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a Distorted Ideology
Introduction
Today, the word “incel” is widely associated with online extremism, misogyny, and, in some cases, violence. However, its origin is radically different from its modern connotations. The term was not created in male-dominated or extremist spaces, but by a Canadian woman in the late 1990s as a neutral way to describe a shared human experience. This article traces the story of Alana, the woman who coined the term, how it emerged, and how it later evolved far beyond her original intent.
Who Was Alana?
Alana is the pseudonym used by a Canadian woman who lived during the late 1990s. Her real name has never been reliably confirmed. While the name “Natalie” occasionally appears in secondary sources or online discussions, there is no verified evidence that Alana herself ever confirmed it. For historical and academic accuracy, Alana remains the only confirmed identifier.
Psychological and Social Background
Based on her own later reflections:
- She experienced long-term loneliness
- Difficulty forming romantic relationships
- Social anxiety and shyness
- A sense of being “behind” her peers in romantic experience
She was not:
- Politically motivated
- Anti-male or anti-female
- An activist or ideologue
Her goal was personal understanding, not social critique.
The Cultural Context of the 1990s
Around 1997:
- Social media did not exist
- Online dating platforms were rare
- Mental-health discussions about loneliness were minimal
People who struggled romantically often felt isolated and abnormal, lacking both language and community. Alana recognized that the absence of terminology intensified the emotional burden.
The Birth of the Word “Incel”
Alana coined the phrase:
Involuntary Celibacy
which she shortened to:
Incel
Original Meaning
- A descriptive term, not an identity
- Included:
- Men and women
- Heterosexual and homosexual individuals
- Contained:
- No entitlement
- No blame toward others
- No ideological framing
It simply described the state of wanting intimacy but being unable to achieve it.
The Involuntary Celibacy Project
Alana created a small personal website, commonly referred to as:
Alana’s Involuntary Celibacy Project
Purpose
- Emotional support
- Shared experiences
- Reducing shame and isolation
Content
- Personal reflections
- Visitor emails
- Calm discussions about:
- Shyness
- Fear of rejection
- First relationships
- Emotional insecurity
Importantly, the project was:
- Not male-exclusive
- Not misogynistic
- Not radical or political
The Gradual Shift
In the early 2000s, the term began circulating beyond Alana’s website.
Key Changes
- Increasing male dominance in discussions
- Shift from a condition to an identity
- Emergence of ranking, comparison, and resentment
- Growing tendency to externalize blame
Alana noticed this transformation and became increasingly uncomfortable with how the term was being used.
Alana’s Withdrawal
After several years:
- She shut down the website
- Distanced herself from the term
- Later stated that she:
- Entered a relationship
- Moved on from the phase
- No longer identified with the label
She made it clear that:
From Identity to Ideology
Between 2008 and 2014, the word “incel” spread through:
- 4chan
- Other anonymous forums
It became linked with:
- Hostile gender discourse
- Rigid pessimistic beliefs (often called “blackpill”)
- Dehumanizing language
After several violent incidents involving self-identified incels, mainstream media increasingly framed the term as synonymous with extremism. At this point, any connection to Alana’s original idea was entirely severed.
Alana’s View on Modern Incel Culture
In later references attributed to her, Alana expressed:
- Sadness
- Shock
- A sense of regret
She emphasized that:
Why Is So Little Known About Her?
Several reasons explain the lack of detailed information:
- Use of a pseudonym
- Early withdrawal before widespread digital archiving
- A desire for privacy and safety
- Media focus on violent outcomes rather than historical origins
The Historical Irony
- A woman coined a term to reduce loneliness
- The term later became associated with hostility toward women
- A language of vulnerability transformed into a rhetoric of resentment
Conclusion
- The word “incel” began as a neutral, compassionate descriptor
- It was created by a woman seeking connection, not conflict
- It was never intended to be a movement or ideology
- Its transformation resulted from:
- Closed online echo chambers
- Chronic frustration
- Identity radicalization
- Alana herself rejects the modern usage of the term
Understanding this history is essential for separating human vulnerability from ideological distortion.
