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I have posted this on relationship advice with very little response, honestly this is probably the better place for this.
Me (F28) and my BF (M28) have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Things up until recently have been amazing. He’s attractive, confident, funny, super attentive of me and my needs, makes me feel beautiful every second I’m with him, and (because this matters on this issue) is amazing in bed like eyes rolling to the back of my head amazing.
About 2 months ago my ex, who I broke up with on very poor terms, found my current BF’s socials (I’ve had him blocked on everything of mine since our split) and sent him 5 videos we had made during our time together of us having sex. When he had let me know about what my ex had done later that night I was down right embarrassed and was filled with rage at this sorry excuse for a man I call my ex. But in further discussing things with my boyfriend I could sense something was off about him, for the first time since I’ve met him it felt like there was a crack in his armor. No matter how many times that night he told me he was fine and that this wasn’t getting to him I could see discomfort in his eyes. In the 2 months since this has happened sex has slowed down quite a bit for us (we were sleeping together 5-6 a week only have had sex twice since the incident). In those 2 times we had since I can feel the anxious energy permeating off him. His whole demeanor when being intimate has changed since that day.
Watching the videos it is incredibly obvious to see my ex is very well endowed. My current boyfriend is average in this department but like I said the sex has been downright otherworldly with him and I wouldn’t change anything about him. I don’t know if it is my ex’s size effecting him as much as the way I acted towards my ex and what I was wearing in the videos. My ex had/has a real kink for being praised and so through out all the videos I’m telling him how great his big dick is, how no body can fuck me like he can(this turned out to be a big lie!), etc all while wearing a collar and leash or some other kink related outfit.
I don’t know how to approach this with out coming off as the girlfriend just saying things to make her boyfriend feel better. In researching how to approach this I have read that situations like this can be one of the most crushing things to man’s self confidence and esteem and even being approached on the subject by their SO can be a anxious nightmare for them. How should I go about this? What should I say/do to reassure him? This man is the love of my life and the person I hope to build a family and life with I just want help him get out of this funk.
Me (F28) and my BF (M28) have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Things up until recently have been amazing. He’s attractive, confident, funny, super attentive of me and my needs, makes me feel beautiful every second I’m with him, and (because this matters on this issue) is amazing in bed like eyes rolling to the back of my head amazing.
About 2 months ago my ex, who I broke up with on very poor terms, found my current BF’s socials (I’ve had him blocked on everything of mine since our split) and sent him 5 videos we had made during our time together of us having sex. When he had let me know about what my ex had done later that night I was down right embarrassed and was filled with rage at this sorry excuse for a man I call my ex. But in further discussing things with my boyfriend I could sense something was off about him, for the first time since I’ve met him it felt like there was a crack in his armor. No matter how many times that night he told me he was fine and that this wasn’t getting to him I could see discomfort in his eyes. In the 2 months since this has happened sex has slowed down quite a bit for us (we were sleeping together 5-6 a week only have had sex twice since the incident). In those 2 times we had since I can feel the anxious energy permeating off him. His whole demeanor when being intimate has changed since that day.
Watching the videos it is incredibly obvious to see my ex is very well endowed. My current boyfriend is average in this department but like I said the sex has been downright otherworldly with him and I wouldn’t change anything about him. I don’t know if it is my ex’s size effecting him as much as the way I acted towards my ex and what I was wearing in the videos. My ex had/has a real kink for being praised and so through out all the videos I’m telling him how great his big dick is, how no body can fuck me like he can(this turned out to be a big lie!), etc all while wearing a collar and leash or some other kink related outfit.
I don’t know how to approach this with out coming off as the girlfriend just saying things to make her boyfriend feel better. In researching how to approach this I have read that situations like this can be one of the most crushing things to man’s self confidence and esteem and even being approached on the subject by their SO can be a anxious nightmare for them. How should I go about this? What should I say/do to reassure him? This man is the love of my life and the person I hope to build a family and life with I just want help him get out of this funk.
