I'm in an unescapable relationship

[BigBallsLarry]

I always had this mindset that when i dated, i dated for marriage and growing old together.

That's the mindset i had with my ex, we were together for 4 years but i unfortunately had to break up with her.

Now i found this another girl, she shares my believes and is genuinely in love with me, like she'd do anything to appease to me

Problem is, after 2 months of already being with her, I just recently found out just how much i like solitude. I like being alone, i like having no responsibility to care about another human being.

I don't even have much feelings for her. I am completely empty when it comes to love or passion. I'm just stuck here now unless i want to hurt her and ruin multiple of my friendships - which i won't do.

it hurts to tell her that "i love her" and promise her things that i know are completely meaningless when coming from me.

Suffering from success.

 

[BigBallsLarry]

@Geoff2024 @eon @luca_. @Orka thoughts on this

 

[eon]

Hello, welcome to chads.org

 

[jeb98]

hey, atleast be happy youre in a relationship

 

[eon]

@esoterik

 

[Copercel]

Hello, welcome to chads.org
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I love tohm

 

[BigBallsLarry]

hey, atleast be happy youre in a relationship

i don't mind it, i can probably live with it my whole life if she's actually serious

point is that i would be much happier without iit

 

[Gomez]

girlfriend haver ramblings

but if you have an mindset in which you wanna date someone to marry them this relationship you are in doesn't have a sense
ofc you could still be with her for sex etc but is it really worth it after all ?

 

[Orka]

I always had this mindset that when i dated, i dated for marriage and growing old together.

That's the mindset i had with my ex, we were together for 4 years but i unfortunately had to break up with her.

Now i found this another girl, she shares my believes and is genuinely in love with me, like she'd do anything to appease to me

Problem is, after 2 months of already being with her, I just recently found out just how much i like solitude. I like being alone, i like having no responsibility to care about another human being.

I don't even have much feelings for her. I am completely empty when it comes to love or passion. I'm just stuck here now unless i want to hurt her and ruin multiple of my friendships - which i won't do.

it hurts to tell her that "i love her" and promise her things that i know are completely meaningless when coming from me.

Suffering from success.

Larry to kind for this world

But being honest with her is a better idea than doing that, i understand why you wouldn't tho

love u larry always here for u

 

[BigBallsLarry]

girlfriend haver ramblings

but if you have an mindset in which you wanna date someone to marry them this relationship you are in doesn't have a sense
ofc you could still be with her for sex etc but is it really worth it after all ?

i don't mind it, i can probably live with it my whole life if she's actually serious

point is that i would be much happier without iit

not with her for sex, i actually don't like sex lol

idk, i can't explain it very clearly

 

[eon]

Larry to kind for this world

His real name is sanjeet

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Larry to kind for this world

But being honest with her is a better idea than doing that, i understand why you wouldn't tho

love u larry always here for u

i think i went too far to leave now

it's like the saying that going deep enough into a lie will make it your reality

except i didn't lie, i was serious and i am still serious, but i don't enjoy it

 

[Orka]

i think i went too far to leave now

what have u told / done for her? what parts of your relationship could you not do in a friendship?

 

[luca_.]

not with her for sex, i actually don't like sex lol

idk, i can't explain it very clearly

Like you dont hate her but you don’t actually love her no?

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Like you dont hate her but you don’t actually love her no?

i can't even begin to love a foid after my ex tbh

what have u told / done for her? what parts of your relationship could you not do in a friendship?

uhh took her virginity, exposed personal shit (both sides), agreed on dating to marry, met her entire family tree.. a lot.

 

[Orka]

i can't even begin to love a foid after my ex tbh

uhh took her virginity, exposed personal shit (both sides), agreed on dating to marry, met her entire family tree.. a lot.

yeah that is a bit much, I'm sure that your spark will come back though

 

[luca_.]

i can't even begin to love a foid after my ex tbh


uhh took her virginity, exposed personal shit (both sides), agreed on dating to marry, met her entire family tree.. a lot.

Yeah you’ve fucked up boyo when is the marriage

 

[luca_.]

Yeah you’ve fucked up boyo when is the marriage

Also why did you break up with your ex

 

[BigBallsLarry]

yeah that is a bit much, I'm sure that your spark will come back though

maybe one day

i just have extremely ambitious goals and dreams, and a relationship only feels like an obstacle if anything.

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Yeah you’ve fucked up boyo when is the marriage

if it'll actually come through I'll probably be looking for it around 23-24 y/o

Also why did you break up with your ex

she was insane, i think i talked about it in other threads

i loved her, but it was more a mutual breakup if anything anyway, if i wasn't to break up she would've done it.

 

[luca_.]

i loved her, but it was more a mutual breakup if anything anyway, if i wasn't to break up she would've done it.

would you have wished you 2 were still together?

 

[BigBallsLarry]

would you have wished you 2 were still together?

oh yeah i still think about her to this day

i believe I'm better off without her obviously, but she's the closest thing I'll ever have to a onitis

 

[luca_.]

oh yeah i still think about her to this day

i believe I'm better off without her obviously, but she's the closest thing I'll ever have to a onitis

Why don’t you try to talk to your gf about your dreams and ambitions. I know it may sound cringe but if she truly loves you she will support you all the way through and won’t try to get in your way

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Why don’t you try to talk to your gf about your dreams and ambitions. I know it may sound cringe but if she truly loves you she will support you all the way through and won’t try to get in your way

oh yeah she knows and is fully supportive

im extremely conflicted. i know it's probably not much to worry about and that she will support me but at the same time i think it might be limiting me

 

[slothful]

honestly the best solution is to just leave her. As long as you can avoid any annoying conversations to where she'd try to convince you to say, then it would be best to ghost.

or you could make her hate you by manipulating her and changing your personality to make her leave or make it easier for the relationship to fall apart

you could just live with it but I'm sure there is better for you out there and if you have ex's then finding a new girl shouldnt be too difficult

 

[luca_.]

oh yeah she knows and is fully supportive

im extremely conflicted. i know it's probably not much to worry about and that she will support me but at the same time i think it might be limiting me

Why would it limit you? As in that you need to spend time with her?

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Why don’t you try to talk to your gf about your dreams and ambitions. I know it may sound cringe but if she truly loves you she will support you all the way through and won’t try to get in your way

she even knows about this site and knows what my user is, but i believe she would never check my posts.

atleast i hope so, or maybe it would be an easy escape.

 

[luca_.]

she even knows about this site and knows what my user is, but i believe she would never check my posts.

atleast i hope so, or maybe it would be an easy escape.

If she checks your posts I think your bigger problem is the police

 

[slothful]

she even knows about this site and knows what my user is, but i believe she would never check my posts.

atleast i hope so, or maybe it would be an easy escape.

??? if someone knew i had an account on here it'd be over

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Why would it limit you? As in that you need to spend time with her?

i need to worry about constantly appealing to her and taking care of her (especially financially in the future)

Also need to worry about her worrying about me.. which i don't want. example the 3g of caffeine that I'll be in taking in about 30 mins, she doesn't know about that because she wouldn't let me lmao. if anything I'll be in the ER without her knowledge

 

[BigBallsLarry]

??? if someone knew i had an account on here it'd be over

im HTN+ so its seen as a quirky hobby and not something for losers

 

[BigBallsLarry]

If she checks your posts I think your bigger problem is the police

nah i haven't said anything illegal..

 

[luca_.]

i need to worry about constantly appealing to her and taking care of her (especially financially in the future)

Also need to worry about her worrying about me.. which i don't want. example the 3g of caffeine that I'll be in taking in about 30 mins, she doesn't know about that because she wouldn't let me lmao. if anything I'll be in the ER without her knowledge

Shit I’d also be worried if you took 3 grams of caffeine

 

[Gomez]

nah i haven't said anything illegal..

there's no way you didn't say something bad in almost 5k posts

 

[BigBallsLarry]

there's no way you didn't say something bad in almost 5k posts

bad? sure

illegal? nah.

 

[luca_.]

nah i haven't said anything illegal..

I need to move to Africa is the feds see half of the shit I’ve said in here. Either way I get what you mean. She’s just dragging you down. There is only one solution that will prevent that but it’s also the shittiest

 

[slothful]

im HTN+ so its seen as a quirky hobby and not something for losers

I'm on it alot in school and since I can't have my phone out, I have it on my chromebook

TOO many people have tried to look over and see what I'm doing. It's more of an issue of what these users say rather than me being on the site itself

 

[BigBallsLarry]

I'm on it alot in school and since I can't have my phone out, I have it on my chromebook

TOO many people have tried to look over and see what I'm doing. It's more of an issue of what these users say rather than me being on the site itself

no one would actually care enough to check what users post here. they will just see the name "looksmax" and assume ur a cornball.

I need to move to Africa is the feds see half of the shit I’ve said in here. Either way I get what you mean. She’s just dragging you down. There is only one solution that will prevent that but it’s also the shittiest

yeah you get it.

 

[luca_.]

no one would actually care enough to check what users post here. they will just see the name "looksmax" and assume ur a cornball.


yeah you get it.

I feel bad for both of you niggas

 

[BigBallsLarry]

I feel bad for both of you niggas

there's nothing to feel bad for luca, at least when it comes to me.

i just decided to make a story time about how I'm feeling, but in reality it doesn't affect me that much. I'll live.

 

[soggra]

low T

 

[BigBallsLarry]

low T

? elaborate?

 

[Geoff2024]

I always had this mindset that when i dated, i dated for marriage and growing old together.

That's the mindset i had with my ex, we were together for 4 years but i unfortunately had to break up with her.

Now i found this another girl, she shares my believes and is genuinely in love with me, like she'd do anything to appease to me

Problem is, after 2 months of already being with her, I just recently found out just how much i like solitude. I like being alone, i like having no responsibility to care about another human being.

I don't even have much feelings for her. I am completely empty when it comes to love or passion. I'm just stuck here now unless i want to hurt her and ruin multiple of my friendships - which i won't do.

it hurts to tell her that "i love her" and promise her things that i know are completely meaningless when coming from me.

Suffering from success.

i wouldnt call that success i had a similar situation and it hurt. i was with her and she was my first we were together for a year and she was truly a wonderful person but i just didnt have any feelings and i felt choked in the relationship

 

[Finnishmogger]

bro im in the exact same situation

 

[ethnical]

I always had this mindset that when i dated, i dated for marriage and growing old together.

That's the mindset i had with my ex, we were together for 4 years but i unfortunately had to break up with her.

Now i found this another girl, she shares my believes and is genuinely in love with me, like she'd do anything to appease to me

Problem is, after 2 months of already being with her, I just recently found out just how much i like solitude. I like being alone, i like having no responsibility to care about another human being.

I don't even have much feelings for her. I am completely empty when it comes to love or passion. I'm just stuck here now unless i want to hurt her and ruin multiple of my friendships - which i won't do.

it hurts to tell her that "i love her" and promise her things that i know are completely meaningless when coming from me.

Suffering from success.

dnr

 

[BigBallsLarry]

bro im in the exact same situation

what are you planning to do? tuff it out or leave?

 

[Daddy's Home]

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Also, your avi looks so cuteeee, ahhhhhhh... I can't..

 

[Finnishmogger]

what are you planning to do? tuff it out or leave?

im going to see where it goes, maybe i will start to love her or smth. she is like stacylite and nice personality too so i feel like it would be stupid to end things

 

[BigBallsLarry]

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Also, your avi looks so cuteeee, ahhhhhhh... I can't..

it actually looks so good with the contrast of the frame and name color

 

[BigBallsLarry]

im going to see where it goes, maybe i will start to love her or smth. she is like stacylite and nice personality too so i feel like it would be stupid to end things

same situation here. good luck brah