manhattanbound
Equinox
- Joined
- Jan 6, 2025
- Posts
- 2,733
- Reputation
- 2,758
I always pretend that I am handsome. But truth is that I am ugly, short (5′ 2″), going to bald gradually, socially awkward person and have only few friends. I know that outstanding physical and facial appearance is God gifted and I don't have control on this body feature. So, I have accepted myself. I don't think about my ugliness because it is out of my control. I only think about the fact which is in my control. That is my attitude which I can control. I run, meditate, study, read self-help books, develop friendships with new people and help people. One day we will become old, the beautiful appearance will turn shabby. Thus, I get over the fact I am ugly. Moreover, these ideas are given below which help me to get over the fact that I am ugly-
- Life is short : Life is short and our time is limited. We all die one day. So, appearance doesn't matter for life. It's waste of time to think about appearance. Get highest satisfaction from our limited time and do what you love.
- Live my life by my own rules : We all are very anxious about our appearance, physical beauty, height because it is highly considered by people and society. I live my life by my own rules and I don't care about what society and people think about me.
- Millions of people can, So I can : Millions of ugly people have got success in life. They are famous actors/actress, scientists, athletes, businessmen, rulers and so on. They have got success by their hard work, perseverance and immense effort.
- Living in the present : I try to live in the present moment and focus on my activities. I don't think about the past or future. I have been rejected and insulted by someone for not being handsome. I want to forget this incident. I try to live in the present moment and focus on my current action. Living in the present moment reduces our inferiority, weakness and make us mentally strong.
- Sound health is more important than beauty : Physical and mental health are equally important. I run, do push ups, meditate, travel and avoid junk food to make myself fit.
- Expectation hurts, so never expect: I did not expect anything from life. We always think about our physical appearance, height, complexion because we have unlimited expectations from ourself. Leave such thoughts from now onwards. Zero expectations make you solid and you are free to do anything.
- Gratitude to God for what I have : I could have born in a homeless and extreme poor family, never get chance to get education and never have a standard life style. But I was born in a middle class family, have rented flat to live, completed BBA and MBA, doing a job and maintaining a normal lifestyle. I am happy with whatever I am. I am really grateful to God because God's blessings are always with me.
