Mindblowing sex with a previous partner has ruined sex with my current partner. How do I fix this?

[ElySioNs]

or just over a year from about mid 2023- mid 2024 I was separated from my partner of two decades. The split was amicable and necessary as he had some things he needed to sort out and was getting a little abusive of me while doing it. I wasn’t having that around our kids. We are now back together again and all is fine.

Issue is that while separated I was seeing someone else on a casual/FWB basis. Neither of us were in a place to have a significant relationship at that point and I could see from certain things he did that he would be a terrible partner.

Thing is that the sex was next level good. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a sexual connection like that in my entire life. It was one of those weird chemistry things that almost never happens instantaneously like that. And I’ve had a lot of good sex in my life. But not like this.

I’m back with my long term partner now and really happy about it. I love him and the life we’ve built together and I never want to leave. I ended things with the other guy straight away and have had literally no contact of any kind since. I thought just completely cutting it all off would make me forget about him.

Trouble is that when we have sex, in that moment I really wish my partner was the other guy, in a way that almost brings tears to my eyes. The sex isn’t even nearly as good and sometimes I actually have to close my eyes and imagine he’s the other guy in order to cum (yes I know that’s fucked up, that’s why I’m asking for help).

Reddit, what do I do? I need to exorcise this guy and his wonder dick from my brain. I absolutely do not want a relationship with him. I want my current partner. But I definitely want to stop feeling like this every time we have sex.

 

[Vermilioncore]

“VIOLENCE — YOU DISHED IT OUT LIKE YOUR FATHER, & YOU TOOK IT LIKE YOUR MOTHER.”

Read the latest essay by Oliz Payne, “The Sick Gender”. Previously given the working title, “All Men Are Sexual Predators”, the essay aims to explain the reason for the innate sexually perverse nature of men.

Written by the author of “The Pigeon”, “People as Image”, and “Red Splendor”, “The Sick Gender” is an honest, unapologetic pummeling with zero regards for feelings or ideals.


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The Sick Gender

Throughout history, there’s always been stereotype: “men will have sex with anything” and I’m here to attest to that. The male gender is the “machine” within a factory, while the female gender is t…

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[ElySioNs]

“VIOLENCE — YOU DISHED IT OUT LIKE YOUR FATHER, & YOU TOOK IT LIKE YOUR MOTHER.”

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Read the latest essay by Oliz Payne, “The Sick Gender”. Previously given the working title, “All Men Are Sexual Predators”, the essay aims to explain the reason for the innate sexually perverse nature of men.

Written by the author of “The Pigeon”, “People as Image”, and “Red Splendor”, “The Sick Gender” is an honest, unapologetic pummeling with zero regards for feelings or ideals.


Read NOW at the link below!

The Sick Gender

Throughout history, there’s always been stereotype: “men will have sex with anything” and I’m here to attest to that. The male gender is the “machine” within a factory, while the female gender is t…

theinferiorwritings.wordpress.com

KILL ALL MEN