How important is it to stand out physically

[Dbeyduvudhs]

In almost all forms of fish the one who makes the most Is the one who stands out the most.

the issue is that hot girls view anything “weird” as “bad”. So standing out might just be seen as weird.

 

[Deleted member 6892]

Just be a painted clown theory

 

[Dbeyduvudhs]

Just be a painted clown theory

Yes it has its basis in evo psych.

you would obviously want to do it in a socially “cool” way otherwise you risk Lacking self awareness and emotional intelligence.

 

[Dbeyduvudhs]

An issue we face now with bumble and tinder is that even if we ascend to a 7+ it’s not enough to make us special.

but an above average guy with a style that is uncommon becomes a more rare commodity.

also it shows that you can handle having a lot of attention on you.

i also think it will garner more attentionon you day to day and this is why incel forums never really talk about this theory. Because most incels didn’t have father figures thus lacking the nerve to be noticed regularly (through means of outlandish/socially cool popular style)

 

[Dbeyduvudhs]

The obvious downsides are

1) the way to attain wealth is to basically have an eatablished wealthy boss start to like you - having an outlandish style hurts this ability badly.

2) more social pressure to be outgoing and energetic. Less leniency to be a chill wallflower when tired.

 

[Diremeyer]

So standing out might just be seen as weird.

Yes. The correct way to stand out is to abide by the rules, dress fashionably, but break the rules in minor ways. Thus showing you're "one of us", but also flouting the rules.

 

[Yoyo2233]

Yes. The correct way to stand out is to abide by the rules, dress fashionably, but break the rules in minor ways. Thus showing you're "one of us", but also flouting the rules.

What’s breaking the rules in minor ways?

 

[Deleted member 4310]

 

[zeroshame]

the issue is that hot girls view anything “weird” as “bad”. So standing out might just be seen as weird.

As long as you're Chad you can literally be a child rapist and girls will still flock to you.

unattractive and unique = weird
attractive and unique = interesting

 

[Diremeyer]

What’s breaking the rules in minor ways?

Put the emphasis on following the rules. Let's say white Nike Air Force 1 shoes are fashionable in your group. You then follow the fashion on sweaters, follow the fashion on pants, follow the fashion on jackets, but buy colored Nike Air Force 1 shoes instead of white, even though nobody else does that. Even though colored Air Force 1 shoes ain't in fashion.