I don't know how to socialize and it's ruining everything

[iblamemyself!]

I have already asked an opinion on here. And tried every single tip youve said. Nothing works bro

i’m not even exaggerating when i say i never learned how to socialize. i never had real friends growing up. and now that i finally have a few people i can technically call friends, i don’t even know how to talk to them.
like bro… even my best friends? we say “hey” and “hru” like once a week. that’s the entire convo. no depth. no energy. just those two messages like we’re robots keeping a friendship alive on life support.

and when i actually see them at school. it’s the exact same script. “yo” then “hru” and then nothing. i just sit there and watch them talk to others. they’re so fluent, so casual, so natural. i don’t get it. how does that come so easy to them? how do they always know what to say?

and i swear it’s not even the language. i’ve been in france for 3 years now. i speak it. i understand it. but socially i still feel like a foreigner. like i’m permanently lagging 5 seconds behind every interaction.

i’m so bad at this that my own best female friend isn’t talking to me anymore. she face timed me once, and bro… 5 minutes of complete silence. not even exaggerating. just silence. and after that i hung up.
she probably thinks i hate her. or that i’m dry. or awkward.
but truth is, i literally don’t know what to say.
i want to. i really do. but it’s like my brain just blanks out under pressure.

and don’t even get me started on girls. i’m insecure as hell. even if one of them actually liked me, the convo would die instantly. i wouldn’t know how to ask things, how to joke, how to respond.
i wouldn’t know how to connect.

people told me “just pick one extroverted friend and copy him” yeah i tried that. doesn’t work when your soul is locked in silence and your mind shuts down every time attention turns to you.
i don’t need a script.
i need a rewiring.

because right now i feel like a ghost trying to play human
and it’s starting to hurt.

 

[Onknown47594]

Get a j#b that forces u to socialize, it helped me a lot

 

[copester2]

i have also had problems with socializing and what litteraly worked for me what to pick up on new ''memes'' js say like 67 to your friends or sum and work your way up to something else, for example if you say 67 and they answer back the same, then pick up your phone and show them something related to that meme or just practise in the mirror
now rep me

 

[copester2]

i have also had problems with socializing and what litteraly worked for me what to pick up on new ''memes'' js say like 67 to your friends or sum and work your way up to something else, for example if you say 67 and they answer back the same, then pick up your phone and show them something related to that meme or just practise in the mirror
now rep me

and you dont even have to do that you can also pick up on mainstream music and humm it or some shit

Just dont overthink it

 

[Sihveri]

I had the same problem, you just need to stop giving a fuck. Just say what comes to ur mind, if it’s weird shit n it won’t become to a convo just laugh it off.

Try to find the natural flow, ask them about something and be genuienly intrested, asking stuff and interacting into the convo

 

[PumpkinCrane823]

I have already asked an opinion on here. And tried every single tip youve said. Nothing works bro

i’m not even exaggerating when i say i never learned how to socialize. i never had real friends growing up. and now that i finally have a few people i can technically call friends, i don’t even know how to talk to them.
like bro… even my best friends? we say “hey” and “hru” like once a week. that’s the entire convo. no depth. no energy. just those two messages like we’re robots keeping a friendship alive on life support.

and when i actually see them at school. it’s the exact same script. “yo” then “hru” and then nothing. i just sit there and watch them talk to others. they’re so fluent, so casual, so natural. i don’t get it. how does that come so easy to them? how do they always know what to say?

and i swear it’s not even the language. i’ve been in france for 3 years now. i speak it. i understand it. but socially i still feel like a foreigner. like i’m permanently lagging 5 seconds behind every interaction.

i’m so bad at this that my own best female friend isn’t talking to me anymore. she face timed me once, and bro… 5 minutes of complete silence. not even exaggerating. just silence. and after that i hung up.
she probably thinks i hate her. or that i’m dry. or awkward.
but truth is, i literally don’t know what to say.
i want to. i really do. but it’s like my brain just blanks out under pressure.

and don’t even get me started on girls. i’m insecure as hell. even if one of them actually liked me, the convo would die instantly. i wouldn’t know how to ask things, how to joke, how to respond.
i wouldn’t know how to connect.

people told me “just pick one extroverted friend and copy him” yeah i tried that. doesn’t work when your soul is locked in silence and your mind shuts down every time attention turns to you.
i don’t need a script.
i need a rewiring.

because right now i feel like a ghost trying to play human
and it’s starting to hurt.

Bro join a social club for one of your hobbies

 

[lowiqcel__.]

Get a j#b that forces u to socialize, it helped me a lot

Didn't work for me , ig a little

 

[bp_framepill78]

I also had problems similar to that, js say whatever comes trhu you mind

Also, if that doesn't work, test what humor your friends fold to

Another tip: be gentle to everyone, they laugh more often, get you respected by everyone, and builds a real connection often. Rep me up

 

[Foreverbrad]

If you are GL enough normies should carry everything.