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I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
 
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At your age getting a girlfriend shouldn't be your primary focus since they don't last, the girl and you are still immature and you're just gonna be way sadder once the relationship ends when the truth is that it was doomed from the start.

but i also used to be extremely shy and anxious when talking to people to the point where my legs would be legit shaking and i was barely able to stand, the way i got over it was forcing myself to be extroverted and just talking to people.
 
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Do everything to get girl wth ninja

There normgroids that will say something like people above but it's over for them

You shouldn't try to do something so as not to feel nervous, but simply do it even if you feel it

Also, in reality, in a year no one except you will remember that you did it, you will think more about why you did nothing even though you had chances
 
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I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
nigger this is looksmaxxing section :feelstastyman:
 
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At your age getting a girlfriend shouldn't be your primary focus since they don't last, the girl and you are still immature and you're just gonna be way sadder once the relationship ends when the truth is that it was doomed from the start.

but i also used to be extremely shy and anxious when talking to people to the point where my legs would be legit shaking and i was barely able to stand, the way i got over it was forcing myself to be extroverted and just talking to people.
thank you for the advice ❤️
 
thank you for the advice ❤️
also just letting you know that the process of not being anxious talking to people is very long, it took me around 2 years to be able to talk to people normally without being uncomfortable
 
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At your age getting a girlfriend shouldn't be your primary focus since they don't last, the girl and you are still immature and you're just gonna be way sadder once the relationship ends when the truth is that it was doomed from the start.

but i also used to be extremely shy and anxious when talking to people to the point where my legs would be legit shaking and i was barely able to stand, the way i got over it was forcing myself to be extroverted and just talking to people.
Im 16 and ive been with my girlfriend for a year and 3 months now, love at this age can Definetly last you just need to find the right person for u. We both have similar interests and ever since we got together I felt like we are literally the same person, just different gender.
 
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also just letting you know that the process of not being anxious talking to people is very long, it took me around 2 years to be able to talk to people normally without being uncomfortable

Im 16 and ive been with my girlfriend for a year and 3 months now, love at this age can Definetly last you just need to find the right person for u. We both have similar interests and ever since we got together I felt like we are literally the same person, just different gender.
my problem is that im not being able to find a girl with close/similar interests like mine
 
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Im 16 and ive been with my girlfriend for a year and 3 months now, love at this age can Definetly last you just need to find the right person for u. We both have similar interests and ever since we got together I felt like we are literally the same person, just different gender.
i'm happy for you, it's just the case 95% of the time because people mostly just want a mate for the status of having a bf/gf rather than for the significant other themselves yknow?
 
i'm happy for you, it's just the case 95% of the time because people mostly just want a mate for the status of having a bf/gf rather than for the significant other themselves yknow?
That’s true, all my friends have been telling me crazy stories about girls using them and then when I ask them how is that even possible they tell me that my girl is 1 in a million. So I guess I got pretty lucky
 
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my problem is that im not being able to find a girl with close/similar interests like mine
that's normal, it's very rare to find a mate with similar interests but it'll come your way eventually hopefully
 
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I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
be good looking and you'll have no problem finding one
 
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I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
to be honest I've been an still am there my advice is don't underrate practicing social skills it does work and does do wonders once you learn how to talk to certain people with certain personalities, also if your issue is stuttering, getting red etc is should go away on it's own once you get good at socializing but for now i would suggest you use some pharma, if I know I want to smoothly socialize I'll take a lexotan or some beta blockers. If u want to u can mark me as solution I'll be very very grateful and wish you luck and the best :p❤️ oh and now i also see "where i can find girls" you can hit them up on the street if you're brave enough don't say some shit like "hey bby u soo sexy gimme number 🤤" DON'T PLS, go up to one and say "hey I think i knowu I've seen you around here aren't you Rebecca?" she'll prob say no and you say oooh okay who are you then she says her name you say your name and nice to meet you the you add some shit like hey i like your outfit btw she says thx, talk something about how's ur day going, how long have you been around here if she's communicative u can make a friend with benefits pretty easily, u can find girls at uni, libraries, coffee shops, churches if your religious ANYWHERE. And the key to this is even if once you hit someone up and it feels awkward DON'T STOP THERE don't give up you got this bhaitito chip ❤️

SO a tldr would be practice social skills (yt, apps, books guides etc.), use pharma if needed, when hitting up a foid don't make it obvious ur trying to get their number. AGAIN good luck and u can mark me as solution if u want to :p❤️❤️❤️
 
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be good looking and you'll have no problem finding one
this is 100% true but learning social skills is soooo underrated, if bro's actually a mmtn with the right social skills he could slay, i got a htn friend who's socially awkward all the time and can't slay for shit because foids find him wierd :feelswhy::feelswhy:
 
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SO a tldr would be practice social skills (yt, apps, books guides etc.), use pharma if needed, when hitting up a foid don't make it obvious ur trying to get their number. AGAIN good luck and u can mark me as solution if u want to :p❤️❤️❤️
bhai js fuck a girl n ignore her for a week and then shes attached asf easy pickings :lul::lul:
 
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I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
So this isn't a looksmaxxing question but a anxiety question.

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Now that being said, having nice hair which girls enjoy running their fingers through and playing with always helps.
 
I have bad social anxiety and especially when im talking to girls which kind off makes things hard.
im 16 turning 17, mmtn 183cm 64kg
I don’t have a lot of friends in general and i absolutely hate partying.
I just need a good advice on how to find girls and be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
i hope this reaches the correct audience and i never get hated on or judged because im trying my best to improve. thank you all ❤️
Just be confident bro, being serious then to get a gf you need good genetics to attract, and a good personality to keep.
 
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step 1 find a girl to fuck, BUT THIS IS W ADVICE ALSO
vro do girls like to get roughed up or sum cuz i see ppl be like bro my girl told other girls that i hurt her during sex :lul::lul:

idk its probably preference but first thing i did wit mine lowk fucking pinned her down hands round her neck typa shit :forcedsmile::lul:
 
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vro do girls like to get roughed up or sum cuz i see ppl be like bro my girl told other girls that i hurt her during sex :lul::lul:

idk its probably preference but first thing i did wit mine lowk fucking pinned her down hands round her neck typa shit :forcedsmile::lul:
yeah the majority of girls are undercover hardcore masochists icl and that's what i can you from my experience from being close friends with a couple of foids and they started opening up more EVERY SINGLE ON OF THEM 💀💔✌🏻
 
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yeah the majority of girls are undercover hardcore masochists icl and that's what i can you from my experience from being close friends with a couple of foids and they started opening up more EVERY SINGLE ON OF THEM 💀💔✌🏻
ik bruh

i told my gf id fuck the shit out of her if she told her friends anything

but she loves me so that all i care about :)
 
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thanks so much bhai i preciate you so much <3

dude have you slayed??????
no I'm still a khhv unfortunately 💔🤧 but I'm getting better day to day at socializing and talking with foids and this shit is working icl, but 0 slays 0 exes etc. as of now only failed talking stages because i was a retard who showed my true personality 🤧✌🏻 BUT now icl all the socializing knowledge and pharma usage and shit just clicked in me and I'm so fucking smooth socially manifesting that I'll slay a foid soon because that's what it's looking like 🤲🏻🥹
 
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no I'm still a khhv unfortunately 💔🤧
dont worry brother i was at that stage once in my life too

how old are u rn?
but I'm getting better day to day at socializing and talking with foids and this shit is working icl, but 0 slays 0 exes etc. as of now only failed talking stages because i was a retard who showed my true personality 🤧✌🏻 BUT now icl all the socializing knowledge and pharma usage and shit just clicked in me and I'm so fucking smooth socially manifesting that I'll slay a foid soon because that's what it's looking like 🤲🏻🥹
theres 2 routes you can take :lul:

you ask the foid "do u wanna fuck" <- i was scared so i did the second option

ripped off her tshirt and shorts and fucked her :lul:
 
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how old are u rn?

theres 2 routes you can take :lul:

you ask the foid "do u wanna fuck" <- i was scared so i did the second option

ripped off her tshirt and shorts and fucked her :lul:
17, AND HIGH IQ LMAOAO WILL USE SECOND OPTION IF 1ST DOESN'T WORK :lul::lul::lul:
 
to be honest I've been an still am there my advice is don't underrate practicing social skills it does work and does do wonders once you learn how to talk to certain people with certain personalities, also if your issue is stuttering, getting red etc is should go away on it's own once you get good at socializing but for now i would suggest you use some pharma, if I know I want to smoothly socialize I'll take a lexotan or some beta blockers. If u want to u can mark me as solution I'll be very very grateful and wish you luck and the best :p❤️ oh and now i also see "where i can find girls" you can hit them up on the street if you're brave enough don't say some shit like "hey bby u soo sexy gimme number 🤤" DON'T PLS, go up to one and say "hey I think i knowu I've seen you around here aren't you Rebecca?" she'll prob say no and you say oooh okay who are you then she says her name you say your name and nice to meet you the you add some shit like hey i like your outfit btw she says thx, talk something about how's ur day going, how long have you been around here if she's communicative u can make a friend with benefits pretty easily, u can find girls at uni, libraries, coffee shops, churches if your religious ANYWHERE. And the key to this is even if once you hit someone up and it feels awkward DON'T STOP THERE don't give up you got this bhaitito chip ❤️

SO a tldr would be practice social skills (yt, apps, books guides etc.), use pharma if needed, when hitting up a foid don't make it obvious ur trying to get their number. AGAIN good luck and u can mark me as solution if u want to :p❤️❤️❤️
insane advice thank u man
 
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183cm 64kg
bulk and gym. shoulders, back, chest, arms, abs in that order of priority.
i absolutely hate partying.
depends whether you want to ltr or slay/crack. ltr? go to some close/decent friends parties (force yourself if you have to). parties where people know a decent proportion of the guests are good to meet new people. if you don't like it, you have to force yourself and take the leap.
bad social anxiety
train yourself to have good demeanour and drink. get a few drinks in, lower inhib (but not blackout drunk). i remember i was at a club with a mirror on the wall behind the bar and i spent 30 minutes dancing and looking at myself until i knew the exact type of smile, exact teeth exposure, exact 'eye open size' (im asian) to look good.
be able to talk to them without feeling awkward and nervous.
don't deep any single girl. no girl should ever matter that much to you - you have to trick yourself into thinking that a) its all a game to play and losing meaning NOTHING and b) even if you hit it off with a girl, it's only your turn; she's never going to be yours. let it go when the time comes and know that the time will come.

i have a quick add spree every few months where i just spray and pray on snap, there will always be convos that become text talking stages, use these as practice to learn how ot text girls.

just a grey's ramblings, dont rep if advice doesn't apply.
 
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dude u got time trust how tall are u???

lmao but its generally cuz i dont give a fuck about stuff but 2nd option is really good if u think shes into it
193 cm tall shoeless
fetching masochist foids of the street IS the new meta ❤️
 
bulk and gym. shoulders, back, chest, arms, abs in that order of priority.

depends whether you want to ltr or slay/crack. ltr? go to some close/decent friends parties (force yourself if you have to). parties where people know a decent proportion of the guests are good to meet new people. if you don't like it, you have to force yourself and take the leap.

train yourself to have good demeanour and drink. get a few drinks in, lower inhib (but not blackout drunk). i remember i was at a club with a mirror on the wall behind the bar and i spent 30 minutes dancing and looking at myself until i knew the exact type of smile, exact teeth exposure, exact 'eye open size' (im asian) to look good.

don't deep any single girl. no girl should ever matter that much to you - you have to trick yourself into thinking that a) its all a game to play and losing meaning NOTHING and b) even if you hit it off with a girl, it's only your turn; she's never going to be yours. let it go when the time comes and know that the time will come.

i have a quick add spree every few months where i just spray and pray on snap, there will always be convos that become text talking stages, use these as practice to learn how ot text girls.

just a grey's ramblings, dont rep if advice doesn't apply.
i actually gym and im finding myself progressing, i was 57kg 5-6 months ago and i increased 7kg and i started noticing that i have good shoulder( not narrow but not extremely wide) but my chest genetics are pure ass
 
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social circle, lovebomb, proximity
 
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holy fuck got heightmogged :feelswhy:

6,3 at 17 is crazy shit

:lul::lul::lul:
i think it's like 6'4 ish more but i can tell you truely from long deep chats I've had with some foids that they don't care about height as long as someone is 6' and above, and also I've had this shitty talking stage where the foid replaced me with a 170cm manlet shorter than her :feelswhy:
 
this is 100% true but learning social skills is soooo underrated, if bro's actually a mmtn with the right social skills he could slay, i got a htn friend who's socially awkward all the time and can't slay for shit because foids find him wierd :feelswhy::feelswhy:
If your a introvert and socially awkward just take some nicotine patches with pregabalin and you'll be good
 
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i think it's like 6'4 ish more but i can tell you truely from long deep chats I've had with some foids that they don't care about height as long as someone is 6' and above, and also I've had this shitty talking stage where the foid replaced me with a 170cm manlet shorter than her :feelswhy:
FUCK i hate foids dude

also how tall was u at like early 16 :forcedsmile:
 
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