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I wrote this guide for those who have use for it, having been a diagnosed sperg + incel for the majority of my life, as well as being put into a public school after 8 years of homeschooling from the first grade since learning in a classroom was not an option for someone like me at the time. Hardest period of my life, going through highschool without any peers to relate to, much less women. To make it worse, I would write notes and document everything by staring at people having conversations which I only just now realize how ridiculous I might have been acting, cage. Regardless, I've compiled this list of tips throughout my years of being like this, and now I have a good life for myself. I have a job I enjoy, girls don't find me weird anymore, and a friend group of normies which I don't enjoy being around for longer than a few hours but it's part of the larp. No I'm not saying that this will get you women purely out of "personality", but being neurodivergent in life can be just as important in certain contexts as something like looks, based on your looks level.
The Science
With that being said, the aspect I have decided to talk about are the social interactions we have within our day to day life. This is displayed when a human is relaying information to another human. A conversation between two people is an exchange of input and output depending on who is doing the talking at the moment. Now when one individual "inputs" conversation that makes the other person uncomfortable or awkward, the brain processes it and "outputs" it's reaction which becomes an input for the first individual which their brain perceives as such and so on and so forth.
This exact same mechanism is the one described above in blue, which we humans have developed throughout evolution, and applied within ancient tribes interacting with each other. Nowadays this interaction would just be perceived as "awkward". The great news for you is that once you grasp this concept and understand that there are certain triggers the brain has, which you want to avoid in order to not output a negative reaction, it becomes a lot easier to understand humans and what causes them to react well.
1. Accepting Reality.
People do not like what doesn't fit their idea of normal. It makes them uncomfortable, and neurodivergent people (autism does not always make you ND) are one of these things. Being able to keep a conversation, and having mannerisms that don't freak people out is very important, but first my definitions for NT vs ND:
Neurotypicality (NT) = A social construct humans have created to call their idea of normal behavior, due to the majority of people finding this method of interaction easier.
Neurodivergence (ND) = The fancy term given to social outcasts, people who do not fit in with the standards for normal behavior. NT types feel uncomfortable around them, even if they might tolerate them at times. Usually born into a environment that raises them to view the world more harshly without the knowledge of how to utilize what they observe resulting in a depressive "it's over" state.
People do not like what doesn't fit their idea of normal. It makes them uncomfortable, and neurodivergent people (autism does not always make you ND) are one of these things. Being able to keep a conversation, and having mannerisms that don't freak people out is very important, but first my definitions for NT vs ND:
Neurotypicality (NT) = A social construct humans have created to call their idea of normal behavior, due to the majority of people finding this method of interaction easier.
Neurodivergence (ND) = The fancy term given to social outcasts, people who do not fit in with the standards for normal behavior. NT types feel uncomfortable around them, even if they might tolerate them at times. Usually born into a environment that raises them to view the world more harshly without the knowledge of how to utilize what they observe resulting in a depressive "it's over" state.
2. Picking Your Social Archetype.
A social archetype is a term for a combination of traits and behaviors humans display, that add up to a single "personality".
So on and so forth. It might sound cringe but a person's personality is built on combinations of these traits which are usually determined by an individuals environment growing up and interests + friend group influences.
How do you create an archetype if you've never been given one?
Real life: Find a person you know who has people naturally drawn to them, anyone with the ability to retain attention, making conversations appear natural.
Public: Streamers, youtubers, podcasters (my personal pick was Zach Justice, a normie who could make jokes out of anything as well as being a white htn but whatever.)
TV/Shows: I wouldn't necessarily recommend this one to people because certain behaviors displayed might come off as even more autistic when recreated in real life.
Your goal is to pick 1-3 archetypes that you find to fit to your liking, that you could realistically attempt to recreate.
3. Picking Ideal Traits To Adapt.
Now that you have chosen your character for inspiration, you want to focus on the little things when it comes to the posture, mannerisms, cadence of voice, humor, the volume they speak at, and so on and so forth.
Don't just memorize words alone, study the delivery and cadence of everything they say, including subtle noises like your typical "hm"?
Fuck this sounds so aspie, but it's legit.
A social archetype is a term for a combination of traits and behaviors humans display, that add up to a single "personality".
So on and so forth. It might sound cringe but a person's personality is built on combinations of these traits which are usually determined by an individuals environment growing up and interests + friend group influences.
How do you create an archetype if you've never been given one?
Real life: Find a person you know who has people naturally drawn to them, anyone with the ability to retain attention, making conversations appear natural.
Public: Streamers, youtubers, podcasters (my personal pick was Zach Justice, a normie who could make jokes out of anything as well as being a white htn but whatever.)
Your goal is to pick 1-3 archetypes that you find to fit to your liking, that you could realistically attempt to recreate.
3. Picking Ideal Traits To Adapt.
Now that you have chosen your character for inspiration, you want to focus on the little things when it comes to the posture, mannerisms, cadence of voice, humor, the volume they speak at, and so on and so forth.
Don't just memorize words alone, study the delivery and cadence of everything they say, including subtle noises like your typical "hm"?
Fuck this sounds so aspie, but it's legit.
4. Practice
Practice is key, record yourself occasionally to listen back to yourself when practicing cadences and phrases. I promise you that you don't know what you sound like if you haven't heard a recording before.
5. Putting Practice to Use.
Start with something low risk, especially for those who are completely incapable of even small interactions. Make a comment about something irrelevant or pretend to be extremely happy about something which typically helps lower people's guards.
Make mental notes of what worked to visibly ease a person's face and body posture, but definitely do not stare at their body while talking. Write down everything that felt forced or might have offset the momentum. I've found that smiling slightly while flexing my midface muscles a little bit when talking assumed a softer, eager expression in my experience.
6. Worst Case Scenario
When you mess up or the conversation begins to slow down, make sure to have a list of plan b's, c's, and d's to fall back on:
Questions: suddenly asking people about themselves out of nowhere in a "by the way.." manner is one of the best moves you could ever make. Normies love talking about themselves, especially women in cases where you can turn it into a indirect compliment.
Comments: stating something guaranteed to get a reaction of approval from the person you're talking to, which sets off a process of wanting to join in and back you up on a certain topic that they also agree with you on.
NEVER begin to look disappointed, or apologizing if you fuck up. This only makes it more awkward for the other person, and they will find an excuse to leave the conversation. In fact if you do say something weird, it's MUCH better to double down and say it in a ridiculous manner that sounds like a joke. (Of course you can't just tell a bitch she has a nice rack.)
Practice is key, record yourself occasionally to listen back to yourself when practicing cadences and phrases. I promise you that you don't know what you sound like if you haven't heard a recording before.
5. Putting Practice to Use.
Start with something low risk, especially for those who are completely incapable of even small interactions. Make a comment about something irrelevant or pretend to be extremely happy about something which typically helps lower people's guards.
Make mental notes of what worked to visibly ease a person's face and body posture, but definitely do not stare at their body while talking. Write down everything that felt forced or might have offset the momentum. I've found that smiling slightly while flexing my midface muscles a little bit when talking assumed a softer, eager expression in my experience.
6. Worst Case Scenario
When you mess up or the conversation begins to slow down, make sure to have a list of plan b's, c's, and d's to fall back on:
Questions: suddenly asking people about themselves out of nowhere in a "by the way.." manner is one of the best moves you could ever make. Normies love talking about themselves, especially women in cases where you can turn it into a indirect compliment.
Comments: stating something guaranteed to get a reaction of approval from the person you're talking to, which sets off a process of wanting to join in and back you up on a certain topic that they also agree with you on.
NEVER begin to look disappointed, or apologizing if you fuck up. This only makes it more awkward for the other person, and they will find an excuse to leave the conversation. In fact if you do say something weird, it's MUCH better to double down and say it in a ridiculous manner that sounds like a joke. (Of course you can't just tell a bitch she has a nice rack.)
Practice actually makes perfect.
What can I say, it really does. At this stage you should be warming up to your new traits and maybe you've been adding more along the way. A few things to ask yourself:
Conclusion:
If something fails, always refer to step 6, people love talking about themselves and it removes the focus from you. Don't just ask someone something overly generic, but follow it up with "because I noticed.." type additions that keep it from putting all the pressure onto the normie as well.
The entire point of this guide is to mimic and act out learned behaviors, because the reality is "authenticity" is bullshit. Nobody is authentic, they are curated products of an environment that shaped the way they are. If you do this for long enough, you eventually adapt these as second nature traits, making it absolutely subconscious and quite literally forcing your brain to rewire itself into a neurotypical direction.
Always add things that you think would contribute to your character, it's always good to have an intellectual but humorous combination with a list of smaller influences mixed in as this has been shown to be one of the more dominant personality types throughout observation of media and people who do well in life.
What can I say, it really does. At this stage you should be warming up to your new traits and maybe you've been adding more along the way. A few things to ask yourself:
- -What should I stop doing?
- -Is there anything I could have done better for this specific type of conversation? (different conversations have their own "archetypes")
Conclusion:
If something fails, always refer to step 6, people love talking about themselves and it removes the focus from you. Don't just ask someone something overly generic, but follow it up with "because I noticed.." type additions that keep it from putting all the pressure onto the normie as well.
The entire point of this guide is to mimic and act out learned behaviors, because the reality is "authenticity" is bullshit. Nobody is authentic, they are curated products of an environment that shaped the way they are. If you do this for long enough, you eventually adapt these as second nature traits, making it absolutely subconscious and quite literally forcing your brain to rewire itself into a neurotypical direction.
Always add things that you think would contribute to your character, it's always good to have an intellectual but humorous combination with a list of smaller influences mixed in as this has been shown to be one of the more dominant personality types throughout observation of media and people who do well in life.
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