JasGews69x
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I started seeing this man at the start of last year. 10 months in, he offered for me to move into his house (that he owns) to help with the cost of rent because I’m on an
exorbitant amount of medication that was making it difficult to afford rent, medication and food.
We had a conversation before I moved in about how anxious I was about the idea of essentially being “at his mercy” when it came to housing. I’ve had unstable living situations before, and I have trauma resulting from those. He copiously reassured me that I wouldn’t be in an unstable situation, and I pushed aside my anxiety, blaming it on trauma. He’d shown no signs of mental instability, problematic behavior, etc.
A couple of weeks before my birthday in January, I’d mentioned to him that I was once again having anxiety about being in his house, mostly due to his behavioral changes and mental instability (he’s in therapy for issues now that he only started in December). He reassured me, and this is a direct quote “you’ll always have a safe space here, I’d never kick you out, I promise!”.
Fast forward to mid-January, literally the morning after my birthday….he kicks me out. No notice, no warning, just “your stuff can stay while you find another place, but you need to leave”. I hadn’t even finished unwrapping my birthday presents.
I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have friends rally around me to help me find somewhere on such short notice, and also help me pack and move. But I’m done trusting men to keep their word.
exorbitant amount of medication that was making it difficult to afford rent, medication and food.
We had a conversation before I moved in about how anxious I was about the idea of essentially being “at his mercy” when it came to housing. I’ve had unstable living situations before, and I have trauma resulting from those. He copiously reassured me that I wouldn’t be in an unstable situation, and I pushed aside my anxiety, blaming it on trauma. He’d shown no signs of mental instability, problematic behavior, etc.
A couple of weeks before my birthday in January, I’d mentioned to him that I was once again having anxiety about being in his house, mostly due to his behavioral changes and mental instability (he’s in therapy for issues now that he only started in December). He reassured me, and this is a direct quote “you’ll always have a safe space here, I’d never kick you out, I promise!”.
Fast forward to mid-January, literally the morning after my birthday….he kicks me out. No notice, no warning, just “your stuff can stay while you find another place, but you need to leave”. I hadn’t even finished unwrapping my birthday presents.
I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have friends rally around me to help me find somewhere on such short notice, and also help me pack and move. But I’m done trusting men to keep their word.
