Lets talk about attraction, looks, personality and science behind it.

[gelox.dos]

Philosophical reflection on: Attraction; how being attractive affects your personality; how looks, alongside psychological traits and other factors, affect attraction; how we sexually respond in a primitive way to certain behaviors and stimuli, and the difference between that and the way we act in society.
(Purely based on experience and reasoning, not actual research. The goal of this thread is to encourage rreflection in the reader and discuss the topics.)

The effects of appearance on the perception of aspects not directly related to it:
Have you ever wondered why that young, attractive teacher is always nicer and more pleasant? Is it really just a halo effect, or is there something more to it?

Asking myself this question led me to reflect on how your physical appearance can directly affect your personality and behavior.

While it's obvious that mere attractiveness already plays an important role in how you perceive a person (pretty much like the presentation of a dish) this is widely known as the halo effect. I've thought that perhaps it goes beyond all that. What if I told you that appearance not only makes your personality seem different but also directly affects it?

When someone is attractive, they have more self-confidence, are used to being treated well, and therefore have no reason to have a "bad personality". On the other hand, we have the opposite: an unattractive person is already influenced to a worse social position. What I'm trying to say is that being attractive in itself predisposes you to have a better personality, so the famous joke about having a "good personality" in reference to attractiveness might not be so far from reality since attractive people are often not only perceived as better people but also have a greater chance of actually being so. In short, once again, the rich get richer and the poor starve.
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Halo effect (second experiment of OkCupid)

People mostly says that personallity is first but dating app data show oppositte​

Okay, but what about people who don't have a good personality but are attractive? How do you explain this? Well, having a good personality or being an ethical person isn't necessarily synonymous with attractiveness. While this is what most people publicly express as an ideal, people never show themselves as they truly are.​

We all know the "Dark Triad" (narcissists, manipulators, etc.) and how people with these psychological traits can be very attractive to women. This led me to wonder what the reason for this might be. It's important to clarify that I only really think the Dark Triad is appealing to individuals who embody these psychological traits, either through their actions or their physical appearance. There's no point in being a narcissist if there's no apparent reason for it; people will perceive you as a jerk instead of someone powerful, interesting, or threatening.

The first thing that crossed my mind was to think about the equivalent in a woman for me, as a man, trying to understand. I guess a woman can be "Dark Triad" too but I dont think thats usually as atractive it is in a male individual so instead, what came to mind was the complementary or a contraposition of "Dark Triad"; a girl who is obsessed with you and completely submits to you. Which, if you think about it, is quite the opposite to the Dark Triad, leaving aside that both are generally related to "darkness" and "madness."

But what man wouldn't be attracted to these personality traits in a woman? Comparing experiences with other people as well as in social media, I was able to verify that in many cases these traits were indeed attractive, in both in the cases I'm describing for males and females (who hasn't heard of women with daddy issues who fantasize about a partner who asserts dominance and acts as a father figure, and many other similar cases?).

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f this is our true nature, why don't we act accordingly in public? The answer I see as most logical is that this first type of attraction is something more purely sexual and primitive; in fact, from my perspective, it even has some relation to behaviors we can observe in the animal kingdom, we are animals after all.

However, this is far from the current reality, as today's society is much more complex, and relationships are not based purely on sex and biological factors but on many others such as status (this also includes appearance, since it not only adds sexual attractiveness but also gives you more recognition in general, even from people of the same sex), and, in general, being someone you'd want to spend your whole life with is very important as well.

That said, there will always be indiviaduals (both men and women) who are only interested in sex like animals.​

Looks are law since they will boost status, personality, and sexual attractiveness.

being gl = less stress = low cortisol = better looking = being happy = being nice = good personality ​

 

[Big Daddy]

it's easier to dunk when you are 6ft10 than when you are 5ft9, yeah

way too much effort for such a basic point

 

[SomaliSub5]

water not readint this essay

 

[leckerman]

 

[leckerman]

 

[Quicksand]

We all know the "Dark Triad" (narcissists, manipulators, etc

This is a good personality, in fact

 

[gelox.dos]

This is a good personality, in fact

I dont think there are personalitys better than others but when someone says "good personality" they normally mean good persons that care about others

 

[gelox.dos]

 

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