would lose all empathy towards someone. I would attempt to destroy their life at the slightest hint of them trying to hurt me. Then I would cool down and get paranoid that they'd hurt me for sure now cause of what I did.

 

[thecel]

Makes sense. I always attributed my difficulty connecting with people to be my autism. Whenever I got mad, it's like a switch flipped and I would lose all empathy towards someone. I would attempt to destroy their life at the slightest hint of them trying to hurt me. Then I would cool down and get paranoid that they'd hurt me for sure now cause of what I did.

Adult Autism Test : Emotional Identification of Eye Areas

https://embrace-autism.com/reading-the-mind-in-the-eyes-test “The Reading the Mind in the Eyes Test (RMET or Eyes Test for short) has been widely used to measure theory of mind—the ability to recognize and understand another person’s mental state—or social intelligence.” This test is not...

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Take test, post results.

 

[Deleted member 19499]

Adult Autism Test : Emotional Identification of Eye Areas

https://embrace-autism.com/reading-the-mind-in-the-eyes-test “The Reading the Mind in the Eyes Test (RMET or Eyes Test for short) has been widely used to measure theory of mind—the ability to recognize and understand another person’s mental state—or social intelligence.” This test is not...

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Take test, post results.

1. I took 5-7 mins and it says over 3 is autistic
2. I got 21 correct which I think falls in the autistic range
3. I analyzed the expressions to see what patterns I can relate to based on previous experiences learning and memorizing facial expressions so it's also autistic.

Btw, I hated having to jot the answers on notepad. Wish the test would just tell you if it's right or not when you choose the option. My ADHD was also triggered during this.

 

[Brus Wane]

SAY SOMETHING ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND THEY WILL BUG OUT AND FORGIVE YOU ITS A CHEAT CODE

FBI

This niggas too dangerous to be kept alive

 

[Cali Yuga]

“Gender dysphoria has crippled me into the depths of autisticality. Please socialize with me. I promise I’ll deliver value to you guys.”

not even fucking around you can text a girl you ghosted brutally six months ago some therapy speak asrology shit about your mental health and she will sleep with you again

 

[thecel]

not even fucking around you can text a girl you ghosted brutally six months ago some therapy speak asrology shit about your mental health and she will sleep with you again

Source:

 

[thecel]

I keep being a dumbass in the chat. My social skills are ruined from months of basement dwelling. How to recover from giga social blunders?

 

[thecel]

SAY SOMETHING ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND THEY WILL BUG OUT AND FORGIVE YOU ITS A CHEAT CODE

only works for the cool and hip mental health issues. Bipolar works. Depression and even gender dysphoria can work.

If the mental health issue is being socially stunted from years of isolation, I talking about it will just make things worse.

 

[cutie_pie]

They were traveling while I was rotting in the basement. I ignored the group chat for months. I got annoyed by the notifications and wasn’t interested in the stuff they talked about in the chat. How do I get involved with them in a natural way? My social life is on the line!

Just be yourself brother

 

[Cali Yuga]

only works for the cool and hip mental health issues. Bipolar works. Depression and even gender dysphoria can work.

If the mental health issue is being socially stunted from years of isolation, I talking about it will just make things worse.

just pretend its not isolation

 

[thecel]

they’re probably in another group chat without me, anyway