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I have been interested in the psychology behind mating for a long time.
I believe that, just like in males, there is a profound conflict between the female rational brain (neocortex and superego) and the primitive brain (limbic system and ego).
The rational brain is what encourages a woman to favor well-adjusted, good men who treat her nicely, but the primitive brain is what drives her to seek a physically attractive man who is so assertive as to treat her badly; the bad boy sex appeal phenomenon.
Books written by women are proof of this. You can see this is an evolutionary preference rather than a culturally relative one because even in times when marriages were semi-arranged, inter-familial financial agreements, this literary trope still lurked visibly beneath the surface despite a strong moral incentive of the author to suppress it due to societal pressures present at the time of writing.
If you read Wuthering Heights or Pride and Prejudice, both written almost 200 years ago, you can still see the archetype of the emotionally detached and socially aloof, physically attractive man enrolled as the leading heartthrob.
It is almost as if having an unmoving rock of smouldering discontent is what draws women in, rather than an intimate and emotionally symbiotic relationship like that which is professed to be the societal ideal by men and women alike.
Take a look at media designed to encapsulate generic male fantasy and you will see the same: dominance is key to romantic fantasy. I find it to be a failure of both male and female psychology that power structures are so quintessentially innate to romantic relationships. Human biology undermines the contrived narrative of self-sacrificial agape love which pretty much all humans have collectively bought into.
I believe that, just like in males, there is a profound conflict between the female rational brain (neocortex and superego) and the primitive brain (limbic system and ego).
The rational brain is what encourages a woman to favor well-adjusted, good men who treat her nicely, but the primitive brain is what drives her to seek a physically attractive man who is so assertive as to treat her badly; the bad boy sex appeal phenomenon.
Books written by women are proof of this. You can see this is an evolutionary preference rather than a culturally relative one because even in times when marriages were semi-arranged, inter-familial financial agreements, this literary trope still lurked visibly beneath the surface despite a strong moral incentive of the author to suppress it due to societal pressures present at the time of writing.
If you read Wuthering Heights or Pride and Prejudice, both written almost 200 years ago, you can still see the archetype of the emotionally detached and socially aloof, physically attractive man enrolled as the leading heartthrob.
It is almost as if having an unmoving rock of smouldering discontent is what draws women in, rather than an intimate and emotionally symbiotic relationship like that which is professed to be the societal ideal by men and women alike.
Take a look at media designed to encapsulate generic male fantasy and you will see the same: dominance is key to romantic fantasy. I find it to be a failure of both male and female psychology that power structures are so quintessentially innate to romantic relationships. Human biology undermines the contrived narrative of self-sacrificial agape love which pretty much all humans have collectively bought into.
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