enchanted_elixir
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“The first impression is the last impression.” – Proverb
When people see you, they construct a narrative, a story about who you are. This narrative is constructed subconsciously, and rapidly.
The person isn't even aware about the narrative they form about other people, and even if they are, they're not FULLY aware of it.
Our subconscious mind loads in terabytes of information about how we should perceive people and to have access to that whole narrative at once would be extremely overwhelming, like the kind of overwhelming you'd feel if a woman was energetically and intensely sucking your tip after you've ejaculated, and refused to stop.
This narrative is based on a plethora of factors, like your height, attractiveness, name, mannerisms, indicators of status, behavior, skin color, skin undertone color, hair texture, ethnic phenotype, archetypal phenotype (ex. hot Cheeto girl phenotype), fashion/style, your smell, your voice, your accent, your hairstyle, etc.
Many of these factors overlap with the concept of phenotype, as defined by this forum.
As they get to know you, if they get to know you, their narrative about you changes. You can improve the narrative...
But, the narrative about who you are to them is founded on your first impression.
Remember that removing failos is better than adding halos, most of the time.
Erasing/reducing failos is more effective at boosting your perception than adding halos.
If you've ever did stocks or crypto, you know about percentage gain and percentage decrease. If you've been in the psychology space, you've probably came across the negativity bias. Let's suppose you have $100 Tesla stock (TSLA), and you wake up with a 1,000% increase, which is a 10x of your...
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Remember this, people create a narrative about you based on everything that makes you, you.
...and will treat you based on this narrative.
I hope you understand the profundity of this insight.
To make sure you know the profundity of this insight, I'll share some examples...
- You get caught fraudmaxing (contacts, lifts, etc.). From this, people will change their narrative about you as someone who is authentic to someone who is a inauthentic, coping frauding loser who is overcompensating for something he doesn't have.
- You're a high MTB black woman who has decided to alter your archetypal phenotype from ghetto to non-ghetto. On top of that, you straightened your hair, stopped talking in a ghetto accent and lightened your skin. The narrative people will form about you will change, from violent, loud and irritable to not violent, calm and collected.
- You're a HTN with a Mediterranean ethnic phenotype. You make 3 Tinder profiles. The only difference is that one is allegedly from Spain, one is from Ecuador, and one is from Northwest India. People will form different narratives around your nationality and treat you accordingly.
- You're a White Aryan, Anglo-Saxon Male. You're Chad but your name is Dick Smalls...
- You have wider nostrils than normal for your ethnic phenotype, and flared ears. People associate you with chimpanzees.
- You're dressed in a formal manner, a dress shirt on top of a sweater, and a tie. You're wearing a pleasant fragrance with nuclear projection. You're wearing X for Men by Clive Christian or Jubilation 40 by Amouage. People form a narrative that associates you with class, wealth, conscientiousness, intelligence, and order.
- You're ugly. People associate you with every bad trait.
- You're short, or skinny, or small. People associate you with cowardice, weakness, incompetence, low status, and the pathetic.
- You're homeless. People form narratives around you that renders you untouchable (the meaning of Dalit), dangerous, etc.
- You're from a nation. You're associated with the reputation of that nationality, whatever it is.
- Your hair texture and hairstyle, people associate each hair texture with different traits. I won't get into depth here but you should know it.
- Your skin color and skin undertone color, obviously. Brutal truth of reality.
- Your voice. If it's deep, people associate you with dominance, strength, and the capacity for violence. If it's high, it's the opposite.
- How your traits play together is also another one, and this one is very complex. If you're, let's say, a Spanish guy who immigrated to the US in their 20s but your name is "Dayshaun", people will treat you based on whatever comes out of the paradox and conflict of being a Spanish male with that name.
- Whatever narrative people form around you when they believe you're a foreigner (of a nation, a club, a group, etc.)
- The narrative people form around you when you're not neurotypical, depends on what you have that makes you non-NT.
- The narrative people form around you when they feel your body, and whatever they think about it (handshake, touch your face, etc.)
- The narrative people form around your ethnic phenotype in general, whether that's Anglo-Saxon, Central European, Nordic, Orientalid, North Indid, Silvid, Sinid, Turanid, Indo-Nordid, Cushitic, etc.
The most important traits to improve are the ones that are immediately noticeable, what people can see with their eyes, hear with their ears, smell with their nose, touch with their hands, etc.
Women, and people treat you and consider your dateability and marriageability based on the narrative they from about you.
Women use the narrative around who you are and assess "how will this narrative affect me". They compare their own narrative about themselves with your narrative and how the narrative of each of you interact with each other and how they impact your or her narrative, and treat you accordingly.
People adjust their distance to you, their openness to your advances, and their friendliness towards you in part according to the narrative they form around you. If you pay attention to things like this, you can see how people perceive you and where you are in the dominance hierarchy.
Some traits are perceived differently depending on your environment, and hence the narrative about that trait in that environment is altered from your original environment.
Everything that you are, is important and it's very important that you craft yourself that best serves you in society, WITHOUT committing social suicide.
You're TRULY better off with a failo or a non-halo than getting caught trying to cover it up or enhance it.
Wherever you are on your looksmaxing journey, remember this...
You are a story, a narrative, radiating out to other people. Control the narrative to benefit you as much as possible.
And the most brutal thing, nobody really cares or thinks twice about if their first impression, or narrative about you are incorrect. They won't internally revise it.
Therefore, for the most part...
“The first impression is the last impression.” – Proverb
-@enchanted_elixir.
P.S.
People do believe in fairness, equality and such and such, but they also believe the ranking of people based on a whole variety of factors (based on how they decide to rank humans) at the same time. It's like perceptual superposition...
Summary and Thoughts:
The proverb "The first impression is the last impression" highlights the powerful and lasting impact that initial encounters have on people's perceptions. This idea reflects a broader understanding of how narratives about individuals are formed rapidly and often subconsciously based on various observable and perceptible traits.
Key Points:
The concept that "The first impression is the last impression" underscores the importance of how we present ourselves and the immediate judgments others make based on our initial interactions. It serves as a reminder of the power of perception and the influence of subconscious biases. By being mindful of these factors, individuals can strategically manage their self-presentation to influence how they are perceived and treated by others.
The proverb "The first impression is the last impression" highlights the powerful and lasting impact that initial encounters have on people's perceptions. This idea reflects a broader understanding of how narratives about individuals are formed rapidly and often subconsciously based on various observable and perceptible traits.
Key Points:
- Rapid Narrative Construction: When people first encounter someone, they quickly create a mental narrative or story about who that person is. This process is automatic and influenced by a myriad of factors including physical appearance, mannerisms, and other observable traits.
- Subconscious Influence: The narrative is formed so swiftly that individuals are usually unaware of the full extent of their own biases and judgments. This subconscious formation of narratives means that first impressions can be both significant and enduring.
- Factors Influencing Perception: Various factors play a role in shaping these narratives. These include but are not limited to height, attractiveness, ethnicity, fashion, behavior, and other physical and behavioral characteristics. Each factor contributes to the initial story people tell themselves about someone.
- Changing Perceptions: While the initial narrative can be powerful, it is not immutable. As people get to know someone better, their narrative may evolve. However, the initial impression often continues to exert a lasting influence on how that person is perceived.
- Practical Implications: Understanding the weight of first impressions can be crucial in social interactions and personal presentation. Efforts to manage and improve one's initial presentation—by addressing noticeable traits or "failos" (negative attributes) rather than trying to embellish with "halos" (positive attributes)—can be more effective in shaping how one is perceived.
- Social Perceptions and Biases: The narrative about an individual is influenced by societal stereotypes and biases related to physical appearance, ethnicity, and status. For instance, different attributes may lead to vastly different perceptions depending on societal norms and individual biases.
- Strategic Self-Presentation: Given the importance of first impressions, it's advisable to focus on presenting oneself in a manner that minimizes negative traits and aligns with desired narratives. This involves being aware of how various traits are perceived and working to enhance or adjust them accordingly.
The concept that "The first impression is the last impression" underscores the importance of how we present ourselves and the immediate judgments others make based on our initial interactions. It serves as a reminder of the power of perception and the influence of subconscious biases. By being mindful of these factors, individuals can strategically manage their self-presentation to influence how they are perceived and treated by others.
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