How to reduce nervousness

[Akhi]

For as long as I can remember, I was a nervous prick

What I mean is that im not able to sit still or relax my brain, its literally impossible

while im talking to someone my head goes on overdrive and it feels like I have a thousand thoughts simultaneously while I‘m actually supposed to listen to them

this makes convos pretty awkward often

Im just constantly on edge 24/7 and its exhausting to live that way

the only time the noises calm down is when I‘m drunk, and even then it needs to be a good day, the silence is very relaxing then

any tips? other than zthe fundamentals like good sleep, exercise and diet

 

[Deleted member 19968]

Just “socialise” more or go “outside”, it literally works

 

[Akhi]

Just “socialise” more or go “outside”, it literally works

never worked for me

 

[Deleted member 25743]

drink more

 

[EnglandBadman]

I didnt want to admit it either but exposure therapy does truly work, you get desensitised to it. I used to be socially nervous but started working an extremely social job and now just dont give af about what i say to randoms and can approach people withoit giving much thought, im still working on holding eye contact tho that shit feels too intimate and i cant think while doing it

 

[Deleted member 19968]

never worked for me

Havent done it enough then

 

[fuxkdakikez]

once an abused dog always an abused dog

 

[Deleted member 46979]

exposure therapy and mindfulness techniques

not that i've tried it, but based on logic and reasoning, they would be the most useful compared to most coping methods, especially the ssri method if yo ever take your problem to a le doctor lol

 

[lestoa]

Does this only happen when you are with women? Or does this happen to you even if you want to buy a sandwich, for example lmao

 

[Akhi]

I didnt want to admit it either but exposure therapy does truly work, you get desensitised to it. I used to be socially nervous but started working an extremely social job and now just dont give af about what i say to randoms and can approach people withoit giving much thought, im still working on holding eye contact tho that shit feels too intimate and i cant think while doing it

arent you the guy who eyefucks random women and dryfucked a random jb that stood before you?

your ‚nervous‘ isnt the same as mine

 

[Akhi]

Does this only happen when you are with women? Or does this happen to you even if you want to buy a sandwich, for example lmao

it happens with everyone, even little kids

worst are gl women tho (even if they show me they like me) i literally cant function

 

[Akhi]

exposure therapy and mindfulness techniques

not that i've tried it, but based on logic and reasoning, they would be the most useful compared to most coping methods, especially the ssri method if yo ever take your problem to a le doctor lol

well well well, in theory this sounds great in reality didnt help me

 

[Akhi]

Havent done it enough then

maybe

 

[MongolTurk]

The reason alcohol calms you down is because it’s gabaergic, it binds to the gaba receptors in your brain and inhibits your brain from going haywire.

Benzodiazepines do the same thing but more effectively, start taking those, it’s easy to get them prescribed. If you don’t want to go through the hassle of getting them prescribed or can’t find them on the black market, then try phenibut out. Phenibut is similar to alcohol but doesn’t fuck up your motor skills. Benzos like alprazolam are your best bet(Alprazolom is not the best benzo for this tho, addiction is very common and it’s not meant for long term use, it is fast acting and effective tho)

 

[Akhi]

The reason alcohol calms you down is because it’s gabaergic, it binds to the gaba receptors in your brain and inhibits your brain from going haywire.

Benzodiazepines do the same thing but more effectively, start taking those, it’s easy to get them prescribed. If you don’t want to go through the hassle of getting them prescribed or can’t find them on the black market, then try phenibut out. Phenibut is similar to alcohol but doesn’t fuck up your motor skills. Benzos like alprazolam are your best bet(Alprazolom is not the best benzo for this tho, addiction is very common and it’s not meant for long term use, it is fast acting and effective tho)

ive read about benzos but dont they make you heavily addicted and have insanely shitty withdrawals?

 

[MongolTurk]

ive read about benzos but dont they make you heavily addicted and have insanely shitty withdrawals?

This is mostly just with very fast acting and short lasting benzos(like alprazolam), it has the same addiction risk and withdrawals as alcohol so it ain’t that bad, you can avoid the withdrawals by tapering off. You can very easily get prescribed a safer benzo, talk to a doctor or online telehealth service and look at your options

 

[anthony111553]

fucking hell, lucky ass niggas im 22 and live in a dead place with old people.

 

[p0lishsubhuman]

I didnt want to admit it either but exposure therapy does truly work, you get desensitised to it. I used to be socially nervous but started working an extremely social job and now just dont give af about what i say to randoms and can approach people withoit giving much thought, im still working on holding eye contact tho that shit feels too intimate and i cant think while doing it

Whats your job

And if its extremely social how come havent you been fired during your first days since you used to be so nervous back then

 

[efidescontinuado]

It might be an overdeveloped amygdala problem, you could try using psychedelics.

I have never tried them though.

 

[incelmogger]

ive read about benzos but dont they make you heavily addicted and have insanely shitty withdrawals?

Don’t do them for more than a month

 

[anthony111553]

have you heard of masturbation

 

[Johnnybegood]

The reason for your nervousness is your looks. Don’t fool yourself. I have never met a genuinely good looking guy that was nervous in informal settings. Maybe when they are in a business meeting to deal with business issues but other than that never.

 

[incelmogger]

meds, sauna, ice bath and frequent prayer. Also just socialise more you’ll get used to it and will develop skills.

 

[DR. NICKGA]

+15 minute meditation

Well even 5 minutes do wonders

 

[Akhi]

it has the same addiction risk and withdrawals as alcohol

so the withdrawal will kill me?

just joking thanks

 

[Akhi]

+15 minute meditation

Well even 5 minutes do wonders

adhd makes meditation difficult

 

[Akhi]

The reason for your nervousness is your looks. Don’t fool yourself. I have never met a genuinely good looking guy that was nervous in informal settings. Maybe when they are in a business meeting to deal with business issues but other than that never.

yea cope however you want but thats not my issue

keep projecting tho

 

[Akhi]

It might be an overdeveloped amygdala problem, you could try using psychedelics.

I have never tried them though.

i am very paranoid of having a bad trip, i can get very anxious on weed alone

 

[incelmogger]

so the withdrawal will kill me?

just joking thanks

They’re worse than alcohol so don’t take them for more than a month or just use them sparingly when you get super fucking anxious, especially when it comes to Xanax as it’s the fastest acting benzo with shortest half life.

 

[DR. NICKGA]

adhd makes meditation difficult

Then practice it

 

[MongolTurk]

so the withdrawal will kill me?

just joking thanks

it only has that risk if you quit it cold turkey, it's worth a shot imo but talk to your doctor of course

 

[gribsufer1]

I didnt want to admit it either but exposure therapy does truly work, you get desensitised to it. I used to be socially nervous but started working an extremely social job and now just dont give af about what i say to randoms and can approach people withoit giving much thought, im still working on holding eye contact tho that shit feels too intimate and i cant think while doing it

not really, aftwr talking to girls im still scared of my itis

 

[1sleeep23]

I didnt want to admit it either but exposure therapy does truly work, you get desensitised to it. I used to be socially nervous but started working an extremely social job and now just dont give af about what i say to randoms and can approach people withoit giving much thought, im still working on holding eye contact tho that shit feels too intimate and i cant think while doing it

whats your job if i may ask, i definitely need the practise