I F cheated on my dying husband with Stage 3 Cancer

[ElySioNs]

tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself.

I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. it was the cliche, corny love story. l used to see him at our local coffee shop but never really gave him much attention. We were just passers by who shopped at the same place. Until one day we both had the same order and walked up to the counter reaching for it. From there it was magic.

we dated for 2 years then eloped in our third year. like any other marriage we’ve had or ups and downs but came through strong each time. life was good up until a year ago when we learnt my husband has stage 3 cancer. he’s been doing all these treatments even when it drains the life out of him and while the disease has slowed it is still progressing. doctors have recommended hospice because at the rate he’s going they think treatment will kill him before his cancer does.

i thought i was handling it well until one day a co worker asked how i was doing and i just broke down sobbing. i hadn’t cried when we just found out, i hadn’t cried when i had to lift him off the bathroom floor every time after his chemo, i hadn’t cried when he was hospitalized with pneumonia because of his weakened immune system, i hasn’t cried when his doctors recommended he killed himself. but that day i did. and that was the start of my worst mistake.

i confided in my coworker (39m) about the stress and somewhere he became my stress relief. i shamefully started an affair that lasted until last week when my husband found out. i had forgot to delete some texts and he read them. i could see the emptiness in his eyes. he never lost his will to fight after every bad prognosis but finding out my betrayal drained him of it.

his exact words were “well i guess i have nothing left to fight for.” he has called his doctor and told him he reconsidered his opinion on hospice. no matter how much i’m crying, begging and pleading, my husband is going to kill himself as his revenge.

edit: I don’t know why I came here. I guess just to vent. You all have been calling me out rightfully so. I don’t have any words to explain why I did what I did. I truly love my husband with my whole heart. I was burnt out from being his caretaker and money maker. I am in no way blaming him. He’s apologized for not giving me the attention i needed leading me to turn to this and that his decision still stands as he feels i would be better off. My face is swollen from crying non stop. Please I just need advice on how to stop him

 

[LTNUser]

Nobody cares faggot

 

[DeadmansWonderland]

Nobody cares faggot

Fpbp. We do not care.

 

[LTNUser]

Fpbp. We do not care.

Fpbp?

 

[Thinking_CEL]

This foid thinks she’s the protagonist of some book ahh

Idrc tho at that point the nigga has cancer and she needs to fufil her sexual needs somehow

Tyrone and chadrigez will do the job

 

[DeadmansWonderland]

Fpbp?

First post best post.

 

[apocalypse]

She noticed her wallet was about to expire and monkey branched.

 

[Thinking_CEL]

Tho I hate these niggas who try to get with sad women in relationships and cuck niggas

Even if I was chad I would never do that no matter how much I hate the nigga i wouldn’t be able to sleep doing shit like that

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

The worst part is people experience this shit on the daily

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

Tho I hate these niggas who try to get with sad women in relationships and cuck niggas

Even if I was chad I would never do that no matter how much I hate the nigga i wouldn’t be able to sleep doing shit like that

I done it and had to stop myself

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself.

I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. it was the cliche, corny love story. l used to see him at our local coffee shop but never really gave him much attention. We were just passers by who shopped at the same place. Until one day we both had the same order and walked up to the counter reaching for it. From there it was magic.

we dated for 2 years then eloped in our third year. like any other marriage we’ve had or ups and downs but came through strong each time. life was good up until a year ago when we learnt my husband has stage 3 cancer. he’s been doing all these treatments even when it drains the life out of him and while the disease has slowed it is still progressing. doctors have recommended hospice because at the rate he’s going they think treatment will kill him before his cancer does.

i thought i was handling it well until one day a co worker asked how i was doing and i just broke down sobbing. i hadn’t cried when we just found out, i hadn’t cried when i had to lift him off the bathroom floor every time after his chemo, i hadn’t cried when he was hospitalized with pneumonia because of his weakened immune system, i hasn’t cried when his doctors recommended he killed himself. but that day i did. and that was the start of my worst mistake.

i confided in my coworker (39m) about the stress and somewhere he became my stress relief. i shamefully started an affair that lasted until last week when my husband found out. i had forgot to delete some texts and he read them. i could see the emptiness in his eyes. he never lost his will to fight after every bad prognosis but finding out my betrayal drained him of it.

his exact words were “well i guess i have nothing left to fight for.” he has called his doctor and told him he reconsidered his opinion on hospice. no matter how much i’m crying, begging and pleading, my husband is going to kill himself as his revenge.

edit: I don’t know why I came here. I guess just to vent. You all have been calling me out rightfully so. I don’t have any words to explain why I did what I did. I truly love my husband with my whole heart. I was burnt out from being his caretaker and money maker. I am in no way blaming him. He’s apologized for not giving me the attention i needed leading me to turn to this and that his decision still stands as he feels i would be better off. My face is swollen from crying non stop. Please I just need advice on how to stop him

As revenge?

Holy....

Poor fellas has not a damn thing to live for, he's done

And she's still making it about her

 

[psychomandible]

This bitch really talking about muh attention when da nigga has stage 3 cancer

 

[Thinking_CEL]

I done it and had to stop myself

I just can’t innit feels so low

 

[Ur fav sub 5]

tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself.

I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. it was the cliche, corny love story. l used to see him at our local coffee shop but never really gave him much attention. We were just passers by who shopped at the same place. Until one day we both had the same order and walked up to the counter reaching for it. From there it was magic.

we dated for 2 years then eloped in our third year. like any other marriage we’ve had or ups and downs but came through strong each time. life was good up until a year ago when we learnt my husband has stage 3 cancer. he’s been doing all these treatments even when it drains the life out of him and while the disease has slowed it is still progressing. doctors have recommended hospice because at the rate he’s going they think treatment will kill him before his cancer does.

i thought i was handling it well until one day a co worker asked how i was doing and i just broke down sobbing. i hadn’t cried when we just found out, i hadn’t cried when i had to lift him off the bathroom floor every time after his chemo, i hadn’t cried when he was hospitalized with pneumonia because of his weakened immune system, i hasn’t cried when his doctors recommended he killed himself. but that day i did. and that was the start of my worst mistake.

i confided in my coworker (39m) about the stress and somewhere he became my stress relief. i shamefully started an affair that lasted until last week when my husband found out. i had forgot to delete some texts and he read them. i could see the emptiness in his eyes. he never lost his will to fight after every bad prognosis but finding out my betrayal drained him of it.

his exact words were “well i guess i have nothing left to fight for.” he has called his doctor and told him he reconsidered his opinion on hospice. no matter how much i’m crying, begging and pleading, my husband is going to kill himself as his revenge.

edit: I don’t know why I came here. I guess just to vent. You all have been calling me out rightfully so. I don’t have any words to explain why I did what I did. I truly love my husband with my whole heart. I was burnt out from being his caretaker and money maker. I am in no way blaming him. He’s apologized for not giving me the attention i needed leading me to turn to this and that his decision still stands as he feels i would be better off. My face is swollen from crying non stop. Please I just need advice on how to stop him

Not even a molecule

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

As revenge?

Holy....

Poor fellas has not a damn thing to live for, he's done

And she's still making it about her

That mf is one hp and this broke him tf down

 

[Thinking_CEL]

This bitch really talking about muh attention when da nigga has stage 3 cancer

Women always wanna excuse cheating as to not feel guilty

They will rarely hold themselves accountable for it in any circumstances and even in the rare case they do their friends will convince them it’s somehow the cucks fault

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

I just can’t innit feels so low

Only if there mulatto. To get my revenge

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

Women always wanna excuse cheating as to not feel guilty

They will rarely hold themselves accountable for it in any circumstances and even in the rare case they do their friends will convince them it’s somehow the cucks fault

Boy if I get cucked I’m cucking back fuck the nigga

 

[tomcaelum]

Tho I hate these niggas who try to get with sad women in relationships and cuck niggas

Even if I was chad I would never do that no matter how much I hate the nigga i wouldn’t be able to sleep doing shit like that

You only think like this bc you’re not Chad. It’s just another slay in the book most the time, especially if you don’t already know the other guy. Still fucked up tho

 

[sushii]

I hope he oj simpsons her before he dies

 

[Thinking_CEL]

You only think like this bc you’re not Chad. It’s just another slay in the book most the time, especially if you don’t already know the other guy. Still fucked up tho

Not really I have too much respect for ppl and this includes ppl I don’t particularly like

I’d have to really hate a nigga to not feel guilty for doing that to me it’s just not worth it

I would feel uncomfortable doing it even around other ppl since they would know what I’m finna do it seems like the lowest shit someone can do to slay

 

[tomcaelum]

Not really I have too much respect for ppl and this includes ppl I don’t particularly like

I’d have to really hate a nigga to not feel guilty for doing that to me it’s just not worth it

I would feel uncomfortable doing it even around other ppl since they would know what I’m finna do it seems like the lowest shit someone can do to slay

Noo I’m js saying other ppl don’t know except for the girl and maybe the bf. I’d prefer the bf not know. I prob wouldnt do it. But I wouldn’t feel too bad if I didn’t know the guy. You’re an empathetic person tho which is good

 

[BNCcel]

Loved one is dying? Time for dick!

 

[Paul Mcartney69]

tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself.

I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. it was the cliche, corny love story. l used to see him at our local coffee shop but never really gave him much attention. We were just passers by who shopped at the same place. Until one day we both had the same order and walked up to the counter reaching for it. From there it was magic.

we dated for 2 years then eloped in our third year. like any other marriage we’ve had or ups and downs but came through strong each time. life was good up until a year ago when we learnt my husband has stage 3 cancer. he’s been doing all these treatments even when it drains the life out of him and while the disease has slowed it is still progressing. doctors have recommended hospice because at the rate he’s going they think treatment will kill him before his cancer does.

i thought i was handling it well until one day a co worker asked how i was doing and i just broke down sobbing. i hadn’t cried when we just found out, i hadn’t cried when i had to lift him off the bathroom floor every time after his chemo, i hadn’t cried when he was hospitalized with pneumonia because of his weakened immune system, i hasn’t cried when his doctors recommended he killed himself. but that day i did. and that was the start of my worst mistake.

i confided in my coworker (39m) about the stress and somewhere he became my stress relief. i shamefully started an affair that lasted until last week when my husband found out. i had forgot to delete some texts and he read them. i could see the emptiness in his eyes. he never lost his will to fight after every bad prognosis but finding out my betrayal drained him of it.

his exact words were “well i guess i have nothing left to fight for.” he has called his doctor and told him he reconsidered his opinion on hospice. no matter how much i’m crying, begging and pleading, my husband is going to kill himself as his revenge.

edit: I don’t know why I came here. I guess just to vent. You all have been calling me out rightfully so. I don’t have any words to explain why I did what I did. I truly love my husband with my whole heart. I was burnt out from being his caretaker and money maker. I am in no way blaming him. He’s apologized for not giving me the attention i needed leading me to turn to this and that his decision still stands as he feels i would be better off. My face is swollen from crying non stop. Please I just need advice on how to stop him