metagross
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At this point I question some of my prior beliefs about the blackpill.
I always thought that looks is the only thing that matters. And I still think it matters a great deal, but there is this guy 5'5 tall, who is dressing like a nerd.
But he lifemogs me to death. Has a good-looking girlfriend and goes partying a lot. He has lots of friends aswell. Not Chad-level popular, but decent enough social life.
Meanwhile I have problems keeping contact with anyone. Example: The good-looking girlfriend of this 5'5 actually messaged me after I saw her at a birthday party. That was like 7-8 months ago. Anyway, she said that I seemed like a nice and chill guy and asked me to hang out with them. I did. I drank with that friend group two times.
But now, we somehow don't talk anymore. I messaged her a week ago and she left me on read. This is a common occurence, btw. I can make some decently good-looking pictures, so women would tell me I am good-looking, handsome, hot, cute, etc. on Instagram (depending on the girl) and hit me up, message me first. We establish contact but eventually it fizzles out and I can't keep anyone interested in having a conversation with me or meeting up.
I thought that it may be my looks to some degree, and maybe it is. But that goes for relationships mostly. - The problem is I can't even become friends with people. I can't even manage to end up in the friendzone. There was this one girl, who had the same interests as me. I wanted to become a friend of hers. She thought I wanted to date her, and said she might go on a date with me eventually. She was very open at the beginning and initiated conversations a lot. Would write like 4 messages until I replied but then, one night I went to bed and the next day, she didn't answer.
I wrote a message again, saying "Hey" and again, no response. All of a sudden ghosted.
I get some girlfriends and did have a fwb, aswell. So looks is not the main issue I think. The friendships don't even work.
Additionally, this is not limited to girls either. I have no real male friends anymore for pretty much the same reason. No one really reaches out to me.
Can someone give me tips on how to be more social? I am starting to think that there must be something wrong with my personality, but I don't really know what it is.
I always thought that looks is the only thing that matters. And I still think it matters a great deal, but there is this guy 5'5 tall, who is dressing like a nerd.
But he lifemogs me to death. Has a good-looking girlfriend and goes partying a lot. He has lots of friends aswell. Not Chad-level popular, but decent enough social life.
Meanwhile I have problems keeping contact with anyone. Example: The good-looking girlfriend of this 5'5 actually messaged me after I saw her at a birthday party. That was like 7-8 months ago. Anyway, she said that I seemed like a nice and chill guy and asked me to hang out with them. I did. I drank with that friend group two times.
But now, we somehow don't talk anymore. I messaged her a week ago and she left me on read. This is a common occurence, btw. I can make some decently good-looking pictures, so women would tell me I am good-looking, handsome, hot, cute, etc. on Instagram (depending on the girl) and hit me up, message me first. We establish contact but eventually it fizzles out and I can't keep anyone interested in having a conversation with me or meeting up.
I thought that it may be my looks to some degree, and maybe it is. But that goes for relationships mostly. - The problem is I can't even become friends with people. I can't even manage to end up in the friendzone. There was this one girl, who had the same interests as me. I wanted to become a friend of hers. She thought I wanted to date her, and said she might go on a date with me eventually. She was very open at the beginning and initiated conversations a lot. Would write like 4 messages until I replied but then, one night I went to bed and the next day, she didn't answer.
I wrote a message again, saying "Hey" and again, no response. All of a sudden ghosted.
I get some girlfriends and did have a fwb, aswell. So looks is not the main issue I think. The friendships don't even work.
Additionally, this is not limited to girls either. I have no real male friends anymore for pretty much the same reason. No one really reaches out to me.
Can someone give me tips on how to be more social? I am starting to think that there must be something wrong with my personality, but I don't really know what it is.
