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Below you will find 15 different techniques to finger your girl and give her intense orgasms. I’ll first cover the fingering techniques that focus on her clit, and then I’ll show you how to penetrate and massage her pussy with your fingers.
Her Anatomy
As a quick refresher, here’s her external anatomy aka her vulva:
And here’s her internal anatomy:
How To Finger Your Girl – The Techniques
Before we dive in, I have just one piece of advice for you…
As you are fingering your girl and bringing her to orgasm, you absolutely must seek her feedback. It’s the only way to truly know if you’re pleasing and satisfying her and not causing her any discomfort. It’s the key ingredient to being the best she’s ever had.
Now, on to the fingering techniques…
1. Rubbing Her Clit
The easiest way to give her an orgasm is to rub her clit. In fact, most women either need or prefer clitoral stimulation for orgasm, although, 64% of women reported that both clitoral and vaginal stimulation contributed to their usual method of reaching orgasm. Another study found that women reported their clitoris to be more sensitive than their vagina in terms of having more pleasurable responses.
The main takeaway from these scientific studies is that while the vaginal stimulation can contribute to orgasm, most women find that their clit is the most sensitive area and should be caressed, stimulated, rubbed and loved if you want to bring to her to orgasm easily when fingering her.
Side note: Some women still struggle to orgasm from clitoral stimulation. But that’s normal, just like it’s normal for guys to ejaculate after just a few minutes of sex…although I do have a guide on how to last longer in bed in case you’re worried about your “speed.”
Even if you don’t do anything else, rubbing her clit is enough for most women to climax, provided you’ve got her in the mood first by removing the Brakes to her sex drive so she can get turned on and you have also ensure that you’ve actively made her horny by amplifying the Accelerators to her sex drive. Otherwise, go back to those steps before diving into vaginal fingering.
There are a bunch of different ways to rub her clit as demonstrated in the examples above and below. You can rub up & down, side-to-side or at another angle. It’s that simple. However, there are a few important caveats to making sure it’s pleasurable for her…
You’ll almost always need some kind of lube, otherwise, it will feel more painful than pleasurable for most women (damn friction!). Plus, lube just lets your finger or hand move more easily. It’s like when you masturbate without lube versus with lube. There are two options here:
1. The ideal option is to lightly press your finger into her vagina first and using her natural lubrication as lube on your fingertip. If you ever feel your finger drying out, then just return to her vagina. This might not provide enough lubrication for some women, however.
2. Alternatively, keep a bottle of lube on your bedside table.
Next, is figuring out what type of rubbing she responds to best?
Direct stimulation of her clit with your finger or indirect at the edge of her clit like in the above demonstrations or somewhere in between?
Intense or light pressure or somewhere in between?
Fast, slow or medium rubbing?
A combination?
As always, the key to truly satisfying her is figuring out what SHE enjoys, not following these instructions blindly, so make sure to get feedback from her, either by listening to her body or by talking to her.
Lastly, you can incorporate this technique into sex when you’re having doggy style sex.
2. Long, Slow Stroking
Stroking her from the bottom of her vagina to her clit is a great technique to pleasure her. It’s also a great way to cover your finger in her natural lubrication. Again, you need to try varying your technique, changing how much pressure you’re using and how fast you’re moving your finger. Also, feel free to stroke in the opposite direction, down from her clit to her vagina.
Feel free to compliment her as you please her. Some women feel self-conscious about how they look.
Lastly, you can use one finger like in the above illustration, but feel free to use 2, 3 or like in the next technique…
3. Four Fingers of Fun
If your partner needs more stimulation to orgasm, then Four Fingers of Fun should do it! All you will be doing is rubbing your four fingers over her clit, labia, and vagina in a circular motion. Using her natural lubrication on your fingers will make it much slippier, wetter and satisfying for her.
As I keep repeating (like a broken record!), make sure to try varying your technique to see what works best whether it’s the amount of pressure you use to how big your circles are to how many fingers you use…two or three fingers may feel better than four for her.
4. Her U Spot
The U Spot should probably be called the “secret spot”, as so few people seem to know about it. While you can see it indicated in the diagram below as the darker shade of pink, it’s important to understand that it doesn’t have any distinct coloring on your female partner. It’s the area just above her urethra and to the sides of it.
Just like with rubbing her clit, using a lubed finger is best. Then it’s simply a case of gently stroking it as demonstrated in the diagram below. Extending your finger up to her clit as you stroke will help to increase the amount of pleasurable stimulation she receives.
Not every woman gets that much pleasure for U Spot stimulation, so if your girl isn’t digging it, then don’t worry about it too much, just try using another technique.
5. The Clitoral Hood
Some women have a clitoris so sensitive that it hurts when touched directly. If you are with a woman who has a clit this sensitive, then no matter how softly you rub it, it will hurt her, and you won’t pleasure her.
Fortunately, there is a simple solution. You just need to rub her clitoral hood instead. That’s the small bit of skin covering her clit like your foreskin covers your penis. This way her clitoral hood acts as a sort of buffer between your finger and you can still provide her with lots of pleasurable stimulation.
Just like your penis, her clit becomes erect when aroused.
6. Orgasmic Meditation
Orgasmic Meditation may sound a bit woo-woo or like something reserved only for yoga-loving vegans, but that’s just the name, it’s surprisingly easy to perform. And if you do it right, you can give your girl a 15-minute orgasm.
That’s right, a 15-minute orgasm.
I don’t know why Orgasmic Meditation works so well, but once you see the benefits, you and your girl will be hooked.
The get set up, your partner needs to lie down on her back with her legs spread open and she needs to get relaxed. Then you need to get into a comfortable position sitting down to her right side with your left leg bent and over her stomach and your right leg under her right leg. You then need to start stroking the upper left quadrant of her clit with just one lubricated finger very slowly and lightly. I’ve indicated this upper left quadrant area between the dotted lines in the illustration above. Your touch should be as light as possible.
You’re going to move your finger a few millimeters back and forth making sure to apply only the slightest amount of pressure to her clit. Some women report that this kind of stimulation feels almost frustrating, and they can’t tolerate it for long, that it seems like you are teasing her, while others say that the longer they do it, the better it feels.
This is actually what you are aiming for! Even if your partner doesn’t achieve a prolonged orgasm, this is perfect for making her beg for more.
So even if your girl is begging you more pressure or stimulation, try to hold off and not give it to her, making sure to use the very least amount of pressure possible.
Sex is a very personal thing, so bear in mind there is no “correct” way to perform Orgasmic Meditation. If you find a variation of the above technique to work best, then please stick with that and use our advice as a set of guidelines about the best way to finger a girl, not rigid instructions. Experiment with lying down beside your partner while performing it or focus on a different area of her clit or whatever works best for both of you.
7. Squeezing/Massaging The Base Of Her Clit
Obviously, you know how sensitive the tip of her clit is. What you may not know is that most of the components of the clitoris are buried under the skin.
So, why not play with parts of her clit that usually get little attention by massaging and gently squeezing it.
Massaging or squeezing the base of her clit is easy, just place your thumb and index finger on either side of her clit like in the illustration above. Then GENTLY press down and inwards so that you are ‘squeezing’ the base of her clit between the folds of skin surrounding it. Do not squeeze the exposed part of her clit; this will hurt her!
Start off with very gentle pressure and see how she reacts. Then increase or decrease the amount of pressure you use based on her feedback.
Then it’s just a simple case of playing around with her clit between the folds of skin, by rolling it between your index finger and thumb. You can also lightly jerk it up and down.
As I keep repeating, the most important thing you can do is lots of experimentation and get her feedback to see what type of stimulation she enjoys most as you’re squeezing and massaging the base of her clit.
8. Loving Her Labia
While her labia are not nearly as sensitive as her clit, there are a lot of very enjoyable ways you can pleasure and stimulate them.
Slowly rubbing them up and down like in the above diagram can bring her close to orgasm without her climaxing, which makes for great foreplay.
For many women, when they climax from clitoral stimulation, her clit can become ultra sensitive and painful for her if you touch it immediately, so you’ll want to hold off rubbing it for a few minutes. This makes her labia the perfect option for focusing on until her clit calms down and stops being so sensitive. If her labia are long enough, you can also rub her clitoris through them if she’s too sensitive for direct stimulation.
Using either her own natural lubrication or some from a bottle will make stroking her labia feel even more pleasurable for her.
9. Humping & Grinding
Many women first learn to masturbate through dry humping or grinding or rubbing against a pillow, toy, blanket or bed. She might also use it a form of foreplay before sex, so why not use this to your advantage when trying to make her orgasm? Here are two ways you do just that:
• When she is lying down in bed, slip one leg in between hers and gently press it up against her vulva. Then slowly move it forward and backward over her vagina while maintaining pressure.
• While sitting down, have her straddle one of your legs and then encourage her to grind on it by gently pushing and pulling her hips forwards and backward.
Basically, any position where she has the ability to grind on you is perfect!
10. Fingering From Behind
Every girl is different, so her “hot buttons” or favorite ways to be fingered may differ from previous women you have been with. The only way to find out how she enjoys being fingered by you is to either experiment or to simply ask her. If she’s willing, have her guide your hand to stimulate her from the angle that she usually uses so you can finger her the way she likes best.
With that being said, one way that many women enjoy being fingered is from behind, on the opposite side of her vagina to her G Spot, as demonstrated above.
How to Finger a Pussy Internally
Whether you’re aiming for G-spot stimulation or you just want to rub her vagina in general, these tips can help.
• Use lube.
• Make sure your fingernails are cut short and filed smooth.
• The same goes for rough hands.
• Wash your hands beforehand to avoid spreading bacteria, which can cause infection.
• Start with one finger. You can always add more (and some women like four fingers or even to be fisted!), but you want to give her time to get used to each finger as you rub her pussy internally.
• Pay attention to her responses. If she gets tense, pulls away, seems disinterested, or is in pain, do less of that. If she moans, breathes heavier, gets closer to you, or writhes, keep it up!
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Her Anatomy
As a quick refresher, here’s her external anatomy aka her vulva:
And here’s her internal anatomy:
How To Finger Your Girl – The Techniques
Before we dive in, I have just one piece of advice for you…
As you are fingering your girl and bringing her to orgasm, you absolutely must seek her feedback. It’s the only way to truly know if you’re pleasing and satisfying her and not causing her any discomfort. It’s the key ingredient to being the best she’s ever had.
Now, on to the fingering techniques…
1. Rubbing Her Clit
The easiest way to give her an orgasm is to rub her clit. In fact, most women either need or prefer clitoral stimulation for orgasm, although, 64% of women reported that both clitoral and vaginal stimulation contributed to their usual method of reaching orgasm. Another study found that women reported their clitoris to be more sensitive than their vagina in terms of having more pleasurable responses.
The main takeaway from these scientific studies is that while the vaginal stimulation can contribute to orgasm, most women find that their clit is the most sensitive area and should be caressed, stimulated, rubbed and loved if you want to bring to her to orgasm easily when fingering her.
Side note: Some women still struggle to orgasm from clitoral stimulation. But that’s normal, just like it’s normal for guys to ejaculate after just a few minutes of sex…although I do have a guide on how to last longer in bed in case you’re worried about your “speed.”
Even if you don’t do anything else, rubbing her clit is enough for most women to climax, provided you’ve got her in the mood first by removing the Brakes to her sex drive so she can get turned on and you have also ensure that you’ve actively made her horny by amplifying the Accelerators to her sex drive. Otherwise, go back to those steps before diving into vaginal fingering.
You’ll almost always need some kind of lube, otherwise, it will feel more painful than pleasurable for most women (damn friction!). Plus, lube just lets your finger or hand move more easily. It’s like when you masturbate without lube versus with lube. There are two options here:
1. The ideal option is to lightly press your finger into her vagina first and using her natural lubrication as lube on your fingertip. If you ever feel your finger drying out, then just return to her vagina. This might not provide enough lubrication for some women, however.
2. Alternatively, keep a bottle of lube on your bedside table.
Next, is figuring out what type of rubbing she responds to best?
Direct stimulation of her clit with your finger or indirect at the edge of her clit like in the above demonstrations or somewhere in between?
Intense or light pressure or somewhere in between?
Fast, slow or medium rubbing?
A combination?
As always, the key to truly satisfying her is figuring out what SHE enjoys, not following these instructions blindly, so make sure to get feedback from her, either by listening to her body or by talking to her.
Lastly, you can incorporate this technique into sex when you’re having doggy style sex.
2. Long, Slow Stroking
Stroking her from the bottom of her vagina to her clit is a great technique to pleasure her. It’s also a great way to cover your finger in her natural lubrication. Again, you need to try varying your technique, changing how much pressure you’re using and how fast you’re moving your finger. Also, feel free to stroke in the opposite direction, down from her clit to her vagina.
Feel free to compliment her as you please her. Some women feel self-conscious about how they look.
Lastly, you can use one finger like in the above illustration, but feel free to use 2, 3 or like in the next technique…
3. Four Fingers of Fun
If your partner needs more stimulation to orgasm, then Four Fingers of Fun should do it! All you will be doing is rubbing your four fingers over her clit, labia, and vagina in a circular motion. Using her natural lubrication on your fingers will make it much slippier, wetter and satisfying for her.
As I keep repeating (like a broken record!), make sure to try varying your technique to see what works best whether it’s the amount of pressure you use to how big your circles are to how many fingers you use…two or three fingers may feel better than four for her.
4. Her U Spot
The U Spot should probably be called the “secret spot”, as so few people seem to know about it. While you can see it indicated in the diagram below as the darker shade of pink, it’s important to understand that it doesn’t have any distinct coloring on your female partner. It’s the area just above her urethra and to the sides of it.
Just like with rubbing her clit, using a lubed finger is best. Then it’s simply a case of gently stroking it as demonstrated in the diagram below. Extending your finger up to her clit as you stroke will help to increase the amount of pleasurable stimulation she receives.
Not every woman gets that much pleasure for U Spot stimulation, so if your girl isn’t digging it, then don’t worry about it too much, just try using another technique.
5. The Clitoral Hood
Some women have a clitoris so sensitive that it hurts when touched directly. If you are with a woman who has a clit this sensitive, then no matter how softly you rub it, it will hurt her, and you won’t pleasure her.
Fortunately, there is a simple solution. You just need to rub her clitoral hood instead. That’s the small bit of skin covering her clit like your foreskin covers your penis. This way her clitoral hood acts as a sort of buffer between your finger and you can still provide her with lots of pleasurable stimulation.
Just like your penis, her clit becomes erect when aroused.
6. Orgasmic Meditation
Orgasmic Meditation may sound a bit woo-woo or like something reserved only for yoga-loving vegans, but that’s just the name, it’s surprisingly easy to perform. And if you do it right, you can give your girl a 15-minute orgasm.
That’s right, a 15-minute orgasm.
I don’t know why Orgasmic Meditation works so well, but once you see the benefits, you and your girl will be hooked.
The get set up, your partner needs to lie down on her back with her legs spread open and she needs to get relaxed. Then you need to get into a comfortable position sitting down to her right side with your left leg bent and over her stomach and your right leg under her right leg. You then need to start stroking the upper left quadrant of her clit with just one lubricated finger very slowly and lightly. I’ve indicated this upper left quadrant area between the dotted lines in the illustration above. Your touch should be as light as possible.
You’re going to move your finger a few millimeters back and forth making sure to apply only the slightest amount of pressure to her clit. Some women report that this kind of stimulation feels almost frustrating, and they can’t tolerate it for long, that it seems like you are teasing her, while others say that the longer they do it, the better it feels.
This is actually what you are aiming for! Even if your partner doesn’t achieve a prolonged orgasm, this is perfect for making her beg for more.
So even if your girl is begging you more pressure or stimulation, try to hold off and not give it to her, making sure to use the very least amount of pressure possible.
Sex is a very personal thing, so bear in mind there is no “correct” way to perform Orgasmic Meditation. If you find a variation of the above technique to work best, then please stick with that and use our advice as a set of guidelines about the best way to finger a girl, not rigid instructions. Experiment with lying down beside your partner while performing it or focus on a different area of her clit or whatever works best for both of you.
7. Squeezing/Massaging The Base Of Her Clit
Obviously, you know how sensitive the tip of her clit is. What you may not know is that most of the components of the clitoris are buried under the skin.
So, why not play with parts of her clit that usually get little attention by massaging and gently squeezing it.
Massaging or squeezing the base of her clit is easy, just place your thumb and index finger on either side of her clit like in the illustration above. Then GENTLY press down and inwards so that you are ‘squeezing’ the base of her clit between the folds of skin surrounding it. Do not squeeze the exposed part of her clit; this will hurt her!
Start off with very gentle pressure and see how she reacts. Then increase or decrease the amount of pressure you use based on her feedback.
Then it’s just a simple case of playing around with her clit between the folds of skin, by rolling it between your index finger and thumb. You can also lightly jerk it up and down.
As I keep repeating, the most important thing you can do is lots of experimentation and get her feedback to see what type of stimulation she enjoys most as you’re squeezing and massaging the base of her clit.
8. Loving Her Labia
While her labia are not nearly as sensitive as her clit, there are a lot of very enjoyable ways you can pleasure and stimulate them.
Slowly rubbing them up and down like in the above diagram can bring her close to orgasm without her climaxing, which makes for great foreplay.
For many women, when they climax from clitoral stimulation, her clit can become ultra sensitive and painful for her if you touch it immediately, so you’ll want to hold off rubbing it for a few minutes. This makes her labia the perfect option for focusing on until her clit calms down and stops being so sensitive. If her labia are long enough, you can also rub her clitoris through them if she’s too sensitive for direct stimulation.
Using either her own natural lubrication or some from a bottle will make stroking her labia feel even more pleasurable for her.
9. Humping & Grinding
Many women first learn to masturbate through dry humping or grinding or rubbing against a pillow, toy, blanket or bed. She might also use it a form of foreplay before sex, so why not use this to your advantage when trying to make her orgasm? Here are two ways you do just that:
• When she is lying down in bed, slip one leg in between hers and gently press it up against her vulva. Then slowly move it forward and backward over her vagina while maintaining pressure.
• While sitting down, have her straddle one of your legs and then encourage her to grind on it by gently pushing and pulling her hips forwards and backward.
Basically, any position where she has the ability to grind on you is perfect!
10. Fingering From Behind
[ATTACH type="full"]3298577[/ATTACH]Every girl is different, so her “hot buttons” or favorite ways to be fingered may differ from previous women you have been with. The only way to find out how she enjoys being fingered by you is to either experiment or to simply ask her. If she’s willing, have her guide your hand to stimulate her from the angle that she usually uses so you can finger her the way she likes best.
With that being said, one way that many women enjoy being fingered is from behind, on the opposite side of her vagina to her G Spot, as demonstrated above.
How to Finger a Pussy Internally
Whether you’re aiming for G-spot stimulation or you just want to rub her vagina in general, these tips can help.
• Use lube.
• Make sure your fingernails are cut short and filed smooth.
• The same goes for rough hands.
• Wash your hands beforehand to avoid spreading bacteria, which can cause infection.
• Start with one finger. You can always add more (and some women like four fingers or even to be fisted!), but you want to give her time to get used to each finger as you rub her pussy internally.
• Pay attention to her responses. If she gets tense, pulls away, seems disinterested, or is in pain, do less of that. If she moans, breathes heavier, gets closer to you, or writhes, keep it up!
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