Jason Voorhees
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Title. I went to therapy today and we started talking and I started telling him about my problems and how it's affecting my life and all that and he remarked
Then I started going in depth, telling him about everything and opening up about my past. He asked me some questions, we went back and forth and he pressed on certain things and
Then again he remarked to
You don't speak like someone your age Mr Menon. There's this emotional awareness and precision in how you talk. Almost like you're observing your own inner world from a slight distance. Facts and logic first everything else secondary. This is your coping style. You don't get around the problem or forget about it. You face it head on and intellectualize your emotions. It's usually not something I see from men as young as you. This kind of behaviour is more common in men much older. Most young people are impulsive, emotionally flooded, or avoidant.
Then I started going in depth, telling him about everything and opening up about my past. He asked me some questions, we went back and forth and he pressed on certain things and
Then again he remarked to
To me it looks like you are wearing a mask every time you step out. Not in fake negative sense. It's adaptive in your case. It helped you survive and function through difficult times. You went through a lot in these past few years and it probably lets you show up as composed, intelligent, and capable person which I imagine has served you well in studies, work, or social settings. It helped you survive and function during stressful phases of your life that you mentioned. This is what we called Intellectualization, very effective short term coping strategy and very common among people with your background but over time, wearing it consistently can make it harder to let the guard down. One thing that stood out to me throughout our conversation was how methodical and calculated your words were, everything delivered with distance instead of immediacy and messiness. It's like Suppression mode on autopilot. In our next session I would like to delve deeper into your childhood and upbringing since this style of coping strategy doesn't come naturally people. I assume there's so triggers that pushed you to this Mr Menon
