I'm too beta and noninteresting

[Deleted member 19508]

Went to a movie with a girl, then went to her house. We sat on her bed and talked for like 2 hours.

Never moved close to her or tried to make a move. WTF is wrong with me?

I can keep eye contact, and my mind feels at peace, but I can't do any moves or make anything sexual, just talk about common interests and make some sarcastic shitty jokes. Fuck me. I'm too beta.

Will watch a horror movie, and drink some wine with another girl in 3 days (first date). Probably gonna fuck this up too. Then a couple of days after that will have a winter swim(second date) with another girl. Will fuck that up also probably. After that, I will go on a walk with another girl(first date), And you guess it, will fuck it up too.

This is what 7 years of isolation do to your brain. You can't connect with other people, even if you don't feel anxiety, you just can't fucking do a move or feel comfortable with it. I can just talk about different topics, abstract or concrete. But can't push it to anything more. Any help for me? I just want a girlfriend

 

[Deleted member 20704]

I was the same way until my late teens/early 20s ... I just eventually tried to emulate what I thought an ideal version of myself would be.

Once you get past it the first time you definitely won't be afraid of escalating the next, especially if you're sober the first opportunity.

Basically just imagine in your head that you're a Chad or an alpha, and it makes it easier vs. seeing yourself as some subhuman rat.

Of course realize you AREN'T Chad ... Just you have to get in the "right mindset" to be able to allow yourself to follow through naturally.

 

[SuperDavidGangbang]

@Keengo

wtf is wrong with the picture?

 

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[Deleted member 19508]

I was the same way until my late teens/early 20s ... I just eventually tried to emulate what I thought an ideal version of myself would be.

Once you get past it the first time you definitely won't be afraid of escalating the next, especially if you're sober the first opportunity.

Basically just imagine in your head that you're a Chad or an alpha, and it makes it easier vs. seeing yourself as some subhuman rat.

Of course realize you AREN'T Chad ... Just you have to get in the "right mindset" to be able to allow yourself to follow through naturally.

Yeah probably. This movie date was kinda different since it was fully anonymous (we didn't see each other's faces before). But she was still fine with me going to her house, so I guess I wasn't hideous to her. These other dates are arranged using tinder, so maybe I'll feel a little more comfortable.

Making move just feels so weird to me, like just suddenly going closer or putting a hand next to someone. Just feel uncomfortable.

 

[GloGang300]

mirin low inhib tbh