I’m good looking enough but I want more and it’s ruining my life.

[richpilled]

Greetings fellow autists. Here’s my current situation: in college, 6’2, in a frat, on the rowing team, and pretty good looking (I pass every threshold, no one would say I’m supermodel material but I kind of look stereotypically waspy chad-y). But this forum, growing up nontraditionally (divorced parents, had to leave town like 3x a week in hs so I didn’t have friends or girl experience) and my neurodivergency have created a really weird ego situation. I know deep down I could pull good looking women, but I make excuses for myself and try to tell myself that it’s my looks holding me back. At the same time, I know that in reality, especially compared to most people, I look good and so I come off as confident. This leads to weird social situations where girls make moves on me and I reject them because my insecurity tells me I’m not good enough yet, I need to be actual chad and THEN I can slay, even though I could now. How do I escape this stupid ass self-induced prison I’m in. I feel like I’m wasting college.

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

Greetings fellow autists. Here’s my current situation: in college, 6’2, in a frat, on the rowing team, and pretty good looking (I pass every threshold, no one would say I’m supermodel material but I kind of look stereotypically waspy chad-y). But this forum, growing up nontraditionally (divorced parents, had to leave town like 3x a week in hs so I didn’t have friends or girl experience) and my neurodivergency have created a really weird ego situation. I know deep down I could pull good looking women, but I make excuses for myself and try to tell myself that it’s my looks holding me back. At the same time, I know that in reality, especially compared to most people, I look good and so I come off as confident. This leads to weird social situations where girls make moves on me and I reject them because my insecurity tells me I’m not good enough yet, I need to be actual chad and THEN I can slay, even though I could now. How do I escape this stupid ass self-induced prison I’m in. I feel like I’m wasting college.

u escape it by changing your view on it. becoming "chad" would just continue the cycle ur stuck and potentially make it worse. you dont know what you dont know so the subconscious cap you're giving yourself is infinite. if you are already attractive focus on NT and stop being so autistic. act on the opportunities that are given. my nigga the ball is in your court and you are missing an uncontested free throw because you arent even taking the shot and subbing yourself out. do you not see how this a problem. the other person isnt analzying anything you've mentioned you are just losing yourself in your own head.

 

[richpilled]

u escape it by changing your view on it. becoming "chad" would just continue the cycle ur stuck and potentially make it worse. you dont know what you dont know so the subconscious cap you're giving yourself is infinite. if you are already attractive focus on NT and stop being so autistic. act on the opportunities that are given. my nigga the ball is in your court and you are missing an uncontested free throw because you arent even taking the shot and subbing yourself out. do you not see how this a problem. the other person isnt analzying anything you've mentioned you are just losing yourself in your own head.

Agreed with everything you said here. However all you said (in terms of advice) is “just be NT bro”. How do I actually go about that?

 

[dah-mam?]

As you said it your self. “Self-induced prison”. Only you can get yourself outa it. Going to a therapist can definitely help. But overall, just lock in and stop being a bitch, go slay some htb pussy and your worries will go away.

 

[richpilled]

As you said it your self. “Self-induced prison”. Only you can get yourself outa it. Going to a therapist can definitely help. But overall, just lock in and stop being a bitch, go slay some htb pussy and your worries will go away.

Therapy might be the play. I’m turning 21 soon so I’m going to be hitting the bars in my college town weekly, hoping to use this as an opportunity to dial in.

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

Agreed with everything you said here. However all you said (in terms of advice) is “just be NT bro”. How do I actually go about that?

well brother thats just the fallacy of this forum and all of life. there is never an objective truth or way in doing something. this is part of the blackpill. your genetics determine subjective views on everything. no piece of advice given from another user is going to solve your problem. its on you to figure it out yourself which is another rabbit hole that you could end up falling in. nevertheless it depends on the severity of your mental. start simple, fix diet, fix sleep, fix exercise, fix routine. if this doesnt work then cut out substances that are negatively affecting u long run, ex alc thc basically any recreational depressant psychoactive etc. if that doesnt work then look into incorporating inversely correlated synthetics from the stuff i mentioned above, ex nootropics stimulants (if you have adhd ocd or some form of autism) the peptides and nootropics rabbit role is already deep enough and it all leads to experimentation in the end. i can give you some pointers that I might consider trying in the future. Semax, Modafonil, Cerebrolysin, Selank, Noopept. just look into it if you're already that deep down no point in not.

 

[dah-mam?]

Therapy might be the play. I’m turning 21 soon so I’m going to be hitting the bars in my college town weekly, hoping to use this as an opportunity to dial in.

Do it. I took therapy worked great for me. Wish you the best with your journey

 

[richpilled]

Do it. I took therapy worked great for me. Wish you the best with your journey

I’ll look into it. I appreciate the good wishes

 

[richpilled]

well brother thats just the fallacy of this forum and all of life. there is never an objective truth or way in doing something. this is part of the blackpill. your genetics determine subjective views on everything. no piece of advice given from another user is going to solve your problem. its on you to figure it out yourself which is another rabbit hole that you could end up falling in. nevertheless it depends on the severity of your mental. start simple, fix diet, fix sleep, fix exercise, fix routine. if this doesnt work then cut out substances that are negatively affecting u long run, ex alc thc basically any recreational depressant psychoactive etc. if that doesnt work then look into incorporating inversely correlated synthetics from the stuff i mentioned above, ex nootropics stimulants (if you have adhd ocd or some form of autism) the peptides and nootropics rabbit role is already deep enough and it all leads to experimentation in the end. i can give you some pointers that I might consider trying in the future. Semax, Modafonil, Cerebrolysin, Selank, Noopept. just look into it if you're already that deep down no point in not.

You’re right, and to be honest I think stepping away from this forum and community is a start. I don’t need any prescription grade stuff and I don’t really do any drugs except alc every other week or so. I’ll keep this reply in mind though, thanks for the thoughtful reply

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

You’re right, and to be honest I think stepping away from this forum and community is a start. I don’t need any prescription grade stuff and I don’t really do any drugs except alc every other week or so. I’ll keep this reply in mind though, thanks for the thoughtful reply

yeah np, also i thought about what you wrote and the fact that you arent taking action on some of these girls (opportunities in this instance) may stem from a sense of hypergamy you are experiencing. obv idk the situations ur put in I am only going off if whatever u said is even true, anyway point is the fact that these girls are offering themselves to u and u arent accepting it makes it seem like you are more attractive and the fact that they are lower rated on the scale is making you not find them worth pursuing. maybe when the right circumstance arises this entire ideology you are playing into will be negated and you'll go about it normally. just a thought tho who knows what other factors are at play thats just the beauty of life the "unknown".

 

[Witcherboy]

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