Lowkchopped
Iron
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I’m writing this because nobody used to fucking like me. Not for no reason because I was a fucking annoying bitch. I didn’t deserve shit socially because I couldn’t shut the fuck up.
I wasn’t ugly or skinny either. Im a 6'4 lightskin HMTN I get hella girls, I get pussy. That wasn’t the problem.
The problem was I talked too much. I yapped nonstop. And because of that, people at my school didn’t like me.
This is what actually worked.
1. I realized talking less isn’t bad
I used to think being quiet meant I was boring or invisible. That’s backwards.
Talking a lot doesn’t make you important. It makes you exhausting.
Once I accepted that silence isn’t a bad thing, everything changed.
2. I stopped treating conversations like open mics or a playstation party
I used to feel like I had to fill every pause. If there was silence, I’d panic and start yapping and then i would end up saying some bullshit that annoyed or weirded out everyone.
Now I just let it sit.
Most of the time, the other person talks instead. Or the conversation just ends which is fine. Not every interaction needs to go somewhere.
3. I cut what I say in half (then half again)
This sounds stupid but it works.
If I think of saying something:
I say it shorter
Or I don’t say it at all
Most thoughts don’t need to be spoken. They don’t add anything.
4. I stopped explaining myself
This was a big one.
I used to over explain everything so people wouldn’t misunderstand me. All it did was make me look unsure.
Now I say what I mean once and stop. If someone doesn’t get it, that’s not my problem.
5. I slowed down when I talk
Fast talking made me sound nervous even when I wasn’t.
Now I speak slower and pause before answering. It makes you come off calmer and more in control, even if you don’t feel that way yet.
6. I stopped trying to be funny
This one hurt my ego.
Trying to be funny all the time is basically asking for approval. When it doesn’t land, it’s brutal.
I only joke when it’s natural now. If nothing comes to mind, I stay quiet. People respect that way more.
7. I accepted that not everyone needs my energy
Before, I gave everyone attention, commentary, opinions.
Now most people just get neutral responses. Not rude, not cold — just normal.
Saving your energy makes it worth something.
8. The biggest change: I don’t care if I’m liked in the moment
This is what actually fixed it.
When you stop trying to be liked, you stop doing annoying shit.
When you stop doing annoying shit, people relax around you.
Ironically, that’s when people start liking you.
And also think before you say shit ik it sounds dumb and you've heard it a bunch but think brah
Extra
Practice these things
Default to silence — don’t speak unless there’s a reason.
Wait 3 seconds before replying to anything.
Breathe slow and deep (in 4, out 4) when you feel amped.
Practice short answers in the mirror, then stop.
Cap yourself at one sentence when you talk.
Move slower and stay still to slow your mouth.
Observe instead of commenting on everything.
Sit in silence 10 minutes a day to build tolerance.
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I wasn’t ugly or skinny either. Im a 6'4 lightskin HMTN I get hella girls, I get pussy. That wasn’t the problem.
The problem was I talked too much. I yapped nonstop. And because of that, people at my school didn’t like me.
This is what actually worked.
1. I realized talking less isn’t bad
I used to think being quiet meant I was boring or invisible. That’s backwards.
Talking a lot doesn’t make you important. It makes you exhausting.
Once I accepted that silence isn’t a bad thing, everything changed.
2. I stopped treating conversations like open mics or a playstation party
I used to feel like I had to fill every pause. If there was silence, I’d panic and start yapping and then i would end up saying some bullshit that annoyed or weirded out everyone.
Now I just let it sit.
Most of the time, the other person talks instead. Or the conversation just ends which is fine. Not every interaction needs to go somewhere.
3. I cut what I say in half (then half again)
This sounds stupid but it works.
If I think of saying something:
I say it shorter
Or I don’t say it at all
Most thoughts don’t need to be spoken. They don’t add anything.
4. I stopped explaining myself
This was a big one.
I used to over explain everything so people wouldn’t misunderstand me. All it did was make me look unsure.
Now I say what I mean once and stop. If someone doesn’t get it, that’s not my problem.
5. I slowed down when I talk
Fast talking made me sound nervous even when I wasn’t.
Now I speak slower and pause before answering. It makes you come off calmer and more in control, even if you don’t feel that way yet.
6. I stopped trying to be funny
This one hurt my ego.
Trying to be funny all the time is basically asking for approval. When it doesn’t land, it’s brutal.
I only joke when it’s natural now. If nothing comes to mind, I stay quiet. People respect that way more.
7. I accepted that not everyone needs my energy
Before, I gave everyone attention, commentary, opinions.
Now most people just get neutral responses. Not rude, not cold — just normal.
Saving your energy makes it worth something.
8. The biggest change: I don’t care if I’m liked in the moment
This is what actually fixed it.
When you stop trying to be liked, you stop doing annoying shit.
When you stop doing annoying shit, people relax around you.
Ironically, that’s when people start liking you.
And also think before you say shit ik it sounds dumb and you've heard it a bunch but think brah
Extra
Practice these things
Default to silence — don’t speak unless there’s a reason.
Wait 3 seconds before replying to anything.
Breathe slow and deep (in 4, out 4) when you feel amped.
Practice short answers in the mirror, then stop.
Cap yourself at one sentence when you talk.
Move slower and stay still to slow your mouth.
Observe instead of commenting on everything.
Sit in silence 10 minutes a day to build tolerance.
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