losing v card late = irreparable psychological damage?

[Deleted member 4209]

will it always feel "weird" if u lose it late even if you go on to have successful LTRs? will u always wonder what could have been, and whether you missed out?

 

[Deleted member 6538]

Tell that to Gandy

 

[BrendioEEE]

You might appreciate it more. Also I think according to the data people who experience excess amount of touchlessness and loneliness actually end up valuing, cherishing and enjoying their relationship more...IF they find a good partner that is, aka a virgin female, aka good luck.

 

[Deleted member 4209]

You might appreciate it more. Also I think according to the data people who experience excess amount of touchlessness and loneliness actually end up valuing, cherishing and enjoying their relationship more...IF they find a good partner that is, aka a virgin female, aka good luck.

aka 404 doesnt exist

 

[Gargantuan]

I'm coping with this study tbh

 

[NormieKilla]

I never understood this concept of "male virginity", you westerners are messed up

 

[Deleted member 4209]

I never understood this concept of "male virginity", you westerners are messed up

ok virgin

 

[jackthenerd]

Tell that to Gandy
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I don't think it applies to Gandy. The reason losing your v-card late is so detrimental to your mental and psychological health is because of all the other issues that are included in losing it late. There's usually a ton of baggage there.

If you're a chad, really social, popular, good looking, received a ton of validation, could've lost it at any time, but you still end up losing it late, then I don't think it necessarily did that much damage to you, but it does damange normies HARD, and they will probably never recover and be permanently damaged.

I'm coping with this study tbh

Didn't click and didn't read, but this is only for women imo. There's no benefits to losing it late as a guy.

 

[penis3]

When you're a virgin past the age of 16 then it will eventually grind you down since your mind and body are ready to fuck. When you finally lose it then its an impeccable confidence and euphoria boost that lasts weeks or even months. When I finally lost mine it gave me the energy /motivation to go and accomplish other things in life during that time period.

 

[fukmylyf]

it's more about missing out on other formative experiences IMO.
A guy who gets a ONS in high school but never has a normal social life/LTR can feel really similar to an incel.

 

[fukmylyf]

journey >>>> destination
tbhngl

 

[Mouthbreath]

I'm coping with this study tbh

yeah if you deliberately waited for "the right one" sure. But if you were genetic trash and never got any woman, watched porn every day, I highly doubt your relationships will be healthy.

 

[Deleted member 4209]

journey >>>> destination
tbhngl

i honestly fear this worst of all, that if i do slay one day i wont feel any different.

 

[Over]

You might appreciate it more. Also I think according to the data people who experience excess amount of touchlessness and loneliness actually end up valuing, cherishing and enjoying their relationship more...IF they find a good partner that is, aka a virgin female, aka good luck.

Indeed, people like me are ideal loyal partners who appreciate relationships. But I won't give it to some whore who fucked 2 or more dudes. I want likely minded 1 bodycount max girl which won't happen probably ever since I'm IOIless

 

[Deleted member 275]

I appreciated my first kiss/sex at 23yo much less because of my inceldom. I used to get way more excited about that stuff when I was a teenager.

Inceldom killed that excitement and has actually reduced my appreciation of relationships/partners.

My mindset is: 'I've lived my whole life without the slightest amount of affection. I don't expect any affection in my life and when I do get it I assume it's an exception and will dissapear soon enough.'

 

[Deleted member 4209]

I appreciated my first kiss/sex at 23yo much less because of my inceldom. I used to get way more excited about that stuff when I was a teenager.

Inceldom killed that excitement and has actually reduced my appreciation of relationships/partners.

My mindset is: 'I've lived my whole life without the slightest amount of affection. I don't expect any affection in my life and when I do get it I assume it's an exception and will dissapear soon enough.'

this hits close to home i fear this will be how i feel if/when it happens. that it's just a fluke.

 

[Deleted member 4612]

I'm coping with this study tbh

does that show any differences in gender?

 

[Gargantuan]

yeah if you deliberately waited for "the right one" sure. But if you were genetic trash and never got any woman, watched porn every day, I highly doubt your relationships will be healthy.

Could be lifefuel for me tbh, I've never tried to get it on with anyone and don't watch porn.
Once I get my life together in a few years and I've finished looksmaxxing, I will actively try to find ''the right one'', possibly through locationmaxing.

 

[Deleted member 6873]

What would be too late?

Im cant do shit in my hs since im a local meme ded srs

 

[Mouthbreath]

Could be lifefuel for me tbh, I've never tried to get it on with anyone and don't watch porn.
Once I get my life together in a few years and I've finished looksmaxxing, I will actively try to find ''the right one'', possibly through locationmaxing.

with porn I also mean the stuff that gets posted here on looksmax even the stuff in some signatures. It's all desentisizing you, hearing about slut behaviour from women, all that shit. It's over I'm telling you. I think you will always want more, I certainly would never be satisfied with just one woman. One day I would want a girl with big tits, the next day I would want a petite asian, the next day a latina etc etc. This society doesn't allow for the idea of marriage anymore. Your girl will always have the need to try herself out, get with a better man etc. You would have to grow up completely isolated from the rest of the world to be able to get into a healthy relationship at some point.

 

[CommanderCope]

Mostly cope. The mental damage comes from the person themselves feeling shit because they think they lost it late. By extension 'teen love' is cope too because you aren't scarred or lesser just cuz you didn't experience it (even though it doesn't really exist in the first place).

It's pretty much societal pressure and your own personal thoughts that make it seem like losing it 'late' is actually damaging you in some way. There is no actual damage taking place since there is no automatic age where it's right or wrong to lose it.

Gandy lost his at 21 and O'Pry at 24 and they both gigamog humanity.

 

[Deleted member 2587]

There are millions of men and women holding onto their virginity until marriage. It’s giga over if your not born in a conservative religious family or a traditional family. Most of you guys will end up wifing a used girl while someone like me will be matched with a virgin religious girl.