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We can all agree most looksmaxxers aren’t just random people wanting to be hotter. They’re usually incels, abused dogs, ND’s, or people with weird personalities who never really fit into society in the first place. So they cope by fixing their looks, hoping that if they get good looking, they’ll finally belong.
But the truth is, that LTN or MTN in your high school with the MTB or HTB girlfriend didn’t “self improve” or “ascend” to get her he just existed and she was attracted. These things like getting a girlfriend or having a social circle just happened with the flow of life not by grinding self improvement checklists.
Solution:
Stop treating looksmaxxing as the core of your identity. Work on becoming a functional human in society first. That means:
Get socially fluent (small talk, comfort in groups etc)
Build hobbies and skills that aren’t tied to your looks or looksmaxxing
Put yourself in spaces where people actually interact face to face (clubs, sports, volunteer work, even retail jobs)
Looksmaxxing should be decoration not your foundation. The real “ascension” is when you’re already living a decent connected life and your looks are just an extra advantage not the life raft you’re clinging to lol.
Also remember that just because a girl reject you doesnt mean your a worthless stupid sack of shit your "oneitis" view of you doesnt dictate what the entire female gender views you as you must put yourself out there you think the ltn with the mtb talked to a girl once and bagged her no this dude was putting in the hours talking to multiple girls if you want it you'll ask girls out but dont go too far out of your league
Furthermore, looksmaxxing is a good thing and It should be a constant but it should be background noise always strive to improve yourself mentally physically emotionally and to focus on your strengths and fix your weaknesses you can do this all of you can
But the truth is, that LTN or MTN in your high school with the MTB or HTB girlfriend didn’t “self improve” or “ascend” to get her he just existed and she was attracted. These things like getting a girlfriend or having a social circle just happened with the flow of life not by grinding self improvement checklists.
Solution:
Stop treating looksmaxxing as the core of your identity. Work on becoming a functional human in society first. That means:
Get socially fluent (small talk, comfort in groups etc)
Build hobbies and skills that aren’t tied to your looks or looksmaxxing
Put yourself in spaces where people actually interact face to face (clubs, sports, volunteer work, even retail jobs)
Looksmaxxing should be decoration not your foundation. The real “ascension” is when you’re already living a decent connected life and your looks are just an extra advantage not the life raft you’re clinging to lol.
Also remember that just because a girl reject you doesnt mean your a worthless stupid sack of shit your "oneitis" view of you doesnt dictate what the entire female gender views you as you must put yourself out there you think the ltn with the mtb talked to a girl once and bagged her no this dude was putting in the hours talking to multiple girls if you want it you'll ask girls out but dont go too far out of your league
Furthermore, looksmaxxing is a good thing and It should be a constant but it should be background noise always strive to improve yourself mentally physically emotionally and to focus on your strengths and fix your weaknesses you can do this all of you can
wrote this with @lowtiersubhuman 's help
