pprimus43
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I've been leanmaxxing for three weeks now and dropped about 5 lbs, currently around 22% body fat at 5'8" and 159.4 lbs. My bench is 135 for 7 reps, and I've been training for over a year. Recently, a couple of friends made some comments about my strength that felt condescending, implying I’m weak for my training time, and it honestly pissed me off. Not that they're wrong, I am pretty weak and have shit strength genetics, but still I'm mad as fuck.
There are two friends in particular. Let's call them Tom and Jerry. Tom is around 140 lbs at 15% body fat, slightly stronger than me, with a 1RM bench close to 175 (so about 10 lbs on me) and has what you’d call High MTN looks. His body count is 2. Jerry is the other one. The other hasn’t lifted in a while but used to bench around 195 at his peak; right now I’d estimate his 1RM is closer to 160-170 lbs. He’s about 135 lbs at 13% body fat. He is low HTN so he gets girls as well. They’ve each had some dating success, while I’m still KHV and aiming for looksmaxxing above all.
Should I keep cutting to drop more body fat and aim for facial gains, or switch to a lean bulk to build strength and size? This situation’s been on my mind for hours, and I feel pretty conflicted. I’m realizing more and more that looks come before strength when it comes to respect. For me, muscles are secondary, and strength is even less of a priority.
For context, I started benching at 65 lbs in January 2023 and got my 1RM to 135 by July 2023. Then I slacked off for nearly 10 months. A few months ago, around June 2024, I got serious again and went from a 1RM of 130 lbs to 165 lbs in about three months while lean bulking from 156 lbs to 164 lbs. I’ve been cutting for the past three weeks, down from 164 to 159 lbs, and maintained my bench strength.
I’ll turn 21 in two months. This constant limbo is getting to me, and my mental health isn’t great right now. I need results fast— every second I spend as KHV makes me more hateful.
There are two friends in particular. Let's call them Tom and Jerry. Tom is around 140 lbs at 15% body fat, slightly stronger than me, with a 1RM bench close to 175 (so about 10 lbs on me) and has what you’d call High MTN looks. His body count is 2. Jerry is the other one. The other hasn’t lifted in a while but used to bench around 195 at his peak; right now I’d estimate his 1RM is closer to 160-170 lbs. He’s about 135 lbs at 13% body fat. He is low HTN so he gets girls as well. They’ve each had some dating success, while I’m still KHV and aiming for looksmaxxing above all.
Should I keep cutting to drop more body fat and aim for facial gains, or switch to a lean bulk to build strength and size? This situation’s been on my mind for hours, and I feel pretty conflicted. I’m realizing more and more that looks come before strength when it comes to respect. For me, muscles are secondary, and strength is even less of a priority.
For context, I started benching at 65 lbs in January 2023 and got my 1RM to 135 by July 2023. Then I slacked off for nearly 10 months. A few months ago, around June 2024, I got serious again and went from a 1RM of 130 lbs to 165 lbs in about three months while lean bulking from 156 lbs to 164 lbs. I’ve been cutting for the past three weeks, down from 164 to 159 lbs, and maintained my bench strength.
I’ll turn 21 in two months. This constant limbo is getting to me, and my mental health isn’t great right now. I need results fast— every second I spend as KHV makes me more hateful.
