Is my updated apology/farewell message better than before?

[zerotohero]

Hi everyone,

A couple of days ago I posted here asking for feedback on my apology/farewell message to my ex (link: https://looksmax.org/threads/gonna-...-advice-before-i-do-it.1648662/#post-23470324) and I’ve rewritten it. I tried to make it more heartfelt, concise, and tender while keeping the apology, gratitude, and some personal touches about the future, without pressuring her.

Here’s the new version:

(Her name),

I want to apologize from the bottom of my heart. Every time you felt sad, lonely or insecure, it was because of me. I pretended to be indifferent to protect my ego, sought attention outside of what we had, and had intimate conversations with another girl… I’m truly sorry. A month and a half ago I started therapy and take daily medication, working on not hurting anyone again.

Thank you for being in my life. Meeting you was and will always be my most beautiful coincidence. You taught me to care, to love, and to open my heart. You were my first real relationship and the first with whom I imagined a beautiful future… laughter, a home full of life, and maybe someday children with those green eyes of yours that drive me crazy.

I hope you laugh until your stomach hurts, achieve all your dreams, publish your poetry, become a mother, and truly be happy. I just wanted to say I’m sorry and thank you for everything, (her name).

Do you think this version is better than my previous one? Any suggestions to make it feel more genuine, heartfelt, and respectful without being too heavy?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Petsmart]

I hope you laugh until your stomach hurts, achieve all your dreams, publish your poetry, become a mother, and truly be happy

 

[zerotohero]

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What?

 

[BigBoy]

why do u need to send an apology/farewell?

 

[zerotohero]

why do u need to send an apology/farewell?

I was an asshole and kinda cheated on her.

 

[BigBoy]

I was an asshole and kinda cheated on her.

wtf is with all the chads on this forum?

 

[Gengar]

 

[niggero0]

Hi everyone,

A couple of days ago I posted here asking for feedback on my apology/farewell message to my ex (link: https://looksmax.org/threads/gonna-...-advice-before-i-do-it.1648662/#post-23470324) and I’ve rewritten it. I tried to make it more heartfelt, concise, and tender while keeping the apology, gratitude, and some personal touches about the future, without pressuring her.

Here’s the new version:

(Her name),

I want to apologize from the bottom of my heart. Every time you felt sad, lonely or insecure, it was because of me. I pretended to be indifferent to protect my ego, sought attention outside of what we had, and had intimate conversations with another girl… I’m truly sorry. A month and a half ago I started therapy and take daily medication, working on not hurting anyone again.

Thank you for being in my life. Meeting you was and will always be my most beautiful coincidence. You taught me to care, to love, and to open my heart. You were my first real relationship and the first with whom I imagined a beautiful future… laughter, a home full of life, and maybe someday children with those green eyes of yours that drive me crazy.

I hope you laugh until your stomach hurts, achieve all your dreams, publish your poetry, become a mother, and truly be happy. I just wanted to say I’m sorry and thank you for everything, (her name).

Do you think this version is better than my previous one? Any suggestions to make it feel more genuine, heartfelt, and respectful without being too heavy?

Thanks in advance!

nigga ain't no one reading that long make short n simple, if you wanna explain stuff meet her in person or call her but don't write fucking essays

 

[niggero0]

I was an asshole and kinda cheated on her.

 

[zerotohero]

nigga ain't no one reading that long make short n simple, if you wanna explain stuff meet her in person or call her but don't write fucking essays

It’s my only chance. I’m blocked on all her social media. I need to explain everything in one message, in case she blocks my brand new account too.

 

[niggero0]

It’s my only chance. I’m blocked on all her social media. I need to explain everything in one message, in case she blocks my brand new account too.

do you still want to be with her?

 

[zerotohero]

do you still want to be with her?

With all my soul. I would sacrifice 10 years of my life expectancy just to be with her.

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[RAITEIII]

With all my soul. I would sacrifice 10 years of my life expectancy just to be with her.

Why?? How did you go from acting like an asshole and cheating on her to saying this? Sounds like something psychologically driven, and circumstantial.

In my opinion emotions seem to be the driving force that are dictating what you wanna do. Those emotions may change in the future again and maybe there will be smth different that you want.

I don't recommend sending that text. I don't see it going well. If you really wanna do smth then make up some situation (many options) that will have the two of you meet in person and talk...

 

[zerotohero]

Why?? How did you go from acting like an asshole and cheating on her to saying this? Sounds like something psychologically driven, and circumstantial.

In my opinion emotions seem to be the driving force that are dictating what you wanna do. Those emotions may change in the future again and maybe there will be smth different that you want.

I don't recommend sending that text. I don't see it going well. If you really wanna do smth then make up some situation (many options) that will have the two of you meet in person and talk...

Just to clarify: I never cheated physically. We were on a break, and I thought it was definitive; I didn’t realize she still had feelings for me.

I did have sexual conversations with another girl, which was wrong. I’m saying this to be honest, not to justify myself. I feel deeply sorry and I’m working on myself so I don’t hurt anyone else again.

 

[Clark69]

"Meeting you was and will always be my most beautiful coincidence."
Change it to something along the lines of "Meeting you can be chopped up to being a coincidence. But it was too beautiful to be a product of chance."

 

[zerotohero]

"Meeting you was and will always be my most beautiful coincidence."
Change it to something along the lines of "Meeting you can be chopped up to being a coincidence. But it was too beautiful to be a product of chance."

It’s alright.

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[Mizi44]

Make it short nigga say "Yo bro im sorry bla bla dont wanna moralfag tho "

 

[zerotohero]

Make it short nigga say "Yo bro im sorry bla bla dont wanna moralfag tho "

What do you mean?

 

[Mizi44]

What do you mean?

Yes!

 

[LTNUser]

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You and @MogsGymMaxx got the best memes bro,no cap

 

[niggero0]

With all my soul. I would sacrifice 10 years of my life expectancy just to be with her.

Broski you are on very thin ice, is she has blocked everywhere she most probably don't wanna be with you. The best you could do is not burn the bridges between you and her

 

[MogsGymMaxx]

You and @MogsGymMaxx got the best memes bro,no cap

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[zerotohero]

Broski you are on very thin ice, is she has blocked everywhere she most probably don't wanna be with you. The best you could do is not burn the bridges between you and her

I wanna be with her, I don’t wanna be with anyone else.

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

cringe

 

[TechnoBoss]

You have no need to apologize. You two were on a “break” (lol at thinking this is a real thing) and I’m assuming she just got jealous because you actually could get other women interested in you and she didn’t expect that.

You didn’t even cheat physically and not in any sense at all considering you two were on “break”

This is all performative. Let her be emotional & you should just move on.

 

[zerotohero]

You have no need to apologize. You two were on a “break” (lol at thinking this is a real thing) and I’m assuming she just got jealous because you actually could get other women interested in you and she didn’t expect that.

You didn’t even cheat physically and not in any sense at all considering you two were on “break”

This is all performative. Let her be emotional & you should just move on.

Well, what I didn’t say is that after we got back together, I still talked to the other girl, and yeah, we kept the same sexual tone. I know it wasn’t right, but that’s the truth.

 

[RAITEIII]

Well, what I didn’t say is that after we got back together, I still talked to the other girl, and yeah, we kept the same sexual tone. I know it wasn’t right, but that’s the truth.

It's fine. You now understand those actions aren't ideal if you want to keep a healthy relationship with someone else. Something like that only works out when you don't really care about having something meaningful with the other person. Talk in person... be honest and accept whatever outcome. Pain is part of life. You will not be the first or last person who didn't do their best in a relationship.

When did this all take place by the way? I don't think anyone's feelings vanish overnight. Perhaps there's a chance.

And what was the last thing you guys talked about before the block?

 

[zerotohero]

It's fine. You now understand those actions aren't ideal if you want to keep a healthy relationship with someone else. Something like that only works out when you don't really care about having something meaningful with the other person. Talk in person... be honest and accept whatever outcome. Pain is part of life. You will not be the first or last person who didn't do their best in a relationship.

When did this all take place by the way? I don't think anyone's feelings vanish overnight. Perhaps there's a chance.

And what was the last thing you guys talked about before the block?

August 15th.