How to quit alcohol in this alcohol based world

[Canwefixit]

Almost every social event is drinking. My mates drink, my family drink, picking up women requires some alcohol. However if I was to quit, id be a lot more boring socially and I also would look non-NT. I already give off an autistic vibe but quitting alcohol and telling people I don’t drink at social events will make me look even more non-NT. I still want to drink alcohol during special occasions like a wedding, holiday, big night out. However drinking most days with mates and family needs to go as it’s lifeminning me due to money, health, and productivity loss.

 

[longjohnmong]

find another substance, or, even better, a rotation of different substances

 

[Canwefixit]

find another substance, or, even better, a rotation of different substances

At social events I will still be wanting that drink and also where I live, you get judged for not drinking

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

At social events I will still be wanting that drink and also where I live, you get judged for not drinking

Hahaha couldn't be me hahaha

 

[Canwefixit]

Hahaha couldn't be me hahaha

In the UK we often go to pubs. My family go, my mates go and it’s turned into this hobby of mine where after work ill get drunk at the pub with either family or friends. Its only really the male family members who drink (dad, grandad, uncle). My dad is a very bad alcoholic who drinks 8 pints of beer everyday and said he hasn’t had a day without drinking since 1990s

 

[longjohnmong]

At social events I will still be wanting that drink and also where I live, you get judged for not drinking

then I guess you're SOOL

 

[Toad]

As an on and off alcoholic myself, i recommend finding out what kind of mental illness or disorders you suffer from because if you feel the need to drink everyday it's likely because you have some kind of chemical imbalance in your brain and you're using alcohol to self medicate. Once I got put on meds for my adhd It significantly reduced my cravings for alcohol because the stims provided the dopamine and motivation I desperately needed

 

[Canwefixit]

then I guess you're SOOL

Im just gonna embrace it, ill turn up to the pub or bar and order a coke

 

[sub5outsider]

quit everything that involves drinking if people in your social circle drink stop hanging with them ect

 

[Canwefixit]

As an on and off alcoholic myself, i recommend finding out what kind of mental illness or disorders you suffer from because if you feel the need to drink everyday it's likely because you have some kind of chemical imbalance in your brain and you're using alcohol to self medicate. Once I got put on meds for my adhd It significantly reduced my cravings for alcohol because the stims provided the dopamine and motivation I desperately needed

Thanks man, luckily im not an everyday drinker. If no one else is about, I won’t drink but usually I can find someone to hang out with 4-5 times a week. Ive never been an at home alone drinker so I don’t crave alcohol all the time. However drinking at pubs and bars is very expensive and drinking at home is so much cheaper.

quit everything that involves drinking if people in your social circle drink stop hanging with them ect

Good advice. However my family like to drink so that will be very hard to stop hanging with them. My best mate loves to drink and we used to be best mates without alcohol back when we were 17 and couldn’t get served alcohol at bars. I do see this mate of mine as someone holding me back and his drinking problem is even worse than mine so I doubt he will also quit or reduce it. However if I was to stop being mates with him, the drinking would reduce a lot.

 

[BrutalMogger]

drink water

 

[BrutalMogger]

its not complex algebra
they are drinking poison
just drink water
dont poison yourself

 

[Canwefixit]

drink water

Thats the sigma way. Personally id probably go for coca cola. Its less of a healthmin to alcohol also in UK pubs, if you drink tap water you are generally looked down upon as tap water is free so pubs and people dont like it. If you are in a big group it is socially acceptable.

its not complex algebra
they are drinking poison
just drink water
dont poison yourself

Are you completely alcohol free yourself? I hate the drinking all the time but a part of me will miss that poison and believes it has its place on holidays or very important events. However I am bad at moderation so will likely let it slip from rare occasions to regular occasions.

 

[qazw]

In the UK we often go to pubs. My family go, my mates go and it’s turned into this hobby of mine where after work ill get drunk at the pub with either family or friends. Its only really the male family members who drink (dad, grandad, uncle). My dad is a very bad alcoholic who drinks 8 pints of beer everyday and said he hasn’t had a day without drinking since 1990s

I'm also from UK and hate the drinking culture here. I even have to go out for drinks at work. Becoming NT in UK is impossible if you don't drink

 

[Canwefixit]

I'm also from UK and hate the drinking culture here. I even have to go out for drinks at work. Becoming NT in UK is impossible if you don't drink

I think the status quo is beginning to change. I am seeing a lot more people drinking non alcoholic beers compared to 5 years ago. However it still is heavily drink based. Im sure in like 20 years pubs it will have changed and there will be a lot less pubs around as they will struggle to earn money in this economy.

 

[AustrianMogger]

find another substance, or, even better, a rotation of different substances

Is there any substance that has good effects and has fewer long therm effects than alcohol?

 

[SoundnVision]

As an on and off alcoholic myself, i recommend finding out what kind of mental illness or disorders you suffer from because if you feel the need to drink everyday it's likely because you have some kind of chemical imbalance in your brain and you're using alcohol to self medicate. Once I got put on meds for my adhd It significantly reduced my cravings for alcohol because the stims provided the dopamine and motivation I desperately needed

Thanks for posting this, Ive had problems with alcohol and I have ADHD symptoms. How do I get tested ?
Would love to be put on some meds that got rid of my alcohol cravings.
Which meds are you on

 

[subhumanTK]

Almost every social event is drinking. My mates drink, my family drink, picking up women requires some alcohol. However if I was to quit, id be a lot more boring socially and I also would look non-NT. I already give off an autistic vibe but quitting alcohol and telling people I don’t drink at social events will make me look even more non-NT. I still want to drink alcohol during special occasions like a wedding, holiday, big night out. However drinking most days with mates and family needs to go as it’s lifeminning me due to money, health, and productivity loss.

If it’s a money problem why don’t u just pregame with a cheap 6 pack and only buy 1 drink at bar ?

 

[subhumanTK]

As an on and off alcoholic myself, i recommend finding out what kind of mental illness or disorders you suffer from because if you feel the need to drink everyday it's likely because you have some kind of chemical imbalance in your brain and you're using alcohol to self medicate. Once I got put on meds for my adhd It significantly reduced my cravings for alcohol because the stims provided the dopamine and motivation I desperately needed

Can you pls PM me i want to ask you some questions about this