How to stop trying to prove yourself good to normies?

[NoReedemingFeature]

I still feel the compulsion to show my positive traits to normalfags, trying to not receive their judgement over my character as well.

 

[greycel]

Whenever you talk with them, you need to have an active thought in your mind that constantly reaffirms to you that they are not above you (no matter how they look/ what they say).
Remind yourself you do not need to prove yourself to them

The bigger thing is to make sure this mentality doesn’t get out of control and develop into an ego problem/ superiority complex
Keep yourself grounded too

 

[lemonnz]

You can’t, it is instinctive to try to fit in.

If you neglect this instinct you become miserable and severely mentally ill

 

[JeanneDArcAlter]

You can’t, it is instinctive to try to fit in.

If you neglect this instinct you become miserable and severely mentally ill

 

[superpsycho]

You can’t, it is instinctive to try to fit in.

If you neglect this instinct you become miserable and severely mentally ill

 

[superpsycho]

i quit caring about normies

i just want what they have

 

[princeof316]

I still feel the compulsion to show my positive traits to normalfags, trying to not receive their judgement over my character as well.

when i was lower inhib I just had an ego and looked down on all of them and you just stop caring

 

[Alias!]

I still feel the compulsion to show my positive traits to normalfags, trying to not receive their judgement over my character as well.

When you think this just think of Richard Ramirez.

 

[cute]

The only thing normies care about is money and status. If you don’t severely mog them in that then just dont even try tbh

 

[Daddy's Home]

1. You can isolate yourself, but that can't really work, because life will get miserable very fast + it greatly decreases your life satisfaction

2. You can't do that, because we are beings who have now associated ourselves with this body, we now have an ego, and we also now have a brain that chemically forces/dictates us to be social and to want to have people around us

3. Respawnmaxing, and hope that next time it will be something that doesn't require approval from others

 

[greycel]

You can’t, it is instinctive to try to fit in.

If you neglect this instinct you become miserable and severely mentally ill

For me it’s been the complete opposite
After adopting this mentality, I’ve finally found peace

Everyday I felt as if I had to live up to the expectations others had set for me. Part of it was to not be ridiculed, but it went beyond that slightly. I liked the admiration and superiority. It was an ego thing too

It felt like a prison. And it does you no benefit. If you are doing good, those around you will eventually become envious and will either consciously or subconsciously try to bring you down to their level.
Even the closest people to you (bar your immediate family) will wish for you to succeed, but not more than themselves.

I went out of my way to ridicule myself for things I’m actually competent in. Over time this negates the validation seeking mentality you might have. Also bringing the bar of expectation lower.
Nowadays idgaf what people think of me. Good or bad, I know their thoughts aren’t going to have any effect on my actions

@NoReedemingFeature you might also find it helpful to start keeping secrets that only you know and will ever know. Shift the focus from proving yourself to others, to proving your capabilities to yourself

 

[lemonnz]

For me it’s been the complete opposite
After adopting this mentality, I’ve finally found peace

Everyday I felt as if I had to live up to the expectations others had set for me. Part of it was to not be ridiculed, but it went beyond that slightly. I liked the admiration and superiority. It was an ego thing too

It felt like a prison. And it does you no benefit. If you are doing good, those around you will eventually become envious and will either consciously or subconsciously try to bring you down to their level.
Even the closest people to you (bar your immediate family) will wish for you to succeed, but not more than themselves.

I went out of my way to ridicule myself for things I’m actually competent in. Over time this negates the validation seeking mentality you might have. Also bringing the bar of expectation lower.
Nowadays idgaf what people think of me. Good or bad, I know their thoughts aren’t going to have any effect on my actions

@noreedemingfeatures you might also find it helpful to start keeping secrets that only you know and will ever know. Shift the focus from proving yourself to others, to proving your capabilities to yourself

I was socially isolated bc I was too shy, it made me severely depressed and as a result even more shy and it keep going like a cycle.

No matter what anyone says, the biggest #1 motivator will always be society, no one does things simply for themselves.

 

[NoReedemingFeature]

For me it’s been the complete opposite
After adopting this mentality, I’ve finally found peace

Everyday I felt as if I had to live up to the expectations others had set for me. Part of it was to not be ridiculed, but it went beyond that slightly. I liked the admiration and superiority. It was an ego thing too

It felt like a prison. And it does you no benefit. If you are doing good, those around you will eventually become envious and will either consciously or subconsciously try to bring you down to their level.
Even the closest people to you (bar your immediate family) will wish for you to succeed, but not more than themselves.

I went out of my way to ridicule myself for things I’m actually competent in. Over time this negates the validation seeking mentality you might have. Also bringing the bar of expectation lower.
Nowadays idgaf what people think of me. Good or bad, I know their thoughts aren’t going to have any effect on my actions

@noreedemingfeatures you might also find it helpful to start keeping secrets that only you know and will ever know. Shift the focus from proving yourself to others, to proving your capabilities to yourself

It's not fully true saying your mentality can't be changed and/or is predetermined regarding these things. I was much more pathetic few years before this. You don't have to stay a narcy feminine cuck

 

[greycel]

It's not fully true saying your mentality can't be changed and/or is predetermined regarding these things. I was much more pathetic few years before this. You don't have to stay a narcy feminine cuck

Exactly
The doomers too sad/lazy/unwilling to change, hide behind the illusion it’s impossible to change. Don’t let them convince you.
Every action/thought pointing in a particular direction, of whatever magnitude, will cause a stacking effect that’ll eventually create two very different people.
The smallest choices matter.

 

[quantitativePSL]

give some examples

 

[NoReedemingFeature]

give some examples

Mainly trying not to seem dumb or socially inept to them, caring if they believe me to be wrong, evil, etc. And turning disappointed when someone goes on to point or call out some fault of mine

 

[quantitativePSL]

Mainly trying not to seem dumb or socially inept to them, caring if they believe me to be wrong, evil, etc. And turning disappointed when someone goes on to point or call out some fault of mine

All of that is normal but if you're finding it exceedingly hard to live up to society's expectations of you then it can be a hard thing to gain the confidence to overcome that feeling and just not give a fuck, one way is to realize those expectations really don't mean too much, if you're moggr all of that shit largely goes out the window, same if you have some other halo like very good athlete. Me personally, I view normies as beneath me I only care about what the people I care about think of me and even then it really depends.