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Being in a seductive mindset, or being a natural seducer, doesn’t help much when it comes to making friends or expanding your social circle. I’ve got stories about this, but I’ll wait to hear others first.
In my experience, the “seducer type” is often disliked. You know that feeling when someone like that is around? That "you piss me off" vibe.
Then there’s the other kind of guy, he’s got hundreds of friends, moves between different social circles, and women are always around him, but he rarely hooks up. Why? Because he gives off a “I’m your friend” energy. That’s the energy that builds connections and leads to long-term success. This kind of man can go out and come home with five new friends. They’re naturally good at it, and they’re usually genuinely happy and never alone.
Funny thing is, these men aren’t usually the seductive type. In fact, they’re more likely to fall into oneitis or treat women strictly as friends. On the flip side, seductive guys rarely make real friends. Most people don’t like being around them. But women? They’re drawn to that energy.
We live in a world where men are constantly being told how to be more seductive, how to get women, but also how to build LTR. It’s a weird contradiction. And those so-called “toxic” relationships? More often than not, they involve seductive men. You’ll hear about the fights, the drama, the back-and-forth... yet somehow, her GF stays. Especially when kids or marriage are involved.
Meanwhile, healthy couples are built on friendship, mutual respect, and shared goals, with room for passion too. They know biology plays a part, so they resist to it, but they build something stronger. In my opinion, when a seducer grows tired of the game, he starts to value deeper, healthier connections. Healthy romantic relationships with a solid friendship foundation, and healthy friendships that last.
In my experience, the “seducer type” is often disliked. You know that feeling when someone like that is around? That "you piss me off" vibe.
Then there’s the other kind of guy, he’s got hundreds of friends, moves between different social circles, and women are always around him, but he rarely hooks up. Why? Because he gives off a “I’m your friend” energy. That’s the energy that builds connections and leads to long-term success. This kind of man can go out and come home with five new friends. They’re naturally good at it, and they’re usually genuinely happy and never alone.
Funny thing is, these men aren’t usually the seductive type. In fact, they’re more likely to fall into oneitis or treat women strictly as friends. On the flip side, seductive guys rarely make real friends. Most people don’t like being around them. But women? They’re drawn to that energy.
We live in a world where men are constantly being told how to be more seductive, how to get women, but also how to build LTR. It’s a weird contradiction. And those so-called “toxic” relationships? More often than not, they involve seductive men. You’ll hear about the fights, the drama, the back-and-forth... yet somehow, her GF stays. Especially when kids or marriage are involved.
Meanwhile, healthy couples are built on friendship, mutual respect, and shared goals, with room for passion too. They know biology plays a part, so they resist to it, but they build something stronger. In my opinion, when a seducer grows tired of the game, he starts to value deeper, healthier connections. Healthy romantic relationships with a solid friendship foundation, and healthy friendships that last.
