Intentional social isolation.

[itsherlossNVM]

Does anyone here not find going outside to social events fun anymore? My roommates go to the club every weekend. For me clubbing lost its novelty after freshman year of uni like 4 years ago as it gets redundant easily.

Idk if it’s just a small subset of people that might agree with me, but I see hundreds of friend groups lining up to attend the same club they’ve been at hundreds of times.

It’s not even just clubs, I don’t find anything outside of school, YouTube and my gig job to be entertaining atp.

It’s like I’m forcing myself to attend events so that I don’t miss out on my youth even though I don’t really enjoy it.

 

[Klasik616]

It is what it is
You can't force yourself to fit in

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

 

[itsherlossNVM]

It is what it is
You can't force yourself to fit in

True enough.

 

[yoshisand]

Does anyone here not find going outside to social events fun anymore? My roommates go to the club every weekend. For me clubbing lost its novelty after freshman year of uni like 4 years ago as it gets redundant easily.

Idk if it’s just a small subset of people that might agree with me, but I see hundreds of friend groups lining up to attend the same club they’ve been at hundreds of times.

It’s not even just clubs, I don’t find anything outside of school, YouTube and my gig job to be entertaining atp.

It’s like I’m forcing myself to attend events so that I don’t miss out on my youth even though I don’t really enjoy it.

I mean man it's your life it's cool to go to club with your friends to be consistent with them but don't forget this is your life

 

[itsherlossNVM]

I mean man it's your life it's cool to go to club with your friends to be consistent with them but don't forget this is your life

They can go I’m not paying 5$ to corner camp.

 

[autistic_tendencies]

socializing is overrated

 

[jattlife]

I mean yeah you’re old now nigga it’s time for work, home and gym only

 

[qazw]

Does anyone here not find going outside to social events fun anymore? My roommates go to the club every weekend. For me clubbing lost its novelty after freshman year of uni like 4 years ago as it gets redundant easily.

Idk if it’s just a small subset of people that might agree with me, but I see hundreds of friend groups lining up to attend the same club they’ve been at hundreds of times.

It’s not even just clubs, I don’t find anything outside of school, YouTube and my gig job to be entertaining atp.

It’s like I’m forcing myself to attend events so that I don’t miss out on my youth even though I don’t really enjoy it.

Don't self isolate, your life will become miserable and lonely

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

Schizoid personality disorder - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[itsherlossNVM]

socializing is overrated

Very.

 

[itsherlossNVM]

I mean yeah you’re old now nigga it’s time for work, home and gym only

I forgot 23 is old head status here.

 

[itsherlossNVM]

Schizoid personality disorder - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Didn’t even know this was real until now.

 

[incel194012940]

i would rather be homeless than live with roommates i very much dislike physical proximity to others

even speaking at all or being seen

if you have social oppurtunites to begin with you probably just wanna chill

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

Didn’t even know this was real until now.

i have it diagnosed, hence the awareness

 

[itsherlossNVM]

i have it diagnosed, hence the awareness

Definitely going to look into this more appreciate it.

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

Definitely going to look into this more appreciate it.

i mog you

 

[Klasik616]

i have it diagnosed, hence the awareness

I didn't felt like you were an schizoid because in order to be one: you need to have no natural desire for anything in life, no emotions, no social life, no sex drive, no empathy even.

The only one that I have is sex drive and maybe, a little of emotions but I never express emotions on my face. I don't feel real empathy and ofc I have 0 friends.

 

[jattlife]

I forgot 23 is old head status here.

It ain’t old head status but u shouldn’t be socialising just for the sake of it at that age. Unless u a failed normie

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

I didn't felt like you were an schizoid because in order to be one: you need to have no natural desire for anything in life, no emotions, no social life, no sex drive, no empathy even.

when you say "you", do you mean the indian guy who spammed 15k posts here or me?

 

[Klasik616]

when you say "you", do you mean the indian guy who spammed 15k posts here or me?

i have it diagnosed, hence the awareness

I'm asking how you can be diagnosed as an schizoid? It doesn't feel like it.

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

I'm asking how you can be diagnosed as an schizoid? It doesn't feel like it.

and i'm saying i'm rl, and n9wiff gave his account to me

 

[Klasik616]

and i'm saying i'm rl, and n9wiff gave his account to me

Yea you don't wanna explain shit, sure you're schizoid.

 

[Nowiff.Belgrade]

Yea you don't wanna explain shit, sure you're schizoid.

jesus christ

 

[itsherlossNVM]

i would rather be homeless than live with roommates i very much dislike physical proximity to others

even speaking at all or being seen

if you have social oppurtunites to begin with you probably just wanna chill

I don’t even want to live with them I’ve been trying to move out secretly for a while but no results, I’ve known them for all 5 years I’ve been in uni( were super seniors), it’s so exhausting dealing with them.

One has a super high ego and claims the whole apartment as his even though we all pay rent, another one tries too hard to act tough and we got into a couple of arguments, another one just stays up till 5AM and screams on discord with his friends.

They all act like they have something therye so self dependent, but if it wasn’t for me providing pots and pans a air fryer, rice cooker ect they wouldn’t be on shit.

They lack ambitions and work ethic and the ability to see things from a perspective that isn’t there’s. They all dropped their respective degrees to get a degree in “university studies”where they take classes in hotel management and non verbal communication JFL.

They live up to stereotypes, they smoke weed all day skip class watch basketball and listen to drill rap.

They’ve done a lot of good in my life but I hate living with them as roommates.

 

[nuisance]

It is what it is
You can't force yourself to fit in

True enough.

Dumb niggas are so mentally caged

You belive you dont fit in thats why you dont.

Tell someone dont think of a white elephant and they will think of a white elephant, the brain doesnt change its way of thinking in relation to other things

For example if you tell yourself you are a loser and you dont fit in your conscious and unconscious wil fuck up up in every situation because your sense of self is tainted by your ego.

If you genuinely belive that you dont fit in you will never fit in becasue every opportunity will get shut down by your brain so you have to be someone else. Not faking it but geniuenly be a diffrent self other than a loser that is the only escape. Study the mind.

The reason why people stay the way they are is because they are so afraid of things working out for them because that means they have ve to lose their old self they have been living with for so long.

It takes thirty days to be good at something like a second sense, socialization is no exception.

 

[itsherlossNVM]

It ain’t old head status but u shouldn’t be socialising just for the sake of it at that age. Unless u a failed normie

Yea I try to just stay in my own lane, but I know when I hit my 30’s I’m definitely can do the stuff that I can do in my 20’s. So even though I don’t really care for partying ect I’ll somethimes still attend just for the sake of not wasting my 20’s.

 

[Klasik616]

Dumb niggas are so mentally caged

You belive you dont fit in thats why you dont.

Tell someone dont think of a white elephant and they will think of a white elephant, the brain doesnt change its way of thinking in relation to other things

For example if you tell yourself you are a loser and you dont fit in your conscious and unconscious wil fuck up up in every situation because your sense of self is tainted by your ego.

If you genuinely belive that you dont fit in you will never fit in becasue every opportunity will get shut down by your brain so you have to be someone else. Not faking it but geniuenly be a diffrent self other than a loser that is the only escape. Study the mind.

The reason why people stay the way they are is because they are so afraid of things working out for them because that means they have ve to lose their old self they have been living with for so long.

It takes thirty days to be good at something like a second sense, socialization is no exception.

And you're too dumb to realize being neurotypical or not is genetic. No socialization will change your nature, even if you try hard by faking a personality the real self will never go away, you'll stay as an aspie 4ever.

 

[itsherlossNVM]

Dumb niggas are so mentally caged

You belive you dont fit in thats why you dont.

Tell someone dont think of a white elephant and they will think of a white elephant, the brain doesnt change its way of thinking in relation to other things

For example if you tell yourself you are a loser and you dont fit in your conscious and unconscious wil fuck up up in every situation because your sense of self is tainted by your ego.

If you genuinely belive that you dont fit in you will never fit in becasue every opportunity will get shut down by your brain so you have to be someone else. Not faking it but geniuenly be a diffrent self other than a loser that is the only escape. Study the mind.

The reason why people stay the way they are is because they are so afraid of things working out for them because that means they have ve to lose their old self they have been living with for so long.

It takes thirty days to be good at something like a second sense, socialization is no exception.

I see what your saying but I have very little belief that this is a trained behavior if anything anytype of extroverted behavior I have now is masked, through my life I always found it difficult to make a connection if I were to tell you high school stories from 7-8 years ago it would all make sense.

I use to jestermax in hs to have some connection, I was naturally introverted but I only did it in hopes to be liked. I had some genuine friendships but those were harder to come by.

 

[nuisance]

I didn't felt like you were an schizoid because in order to be one: you need to have no natural desire for anything in life, no emotions, no social life, no sex drive, no empathy even.

The only one that I have is sex drive and maybe, a little of emotions but I never express emotions on my face. I don't feel real empathy and ofc I have 0 friends.

And you're too dumb to realize being neurotypical or not is genetic. No socialization will change your nature, even if you try hard by faking a personality the real self will never go away, you'll stay as an aspie 4ever.

Its not faking this or faking a personality its way deeper than that

And the a person might say "that's just cope I am none of those things that I want so being it would just be me lying to myself"

However you already are being a different self than your optimal self. Someone may genuinely belive they cant get pussy, cant get hired, cant have friends. . Every opportunity this man will get will be shut down by his conscious and unconscious and he will fuck it up. If he genuinely believed he was a different positive self he would have different outcomes.

In a different reality, this same man could have lived a completely different life by having a different self. Why taint your Self with negatives when you have power over your own brain.

Let's say a crazy person says they are on Mars, they genuinely know that they are on Mars it's not an act or they are lying to themselves. Because the outer world is outside the self.

 

[Klasik616]

Its not faking this or faking a personality its way deeper than that

And the a person might say "that's just cope I am none of those things that I want so being it would just be me lying to myself"

However you already are being a different self than your optimal self. Someone may genuinely belive they cant get pussy, cant get hired, cant have friends. . Every opportunity this man will get will be shut down by his conscious and unconscious and he will fuck it up. If he genuinely believed he was a different positive self he would have different outcomes.

In a different reality, this same man could have lived a completely different life by having a different self. Why taint your Self with negatives when you have power over your own brain.

Let's say a crazy person says they are on Mars, they genuinely know that they are on Mars it's not an act or they are lying to themselves. Because the outer world is outside the self.

OMG where all these copers came from?
I'm gonna tell u a real life example.

Last week I felt handsome in the mirror, I approached and she didn't cared about me.

Another week I felt ugly in the same mirror but I got approached by 2 girls (that I knew) and they were happy to talk with me.

So it doesn't matter what do I think about me, what matters is what others think about me and how they act towards me. Which is something I can't control so changing my beliefs in reality won't change the results.

Take your psychological explanation out of the way.

 

[nuisance]

I see what your saying but I have very little belief that this is a trained behavior if anything anytype of extroverted behavior I have now is masked, through my life I always found it difficult to make a connection if I were to tell you high school stories from 7-8 years ago it would all make sense.

I use to jestermax in hs to have some connection, I was naturally introverted but I only did it in hopes to be liked. I had some genuine friendships but those were harder to come by.

Negative experiences affected your ego and then tainted your self, any social interaction feels like a chore or is a source of anxiety consciously or unconsciously.

The only way is being a new self and it takes researching the brain to understand how. Start with Carl Jung

 

[itsherlossNVM]

Negative experiences affected your ego and then tainted your self, any social interaction feels like a chore or is a source of anxiety consciously or unconsciously.

The only way is being a new self and it takes researching the brain to understand how. Start with Carl Jung

Do you believe that there’s a genetic component to personality? Or that we’re all blank slates with the ability to form our own?

 

[nuisance]

OMG where all these copers came from?
I'm gonna do an example.

Last week I felt handsome enough to talk to girls, I approached and she didn't cared about me.

Another week I felt ugly but I got approached by 2 girls (I knew) and they were happy to talk with me.

So it doesn't matter what do I think about me, what matters is what others think about me and how they act towards me. Which is something I can't control so changing my beliefs in reality won't change the results.

You literally do not understand my points at all and I urge you to go deeper than surface level.

Its not coping or lying to yourself, for some people this comes naturally but for others its still possible to change. It just takes researching psychotherapy and psychology to understand these concepts.

Again looking back at this model those two examples you talked about are all part of the outer world they don't exist inside your brain, you can choose what you want to filter in and out that affects your ego which then taints your sense of self.

If your self is not tainted by your ego you will be the optimal version of yourself in every situation. Does this mean you will win everywhere in life hell no, but I can guarantee it could improve your life drastically. Read about Carl Jung.

If your self is tainted negatively, you will always be neurotic and fuck up situations consciously or unconsciously

 

[nuisance]

Do you believe that there’s a genetic component to personality? Or that we’re all blank slates with the ability to form our own?

I believe there is a genetic component to neuroticism, some people allow the outer world to affect their mind more than others. However, everybody can control this if they know how.

The problem lies in how long has this been happening, people don't like to lose their self. They find comfort in suffering because the thought of being a different self is terrifying to the brain.

 

[lurking truecel]

Does anyone here not find going outside to social events fun anymore? My roommates go to the club every weekend. For me clubbing lost its novelty after freshman year of uni like 4 years ago as it gets redundant easily.

Idk if it’s just a small subset of people that might agree with me, but I see hundreds of friend groups lining up to attend the same club they’ve been at hundreds of times.

It’s not even just clubs, I don’t find anything outside of school, YouTube and my gig job to be entertaining atp.

It’s like I’m forcing myself to attend events so that I don’t miss out on my youth even though I don’t really enjoy it.

Solitude is peace, humans are predictable and shallow. Esp when you know about lookism, there is no depth in this dog poop world. We are just animals and driven by stupid biological needs. Being alone is not optimal but its better

 

[distance decay]

Its not faking this or faking a personality its way deeper than that

And the a person might say "that's just cope I am none of those things that I want so being it would just be me lying to myself"

However you already are being a different self than your optimal self. Someone may genuinely belive they cant get pussy, cant get hired, cant have friends. . Every opportunity this man will get will be shut down by his conscious and unconscious and he will fuck it up. If he genuinely believed he was a different positive self he would have different outcomes.

In a different reality, this same man could have lived a completely different life by having a different self. Why taint your Self with negatives when you have power over your own brain.

Let's say a crazy person says they are on Mars, they genuinely know that they are on Mars it's not an act or they are lying to themselves. Because the outer world is outside the self.

Mirin carl jung follower, you know whats up

 

[AspiringMogger]

It’s not so much clubbing, it’s more the drinking. I find it just as fun to sit at a pub with a date and drink than I do going to the club.

 

[distance decay]

OMG where all these copers came from?
I'm gonna tell u a real life example.

Last week I felt handsome in the mirror, I approached and she didn't cared about me.

Another week I felt ugly in the same mirror but I got approached by 2 girls (that I knew) and they were happy to talk with me.

So it doesn't matter what do I think about me, what matters is what others think about me and how they act towards me. Which is something I can't control so changing my beliefs in reality won't change the results.

Take your psychological explanation out of the way.

There are too many variables in this world for your brain to comprehend, there is no point coming to conclusions like that, because correlation does not equal causation just take the good and filter out the bad. When you do that you can capitalise on the good opportunites as much as possible

 

[itsherlossNVM]

Solitude is peace, humans are predictable and shallow. Esp when you know about lookism, there is no depth in this dog poop world. We are just animals and driven by stupid biological needs. Being alone is not optimal but its better

The BP gave me the framework to understand how alot of human interactions play out, def changed a decent amount on how I view life.

 

[itsherlossNVM]

It’s not so much clubbing, it’s more the drinking. I find it just as fun to sit at a pub with a date and drink than I do going to the club.

I agree, it’s very situational.