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bradchadpitt
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This is probably one of the most important and harsh realities every guy has to face in life.
As a brown guy I am objectively inferior to white guys. When I see a pretty woman I like and see her boyfriend who ends up being a 6'2 handsome white guy with brown fluffy hair and blue eyes, I'm just like "yeah, fair enough". I get why women would choose that type of guy over me. As a 5'9 light brown British south asian guy I'm objectively inferior.
And it really comes down to the lie we're told when we are young where we are told everyone is equal and life is fair and everyone matters. Everyone gets their participation trophy. Real life doesn't work like that. Life isn't fair. There's a kid born to billionaire parents in the Hamptons who will never experience a tiny inkling of true struggle, and a kid being born in abject poverty in the Congo who will either end up dying in war as a child soldier or through suffocation when the underground mine he's slaving away in will collapse on his head.
I'm aware that I'm privileged compared to most people in human history, but it's human nature to fixate on your inadequacies and what you don't have. What annoys me the most is that I'm a decent looking guy and my race holds me back so much. If I was genuinely ugly or fat then whatever - but I'm objectively decent looking facially and have been told I'm good looking for a brown guy, and yet the simple fact that I'm brown has held me back so much.
I'll have to become exceptional and put in 1000x the effort of an equivalent white guy just to get the same results. Life isn't fair. How do you maintain equanimity and carry on despite this? How do you practice gratitude and focus on valuing what you have rather than constantly hating yourself for something you didn't choose to be even though it impacts your life so much?
As a brown guy I am objectively inferior to white guys. When I see a pretty woman I like and see her boyfriend who ends up being a 6'2 handsome white guy with brown fluffy hair and blue eyes, I'm just like "yeah, fair enough". I get why women would choose that type of guy over me. As a 5'9 light brown British south asian guy I'm objectively inferior.
And it really comes down to the lie we're told when we are young where we are told everyone is equal and life is fair and everyone matters. Everyone gets their participation trophy. Real life doesn't work like that. Life isn't fair. There's a kid born to billionaire parents in the Hamptons who will never experience a tiny inkling of true struggle, and a kid being born in abject poverty in the Congo who will either end up dying in war as a child soldier or through suffocation when the underground mine he's slaving away in will collapse on his head.
I'm aware that I'm privileged compared to most people in human history, but it's human nature to fixate on your inadequacies and what you don't have. What annoys me the most is that I'm a decent looking guy and my race holds me back so much. If I was genuinely ugly or fat then whatever - but I'm objectively decent looking facially and have been told I'm good looking for a brown guy, and yet the simple fact that I'm brown has held me back so much.
I'll have to become exceptional and put in 1000x the effort of an equivalent white guy just to get the same results. Life isn't fair. How do you maintain equanimity and carry on despite this? How do you practice gratitude and focus on valuing what you have rather than constantly hating yourself for something you didn't choose to be even though it impacts your life so much?
