How to overcome this

[AlexAP]

I can't break out of my social isolation and anhedonia/alexythimia (however you wanna call it). I never feel anything, even if I try to be outgoing, I don't connect with anyone, therapy, drugs, traveling didn't change that.

Honestly these are things I struggle with:
- Giving and receiving compliments. I basically never give (and felt extremely awkward when I did) and the few times I received I just kinda froze. Never felt emotionally close to someone.
- Being enthusiastic about something. I'm always quiet, basically never smile when I talk and rarely reveal any interests, hobbies.
- Talking about vulnerabilites. Literally never mentioned any personal problem I had face-to-face to other persons, from small issues to big issues.

All I want is become normal, yet I have no idea how. I feel very down about this and starting to not see the point in life anymore if it will remain so empty forever.

 

[asdvek]

Rotten raw eggs are good to fix that

 

[Kiril Velev]

you all niggas get this wrong you dont want to become normal all those this alone never connext with anyone this is normal in life people of this sort either end up like me and by sheer luck find other people of the exact same kind or dont PURE luck if you dont live with it

 

[The Grinch]

Cold shower and jutting

 

[Kroker]

Drop some DMT/LSD you need ego death

 

[kisuke]

All I want is become normal, yet I have no idea how. I feel very down about this and starting to not see the point in life anymore if it will remain so empty forever.

brother i hate to tell you this but you will never be "normal" , i recognize myself in what you said and honestly the only thing you can do to come close to a "normal" life is just act and fake it all the time , but even that gets exhausting , honestly we just have to accept the fact we weren't born to be socially successful

 

[AlexAP]

brother i hate to tell you this but you will never be "normal" , i recognize myself in what you said and honestly the only thing you can do to come close to a "normal" life is just act and fake it all the time , but even that gets exhausting , honestly we just have to accept the fact we weren't born to be socially successful

I don't think I can accept that, as long as I live I will want to feel connected to other people, and not empty inside.

 

[kisuke]

I don't think I can accept that, as long as I live I will want to feel connected to other people, and not empty inside.

holding on to a false hope will hurt you more than accepting the fact you can't connect with people , that doesn't mean you can't have a decent social circle and frequent reassurance , it just won't be that authentic

 

[AlexAP]

Drop some DMT/LSD you need ego death

Nah, I'm too high inhib for hard drugs, and the experiences I read from others make it worse.

 

[AlexAP]

Bump

 

[AlexAP]

Please help

 

[BeanCelll]

Watching some xabi alonso edits

 

[BeanCelll]

Watching some xabi alonso edits

On a real note, no fucking clue

In fact this post helped me finally attach a label to all the retarded shit that I also have to deal with

 

[AlexAP]

On a real note, no fucking clue

In fact this post helped me finally attach a label to all the retarded shit that I also have to deal with

It's so brutal man, I need help, not even the suicide hotline is attending atm, I feel very down.

 

[BeanCelll]

It's so brutal man, I need help, not even the suicide hotline is attending atm, I feel very down.

I'm indifferent to it's been a long long time.

It sounds like you want to change though which is always a good sign and the most important checkbox to be filled out when undergoing transformation

 

[thenewhebbe]

Talk to a doctor or a therapist. If they can't fix it you will never be normal

 

[AlexAP]

Talk to a doctor or a therapist. If they can't fix it you will never be normal

I don't think it will help, I went as a kid and later teen and it didn't change shit. But there must be another solution.

 

[thenewhebbe]

I don't think it will help, I went as a kid and later teen and it didn't change shit. But there must be another solution.

Seems like it isn't. Obviously you might not been paying attention as teen or kid

 

[raumDEuter]

It probably has to become so bad that you'll either break or succeed.

Idk man, I've been COMPLETELY isolated since 3 years now, no friends, no connection to family whatsoever, and I've come to terms that I probably won't change until it utterly rapes my ass. I obviously can't judge your circumstances, but what drives my social impotence is just a deep feeling of inferiority, which I don't think I'll ever cure.
Either one day the dice fall into the right spot, I click, and maybe my life turns around, or I'll spare a visit to gandy in my 30s - but at least I have some time only being 21 yet. For the time I go monk mode, do my degree and gymrot to be ready if, and if so, when the moment comes.

As of right now I've become too cynical to care and just live my life caught in the same routine like a oldfag only waiting for his death, so be said that you're not the only one. Although I don't feel the same pressure as you, yet.