I feel like I lost all my young years doing nothing. I feel like I was hybernated

[Nation]

I had social anxiety at school, I was very weird and with nervous smile all the time. I had lucid eyes everytime I tried to talk with someone.
I had no friends, I stayed in my home all day except school and gym.
I used to feel very frustrated because I didnt have a social group. I remember spending the day looking at peoples on fb, I saw their vacations and their relationship going on, all the break ups while I was too anxious of acting like a normal human being.
I have no skills and basically almost 0 life experiences.

I felt anxious when talking to girls, I couldnt flirt with them because I didnt know how to, I felt awkward with human touch.
Then I found a work as waiter and I saw I was basically a kid in the body of a man, I was treated like a retard since I was extremely respectful, naive, good natured and I had no manual skills since I used to spend all my days at home. I thought I had autism since I acted like a baby.
I felt derealization when I was out, now in the last year at 29 I had a LTR, fucked some girls on Tinder, I used to take some beers with my friend at the gym, went on vacations or two days trip.
All these activities were out of my comfort zone since I had basically fear of everything and no idea how to act since everything was new to me.


I spent my life depressed and online on forums for years while everybody else lived their lives.

Now at 29, with certified low IQ ( NVLD) and OCD ( doctors) what can I do?
I kinda feel ridicolous going to clubs since I have no idea how to act.
I dont even know what job options I have since I dont have working memory and cant retain informations ( tried nootropics, meditation, dual n back exc).

There isnt hope for someone who want a nice high status job and basically hasnt lived

 

[MoggerGaston]

None of this shit was ur fault. Childhood/Teenage years are mostly determined by factors outside of your control imo. But the damage taken in those years can spill over in your young adulthood. It's fine, don't be so hard on yourself. Forgive yourself.

Start taking responsibility for your life and how it is right NOW and now only. The past doesn't matter. Any inexperience and awkwardness is normal for you, accept it and try to enjoy the learning experience.

Look at what you want out of life in the present and near future. The past doesn't exist man.

You are 29yo, just like any other other 29yo regardless of whatever the fuck they did in the past. That shit isn't written on your face and doesn't dictate who you are or who you can become.

 

[Orc]

most people are pathetic by the time they're your age even if they did all the things you wanted to do.

 

[Johnnybegood]

Hey at least you had some slays off Tinder at 29...better than the average guy tbh

 

[poopoohead]

I had social anxiety at school, I was very weird and with nervous smile all the time. I had lucid eyes everytime I tried to talk with someone.
I had no friends, I stayed in my home all day except school and gym.
I used to feel very frustrated because I didnt have a social group. I remember spending the day looking at peoples on fb, I saw their vacations and their relationship going on, all the break ups while I was too anxious of acting like a normal human being.
I have no skills and basically almost 0 life experiences.

I felt anxious when talking to girls, I couldnt flirt with them because I didnt know how to, I felt awkward with human touch.
Then I found a work as waiter and I saw I was basically a kid in the body of a man, I was treated like a retard since I was extremely respectful, naive, good natured and I had no manual skills since I used to spend all my days at home. I thought I had autism since I acted like a baby.
I felt derealization when I was out, now in the last year at 29 I had a LTR, fucked some girls on Tinder, I used to take some beers with my friend at the gym, went on vacations or two days trip.
All these activities were out of my comfort zone since I had basically fear of everything and no idea how to act since everything was new to me.


I spent my life depressed and online on forums for years while everybody else lived their lives.

Now at 29, with certified low IQ ( NVLD) and OCD ( doctors) what can I do?
I kinda feel ridicolous going to clubs since I have no idea how to act.
I dont even know what job options I have since I dont have working memory and cant retain informations ( tried nootropics, meditation, dual n back exc).

There isnt hope for someone who want a nice high status job and basically hasnt lived

Try becoming a CDL driver. They make bank once they buy their own truck.

 

[Deleted member 17920]

You’re just a sigma male

 

[Nation]

None of this shit was ur fault. Childhood/Teenage years are mostly determined by factors outside of your control imo. But the damage taken in those years can spill over in your young adulthood. It's fine, don't be so hard on yourself. Forgive yourself.

Start taking responsibility for your life and how it is right NOW and now only. The past doesn't matter. Any inexperience and awkwardness is normal for you, accept it and try to enjoy the learning experience.

Look at what you want out of life in the present and near future. The past doesn't exist man.

You are 29yo, just like any other other 29yo regardless of whatever the fuck they did in the past. That shit isn't written on your face and doesn't dictate who you are or who you can become.

Imho people around me know im not normal even if Im actually fitting in the group.
This dude at work always makes jokes saying Im not normal exc

 

[Nation]

Try becoming a CDL driver. They make bank once they buy their own truck.

My mental problems dont allow me taking higher licenses

 

[MakinMogReturns]

Hey at least you had some slays off Tinder at 29...better than the average guy tbh

Not for the average white guy.

 

[bleksandre]

It is not your fault at all. You can change very few things in your life by the will.

 

[Deleted member 21628]

so youre autistic??

 

[MakinMogReturns]

so youre autistic??

He possibly is.

 

[poopoohead]

My mental problems dont allow me taking higher licenses

Damn man. Have you looked into any type of trade like becoming an electrician or plumber?

 

[Danish_Retard]

Damn man. Have you looked into any type of trade like becoming an electrician or plumber?

If he can't be a trucker he definitely won't be able to become an electrician or plumber, they are the two hardest trades to learn.

I'd recommend getting a union job at a factory or dock, some guys at my factory that operate machines who've been here for some years can get around $50/hr. Triple that ($150/hr) if you do nightwork on holidays. You can definitely manage to live a normal life on that wage despite the work being braindead repetition

 

[Nation]

Try becoming a CDL driver. They make bank once they buy their own truck.

He possibly is.

Whay makes you think about that?
Actually I dont struggle in social situations except clubs or things like that, there I have 0 opinion how to behave other than staying on the couch

 

[Nation]

If he can't be a trucker he definitely won't be able to become an electrician or plumber, they are the two hardest trades to learn.

I'd recommend getting a union job at a factory or dock, some guys at my factory that operate machines who've been here for some years can get around $50/hr. Triple that ($150/hr) if you do nightwork on holidays. You can definitely manage to live a normal life on that wage despite the work being braindead repetition

Problem is Im kinda goofy at driving and I struggle with orientation exc

 

[DarkTetrad]

Problem is Im kinda goofy at driving and I struggle with orientation exc

You’re just a retard stfu and get something done

 

[eduardkoopman]

most people are pathetic by the time they're your age even if they did all the things you wanted to do.

true that.
they are regularly, fat, bald, ugly. or overstressed

 

[Deleted member 16515]

I was about to make a thread like this recapping the first 6 months of this year that I wasted being depressed and insecure
glad I'm 16 and I'm getting out of it tho

 

[Deleted member 21146]

I was about to make a thread like this recapping the first 6 months of this year that I wasted being depressed and insecure
glad I'm 16 and I'm getting out of it tho

Yo u got friend group now

 

[MakinMogReturns]

Whay makes you think about that?
Actually I dont struggle in social situations except clubs or things like that, there I have 0 opinion how to behave other than staying on the couch

You said your nervous around women and awkward at 30 years old. That is not normal at all.

 

[Deleted member 16515]

Yo u got friend group now

I always had one but I will make a thread explaining how my life almost fell apart in January and I'll tag you

 

[Deleted member 21146]

I always had one but I will make a thread explaining how my life almost fell apart in January and I'll tag you

Are you fr 7 inches shorter than your dad

 

[Deleted member 16515]

Are you fr 7 inches shorter than your dad

yes plus I've grown an inch recently
I was 8 inches shorter than him untill recently

 

[bloomercel]

It is over. This is the one case where that saying hits hard instead of being a funny meme. You can't even cope with hobbies or moneymaxxing since years of rotting in what was supposed to be the prime of your life destroyed your brain. There is no coming back from this. I believe millions of young and now not so young men are going through this exact same predicament, and it's over for all of them also. Video games might be perfect for this, they're a massive time waste and distraction, maybe that's what you need.

 

[Nation]

It is over. This is the one case where that saying hits hard instead of being a funny meme. You can't even cope with hobbies or moneymaxxing since years of rotting in what was supposed to be the prime of your life destroyed your brain. There is no coming back from this. I believe millions of young and now not so young men are going through this exact same predicament, and it's over for all of them also. Video games might be perfect for this, they're a massive time waste and distraction, maybe that's what you need.

Yes but I dont enjoy video games.
Actually some Travels helped me makes me feeling like I was living

 

[tallnegga]

Try becoming a CDL driver. They make bank once they buy their own truck.

No, they don’t. You need at least 3+ trucks to start making money