Socialising
Most of you have probably known that you can't just live carefree as a HTN. Socialising happens everyday, even you have seen those who benefit from it despite looking like ogres.
Well, here's a real guide on how to not be nd, and gain real leverage against your local Chad.
Effort
The main reason you fuck up your interactions, is that you are simply too 'nonchalant' or 'too less'. You think that responding with a nod or a muscle spasm fuck of a "yeah" is enough, you have a mental illness.
What you should be expecting from an interaction(really fucking important)
Your aim should be maintaing the conversation, not indulging in whatever ass you're talking about. If they're talking about a sport you have no fucks about? Ask them about it, respond with "Oh my, so what happened next?" or something similar your adhd mind can think about. Flow with them, deflect questions about the unknown subject by responding with phrases that mean "I don't know" in a conversational way. What you want is a soon-to-be-long-time acquaintance.
Step 1: Forcing situations.
If you see an opportunity, don't think of anything else except what you're going to do.
Examples: See someone next to what you're looking to pick up as you're about to stand? Ask them "Yo bruv, could you pass me that"?
See that ltb passing you? Comment something neutral about her like, how ordinarily ugly she looks.
Step 2: Maintaining the conversation(adding on to the really fucking important)
Do NOT use phrases that forces your victim to either: walk away, abruptly change subjects, or look at you like you're some fag). Basically, don't antagonize(unless bantering), don't shut their subject down(like jumping topics), and don't comment personal things about them that isn't positive(even if the commnet is neutral, don't say it)
Saying something like "I don't know what that is gagahhrhaggahaha" or "Man, what are you saying", is bound to turn their heads away from you. If you kill their ability to speak, you lose. Again, FLOW with them.
Step 2.2: Flow
(break)These are just universal examples, since you probably aren't socially informed. These examples are meant to keep them talking, and you not talking.
"What happened next?" - for if they finish a statement, or they look at you for a reaction(remember the first spoiler)
"Fucking hell, did you/(insert other person) actually do that?" - for if they claim something they or someone else did that they expect a reaction of
"I haven't seen that, what was it like?" - (low effort I know) for if they ask a question about a topic you don't know of.
Step 3: Ending the interaction
This step is quite simple. All you have to do is deflect after they finish a statement.
Examples:
"You're too good bro. I needa grab something real quick" or "Damn, I feel you bro." - for if they've ranted about something personal
>find something you can mention(ONLY when they finish a statement)
> focus on it and then get away from them
If they're talking about a subject you have no clue in, you can always just use an "I don't know" phrase. (Might even work if they don't know, that you know of the subject).
Always follow up with a reaction, or a "goodbye" phrase.
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View people as social boosters, if they know you and want to interact with you, then great. Once you make an interaction with someone, your goal is to get them closer.
First time interaction: topics should be about the setting(e.g. what's happening in the room) / small things about each other / positively commenting on each other
Small acquaintance: topics should be about what you or they have been doing / small things about personal life / relevant topics(you can talk about your own or theirs)
Long time: You're probably bantering, making racist jokes about them at this stage, so there's not much to do except maintaing what they already know about you.
Good guide right
Most of you have probably known that you can't just live carefree as a HTN. Socialising happens everyday, even you have seen those who benefit from it despite looking like ogres.
Well, here's a real guide on how to not be nd, and gain real leverage against your local Chad.
Effort
The main reason you fuck up your interactions, is that you are simply too 'nonchalant' or 'too less'. You think that responding with a nod or a muscle spasm fuck of a "yeah" is enough, you have a mental illness.
What you should be expecting from an interaction(really fucking important)
Your aim should be maintaing the conversation, not indulging in whatever ass you're talking about. If they're talking about a sport you have no fucks about? Ask them about it, respond with "Oh my, so what happened next?" or something similar your adhd mind can think about. Flow with them, deflect questions about the unknown subject by responding with phrases that mean "I don't know" in a conversational way. What you want is a soon-to-be-long-time acquaintance.
Acting is just as important, so copy their body language dudes. You'll feel more respondable(hltn+ specialty)
Step 1: Forcing situations.
If you see an opportunity, don't think of anything else except what you're going to do.
Examples: See someone next to what you're looking to pick up as you're about to stand? Ask them "Yo bruv, could you pass me that"?
You'll probably receive a nod or they simply just pass it you, but that's probably because of your autism reputation
Just say something to her that antagonizes somebody else, like "That guy is so fat bruh"
Do NOT use phrases that forces your victim to either: walk away, abruptly change subjects, or look at you like you're some fag). Basically, don't antagonize(unless bantering), don't shut their subject down(like jumping topics), and don't comment personal things about them that isn't positive(even if the commnet is neutral, don't say it)
Saying something like "I don't know what that is gagahhrhaggahaha" or "Man, what are you saying", is bound to turn their heads away from you. If you kill their ability to speak, you lose. Again, FLOW with them.
Step 2.2: Flow
(break)These are just universal examples, since you probably aren't socially informed. These examples are meant to keep them talking, and you not talking.
"What happened next?" - for if they finish a statement, or they look at you for a reaction(remember the first spoiler)
"Fucking hell, did you/(insert other person) actually do that?" - for if they claim something they or someone else did that they expect a reaction of
"I haven't seen that, what was it like?" - (low effort I know) for if they ask a question about a topic you don't know of.
Step 3: Ending the interaction
This step is quite simple. All you have to do is deflect after they finish a statement.
Examples:
"You're too good bro. I needa grab something real quick" or "Damn, I feel you bro." - for if they've ranted about something personal
>find something you can mention(ONLY when they finish a statement)
> focus on it and then get away from them
If they're talking about a subject you have no clue in, you can always just use an "I don't know" phrase. (Might even work if they don't know, that you know of the subject).
Always follow up with a reaction, or a "goodbye" phrase.
///
View people as social boosters, if they know you and want to interact with you, then great. Once you make an interaction with someone, your goal is to get them closer.
First time interaction: topics should be about the setting(e.g. what's happening in the room) / small things about each other / positively commenting on each other
Small acquaintance: topics should be about what you or they have been doing / small things about personal life / relevant topics(you can talk about your own or theirs)
Long time: You're probably bantering, making racist jokes about them at this stage, so there's not much to do except maintaing what they already know about you.
I've constantly berated and antagonized the air in this guide, it was just to keep people reading
Good guide right
