aerian
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after not dating since i was 14yo (now 17yo) i finally found someone im actually into and we're moving toward a relationship but im having issues
it is upsetting me that i feel anything at all when someone besides the person im interested gives me a compliment, or even the fact that im recognizing im attracted to someone else. it is deadass affecting my mental health and im starting to feel like a bad person & even worse partner
its especially difficult because its not something im actively doing, just reading a compliment from someone on a text message im into will just release dopamine in my head and then immediately makes me upset with myself. i mean im not dating them yet, but if this is how i am now i doubt itll change that much and i will begin to loathe myself if i keep having this happen
its not even like im talking to these people out of a position of wanting to be like that or anything, these are literally people who are like my friends & they just happen to be physically attractive to me, and when they end up doing anything relatively nice to me or that can be read as affection i catch the equivalent of an elementary school crush on them and i dont know how to get rid of it
its making me upset and has been on my mind for the past couple days and i have no idea what to do about it. do i just cut off those friends?? because i genuinely like talking to them its just unfortunate things like this happen it is stressing me out
it is upsetting me that i feel anything at all when someone besides the person im interested gives me a compliment, or even the fact that im recognizing im attracted to someone else. it is deadass affecting my mental health and im starting to feel like a bad person & even worse partner
its especially difficult because its not something im actively doing, just reading a compliment from someone on a text message im into will just release dopamine in my head and then immediately makes me upset with myself. i mean im not dating them yet, but if this is how i am now i doubt itll change that much and i will begin to loathe myself if i keep having this happen
its not even like im talking to these people out of a position of wanting to be like that or anything, these are literally people who are like my friends & they just happen to be physically attractive to me, and when they end up doing anything relatively nice to me or that can be read as affection i catch the equivalent of an elementary school crush on them and i dont know how to get rid of it
its making me upset and has been on my mind for the past couple days and i have no idea what to do about it. do i just cut off those friends?? because i genuinely like talking to them its just unfortunate things like this happen it is stressing me out
