i cant cope with not being extraordinary

[perfection is law]

to me theres 4 categories you fall under when it comes to ranking yourself based on looks, height, frame, etc

1. below average
2. average
3. above average
4. extraordinary

lets look at face for example, i would say my face is average and i have potential to be above average with surgery but thats about it, i dont think i have potential to be extraordinarily attractive. extraordinary attractiveness would be a guy like alain delon, ian somerhalder or vito, a guy that just doesnt even look real and girls would be in shock upon seeing them. i dont know why it jsut bothers me so much that i'll never get that shock factor when it comes to anything about me. im also average height and yea my frame is above average but its not extraordinary. i wish i possessed an extraordinary feature that shocked people (in a good way ofc), but im average or slightly above average in pretty much every physical aspect.

 

[perfection is law]

bump

 

[suicidemonkey]

to me theres 4 categories you fall under when it comes to ranking yourself based on looks, height, frame, etc

1. below average
2. average
3. above average
4. extraordinary

lets look at face for example, i would say my face is average and i have potential to be above average with surgery but thats about it, i dont think i have potential to be extraordinarily attractive. extraordinary attractiveness would be a guy like alain delon, ian somerhalder or vito, a guy that just doesnt even look real and girls would be in shock upon seeing them. i dont know why it jsut bothers me so much that i'll never get that shock factor when it comes to anything about me. im also average height and yea my frame is above average but its not extraordinary. i wish i possessed an extraordinary feature that shocked people (in a good way ofc), but im average or slightly above average in pretty much every physical aspect.

You'd think it was cope but once you attain that state of very high attractiveness, the novelty would die off quickly and you'd be left with a sense of emptiness.

Life would probably be much more fun but there'd still be that aching sense of missing something.

Like I said though, your choice whether you take what I say with a grain of salt.

 

[perfection is law]

You'd think it was cope but once you attain that state of very high attractiveness, the novelty would die off quickly and you'd be left with a sense of emptiness.

Life would probably be much more fun but there'd still be that aching sense of missing something.

Like I said though, your choice whether you take what I say with a grain of salt.

maybe youre right man, it still sucks tho cuz even if i do reach a slightly above average attractiveness so like htn or something, and i end up marrying a woman, i would always feel like she looks at dudes who are cl or higher and just being shocked at their attractiveness. like even if she would never cheat on me the fact that another guys attractiveness shocked her just hurts me.

 

[Gonthar]

i wish i possessed an extraordinary feature that shocked people (in a good way ofc), but im average or slightly above average in pretty much every physical aspect.

Just become very good at one thing, even if it's something mundane...

 

[crazyguy]

to me theres 4 categories you fall under when it comes to ranking yourself based on looks, height, frame, etc

1. below average
2. average
3. above average
4. extraordinary

lets look at face for example, i would say my face is average and i have potential to be above average with surgery but thats about it, i dont think i have potential to be extraordinarily attractive. extraordinary attractiveness would be a guy like alain delon, ian somerhalder or vito, a guy that just doesnt even look real and girls would be in shock upon seeing them. i dont know why it jsut bothers me so much that i'll never get that shock factor when it comes to anything about me. im also average height and yea my frame is above average but its not extraordinary. i wish i possessed an extraordinary feature that shocked people (in a good way ofc), but im average or slightly above average in pretty much every physical aspect.

true, you should go for #1

 

[suicidemonkey]

maybe youre right man, it still sucks tho cuz even if i do reach a slightly above average attractiveness so like htn or something, and i end up marrying a woman, i would always feel like she looks at dudes who are cl or higher and just being shocked at their attractiveness. like even if she would never cheat on me the fact that another guys attractiveness shocked her just hurts me.

Even if she did feel that way about highly attractive men - which she realistically would, the actual way in which she responds to those thoughts is what you should be focused on.

Just because she feels that way about other men doesn't mean that she needs to act on those thoughts. In this particular scenario, the fact that it hurts you so much might mean you need a more stable sense of self worth (e.g. religion comes to mind).

But look bro I get it that's a very real struggle to have.