i *think* i got brutally rejected by this girl during our date in my dorm, should i do anything

[bddcoper]

so we basically had a first date then afterwards she messaged me “hey you free Tuesday to hang out” and then i said “sure you wanna come over or did u have smth else in mind” then she said “I can come over” (she was gonna come over after the first date but couldn’t bc of smth)

Basically what happened literally 2 hours ago was that we were watching stuff in my dorm then she saw me on my phone and then she asked if I wanted to keep watching then I asked her “you wanna do something else” and she just got visibly nervous and said “I think it’s best I should go thank you for this blah blah blah I was looking for someone to go out with but I think we should just leave it here”

what should i do now? and what does this all mean?

 

[alpomer7]

Rape

 

[acm]

 

[bddcoper]

Rape

can you please give a legit answer it's like i get ur trying to be funny but i just genuinely need advice rn

 

[alpomer7]

can you please give a legit answer it's like i get ur trying to be funny but i just genuinely need advice rn

Okay, two sides of coin

If she was attracted to you a lot she wouldn't act like that either way

Let's assume there's some attraction(not a lot) and you have to game her somehow, you pushed and she pulled away, so your only move is not to do anything and wait for her to reach out, if there's any feelings she will, if there aren't she won't and you will make everything worse by pushing more

If we don't assume there's attraction she just friendzoned you

 

[acm]

I asked her “you wanna do something else” and she just got visibly nervous and said “I think it’s best I should go thank you for this blah blah blah I was looking for someone to go out with but I think we should just leave it here”

since she is ND just like me

must of scared her off with that ND stare of doom

 

[bddcoper]

Okay, two sides of coin

If she was attracted to you a lot she wouldn't act like that either way

Let's assume there's some attraction and you have to game her somehow, you pushed and she pulled away, so your only move is not to do anything and wait for her to reach out, if there's any feelings she will

If we don't assume there's attraction she just friendzoned you

well why did she wanna hang out again after the first date if there was no attraction. she could've easily not sent me any message afterwards then she comes to my fucking room for the 2nd date like wtf why schedule a date in a dorm if you dont wanna fuck. no way she thought we were just gonna watch stuff

 

[alpomer7]

well why did she wanna hang out again after the first date if there was no attraction. she could've easily not sent me any message afterwards then she comes to my fucking room for the 2nd date like wtf why schedule a date in a dorm if you dont wanna fuck. no way she thought we were just gonna watch stuff

Maybe she likes you as a friend and naive

My female friend invites me multiple times a week to hang out at her home and we legit drink beer lay down on her bed and watch movies and talk abt shit, any other guy would think she is dtf(I'm not attracted to her)

Either way it doesn't matter, if she has any attraction to you she will reach out, if she doesn't she does not. And either way you best move rn not to do anything.

She wouldn't reject and leave chadlite, think about it this way, but maybe you can still game her if there's anything at all, just don't do anythin

 

[bddcoper]

Maybe she likes you as a friend and naive

My female friend invites me multiple times a week to hang out at her home and we legit drink beer lay down on her bed and watch movies and talk abt shit, any other guy would think she is dtf(I'm not attracted to her)

Either way it doesn't matter, if she has any attraction to you she will reach out, if she doesn't she does not. And either way you best move rn not to do anything.

She wouldn't reject and leave chadlite, think about it this way, but maybe you can still game her if there's anything at all, just don't do anythin

tbh i was under the impression that date = more than friends. ofc she will go for chadlite, but it's like i heightmog 95% of my uni. literally went for a walk outside an hour ago and there was a 6 in height diff on average between me and otherguys. it's like even though im MTN how much better can she really do if she is only after looks/SMV. ima wait 2 days to see if she messages. honestly just wish i could talk to her and invite her back because i'm good with words, but i guess i should've said what i had to say 3 hours ago

 

[000Null]

so we basically had a first date then afterwards she messaged me “hey you free Tuesday to hang out” and then i said “sure you wanna come over or did u have smth else in mind” then she said “I can come over” (she was gonna come over after the first date but couldn’t bc of smth)

Basically what happened literally 2 hours ago was that we were watching stuff in my dorm then she saw me on my phone and then she asked if I wanted to keep watching then I asked her “you wanna do something else” and she just got visibly nervous and said “I think it’s best I should go thank you for this blah blah blah I was looking for someone to go out with but I think we should just leave it here”

what should i do now? and what does this all mean?

She thought you wanted to fuh. Just message her fast (immediately) and try to explain yourself and tell her you didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable. Worst case scenario you tell her "I didn't want to have sex with you" regardless of if you did or didn't want to.

 

[bddcoper]

She thought you wanted to fuh. Just message her fast (immediately) and try to explain yourself and tell her you didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable. Worst case scenario you tell her "I didn't want to have sex with you" regardless of if you did or didn't want to.

I mean I could easily message her some shit like “hey I’m sorry if I made u feel uncomfortable last night. Would be happy to talk about things if you want to come over tonight” or some shit and invite her over to talk. But even if she accepts and we talk it’s like then what. It’s like you can’t force love or her liking me or wtv. I mean is there any chance she will fuck or want to be in a relationship after what she said?

I wrote everything she said word for word btw

 

[bddcoper]

I mean I could easily message her some shit like “hey I’m sorry if I made u feel uncomfortable last night. Would be happy to talk about things if you want to come over tonight” or some shit and invite her over to talk. But even if she accepts and we talk it’s like then what. It’s like you can’t force love or her liking me or wtv. I mean is there any chance she will fuck or want to be in a relationship after what she said?

I wrote everything she said word for word btw

bump should i do this based on what she said

 

[2kk]

She probably did liked you on the first date, but on the seconds date the energy was off because of the shyness between the two o you, since she is in your place and you are both laying on bed, ik how awkward this feels

 

[bddcoper]

She probably did liked you on the first date, but on the seconds date the energy was off because of the shyness between the two o you, since she is in your place and you are both laying on bed, ik how awkward this feels

i was kind of thinking this thanks so should i invite her over to talk or is it over cuz she said "i think we should leave things here" (whatever that means)

 

[2kk]

i was kind of thinking this thanks so should i invite her over to talk or is it over cuz she said "i think we should leave things here" (whatever that means)

If I were you, I wouldnt apologize too much. Instead, Id invite her somewhere casual, like a bar, where both of you can feel relaxed and alcohol will lower your inhib

If everything goes well, this time you can go to your place together

tbh think you should never invite a girl to your place right away, u need to do it under any pretext like “I need to stop by to grab my charger,” then you suddenly stay longer, its always worked for me

 

[bddcoper]

It’s too late boyos i texted her and she replied with some shit about us being incompatible “personality wise” but I think we all know what that means

I mean first of all you are fucking awkward as shit and can’t even make basic conversation and second you are a fat ltb so you don’t even get the right to have standards but okay this is dating in 2025 where a 6’2” (with sock lifts) mtn gets rejected by fat ltb because of whatever reason but sure that makes sense

 

[bddcoper]

 

[000Null]

I mean I could easily message her some shit like “hey I’m sorry if I made u feel uncomfortable last night. Would be happy to talk about things if you want to come over tonight” or some shit and invite her over to talk. But even if she accepts and we talk it’s like then what. It’s like you can’t force love or her liking me or wtv. I mean is there any chance she will fuck or want to be in a relationship after what she said?

I wrote everything she said word for word btw

Yeah just take it slow and let her get comfortable with you